u/Gillugirl

Gender: Female

Age: 39

Height & Weight: 5'3" & 55kg

Location: I am from Lahore, and live in Lahore.

Marital status: Single (never married)

Education: I am currently Pursuing PhD with a focus on climate change policies.

Profession: I was a full time university lecturer for the last 10 years and currently working part-time at senior school considering that I want to  finish my PhD. I also frequently teach visiting faculty courses in universities.

Residence (Own/Rented): Owned (Family Home)

Religion: Islam, Sunni. For me, as I would like to put it, spiritual enlightenment is particularly important. Although external expression of religious practices are indisputably important but I like to believe that the goal of religion and faith is to achieve a good character, and that is the rule I use to evaluate myself and others. I try to be consistent with my prayers (not always successful), give charity and especially love to contemplate over themes within Quran Al-Hakeem, a habit I developed few years ago when I started reading it with translation and understanding.

About me: I am an honest, light-hearted, spiritually inclined, yet moderately progressive person. I like intellectually stimulated people, not particularly nerds but individuals who are aware of their surroundings and are naturally empathetic and emotionally mature. I frequently read and fancy writing. I aim to publish my spiritual observations and fictional writings in shape of a novel or stories some day  especially when I find some respite from my current academic endeavors. I am known by most people as friendly, progressive, and especially a kind person. I like to laugh and love outdoors, such as strolling in open spaces, green pastures and natural habitats.

Hobbies:  I am an unpublished fiction writer, and an avid reader. Although I do have a couple of published academic papers in academic journals but that is part of my profession and not to be considered a hobby. However, these days since I am predisposed to prioritize my PhD thesis, I am considerably less focused on fiction writings. But it is my heartfelt desire to publish at some point. I have an online writing blog as well. Moreover, I like to binge watch online series and documentaries, my favorite theme is historical adventure and fantasy. I love stories like Narnia or Harry Potter, animated movies are my go to family entertainers and crime series or murder mysteries are my guilty pleasure. I have lots of creative imagination and most of my hobbies would involved creative expression, be it reading, writing, watching or even drawing or DIY projects.

MBTI: As an INFJ, I am naturally insightful, dependable and my instinctive nature is to establish harmonious relationships through cooperation and communication.

Love language: I like words of affirmation, as communication is the key, I believe being active listening is commendable as a love language. Quality time, receiving gifts and acts of service.

Family Details: We are two siblings. I am younger sister, while I have an elder brother. My father passed away two years ago and my mother is a home-maker. We are a family of three people currently.

Requirements for a Partner: Someone who resonates with similar morals and beliefs. Not accepting of married men, however, divorced or widowed who can offer the desired companionship are welcomed.

I am alright with an age group of 34 years and onwards. Also, please do have an active rishta profile already in the process to view. 

I am looking for someone who has a strong character, someone who is emotionally mature and is already sure of finding a partner for marriage. I am accepting of overseas Pakistanis, I have travelled to Europe and USA for academic purposes over a period of time. As I mentioned in the beginning that I am looking for a companion, therefore I want to be with someone who is able to respect a partner, respect I believe is cornerstone in a relationship. Be open to  have communication as a foundational step towards building a relationship. I am a supportive and kind companion, and would like a similar character trait in my prospective partner. If you are self assured and know what you want from a marriage with a compassionate outlook, you will find me equally affectionate and giving in the relationship. I am a naturally kind person, not only towards humans, but  equally towards animals and other creatures, I like to give charity and send good vibes to the universe.

Deal Breakers: Someone who is pretentious and pompous. I am a humble person and appreciate humility with depth of character. I like people who prefer  being themselves and like  to express themselves honestly, intentionally and clearly.  Also, please be mindful of the basic characteristics that are non-negotiable such as consumption of narcotics, drugs or addictive substances, partying or interest in keeping side chics or extra marital relationships. Don’t be a cheater, or a liar, be upfront and honest even about things that seem uncomfortable. Anger issues or narcissism are part of personal development issues therefore, they can render a relationship hollow of basic respect. If you harbor these traits, then please stay away. 

Preferred Family Setup:  I seek a peaceful home life,  and want to build upon the nuclear family system.  If need be, a separate portion within a same house otherwise  separate house itself is preferred to maintain a sense of privacy.

Do You Want Children? I love kids.

What you can expect from me: I am a friendly, affectionate, honest and loyal person. I have spent last some years to build myself professionally, academically and spiritually. I seek to continue working post marriage however, I expect from my partner to lead the financial responsibility. Mutual understanding is the key inshaAllah.

Timeframe for Marriage: Within 6 months (establish compatibility within weeks), holding onto faith in Allah azzawajal and His mercy. If He wills, it will happen in the divine timing.

If you are interested, please reach out to me with a little bit of details about you (so this way I know who are you). I am not going to reply to your "Hi" only message.

Gender: Female

Age: 39

Height & Weight: 5'3" & 55kg

Location: I am from Lahore, and live in Lahore.

Marital status: Single (never married)

Education: I am currently Pursuing PhD with a focus on climate change policies.

Profession: I was a full time university lecturer for the last 10 years and currently working part-time at senior school considering that I want to  finish my PhD. I also frequently teach visiting faculty courses in universities.

Residence (Own/Rented): Owned (Family Home)

Religion: Islam, Sunni. For me, as I would like to put it, spiritual enlightenment is particularly important. Although external expression of religious practices are indisputably important but I like to believe that the goal of religion and faith is to achieve a good character, and that is the rule I use to evaluate myself and others. I try to be consistent with my prayers (not always successful), give charity and especially love to contemplate over themes within Quran Al-Hakeem, a habit I developed few years ago when I started reading it with translation and understanding.

About me: I am an honest, light-hearted, spiritually inclined, yet moderately progressive person. I like intellectually stimulated people, not particularly nerds but individuals who are aware of their surroundings and are naturally empathetic and emotionally mature. I frequently read and fancy writing. I aim to publish my spiritual observations and fictional writings in shape of a novel or stories some day  especially when I find some respite from my current academic endeavors. I am known by most people as friendly, progressive, and especially a kind person. I like to laugh and love outdoors, such as strolling in open spaces, green pastures and natural habitats.

Hobbies:  I am an unpublished fiction writer, and an avid reader. Although I do have a couple of published academic papers in academic journals but that is part of my profession and not to be considered a hobby. However, these days since I am predisposed to prioritize my PhD thesis, I am considerably less focused on fiction writings. But it is my heartfelt desire to publish at some point. I have an online writing blog as well. Moreover, I like to binge watch online series and documentaries, my favorite theme is historical adventure and fantasy. I love stories like Narnia or Harry Potter, animated movies are my go to family entertainers and crime series or murder mysteries are my guilty pleasure. I have lots of creative imagination and most of my hobbies would involved creative expression, be it reading, writing, watching or even drawing or DIY projects.

MBTI: As an INFJ, I am naturally insightful, dependable and my instinctive nature is to establish harmonious relationships through cooperation and communication.

Love language: I like words of affirmation, as communication is the key, I believe being active listening is commendable as a love language. Quality time, receiving gifts and acts of service.

Family Details: We are two siblings. I am younger sister, while I have an elder brother. My father passed away two years ago and my mother is a home-maker. We are a family of three people currently.

Requirements for a Partner: Someone who resonates with similar morals and beliefs. Not accepting of married men, however, divorced or widowed who can offer the desired companionship are welcomed.

I am alright with an age group of 34 years and onwards. Also, please do have an active rishta profile already in the process to view. 

I am looking for someone who has a strong character, someone who is emotionally mature and is already sure of finding a partner for marriage. I am accepting of overseas Pakistanis, I have travelled to Europe and USA for academic purposes over a period of time. As I mentioned in the beginning that I am looking for a companion, therefore I want to be with someone who is able to respect a partner, respect I believe is cornerstone in a relationship. Be open to  have communication as a foundational step towards building a relationship. I am a supportive and kind companion, and would like a similar character trait in my prospective partner. If you are self assured and know what you want from a marriage with a compassionate outlook, you will find me equally affectionate and giving in the relationship. I am a naturally kind person, not only towards humans, but  equally towards animals and other creatures, I like to give charity and send good vibes to the universe.

Deal Breakers: Someone who is pretentious and pompous. I am a humble person and appreciate humility with depth of character. I like people who prefer  being themselves and like  to express themselves honestly, intentionally and clearly.  Also, please be mindful of the basic characteristics that are non-negotiable such as consumption of narcotics, drugs or addictive substances, partying or interest in keeping side chics or extra marital relationships. Don’t be a cheater, or a liar, be upfront and honest even about things that seem uncomfortable. Anger issues or narcissism are part of personal development issues therefore, they can render a relationship hollow of basic respect. If you harbor these traits, then please stay away. 

Preferred Family Setup:  I seek a peaceful home life,  and want to build upon the nuclear family system.  If need be, a separate portion within a same house otherwise  separate house itself is preferred to maintain a sense of privacy.

Do You Want Children? I love kids.

What you can expect from me: I am a friendly, affectionate, honest and loyal person. I have spent last some years to build myself professionally, academically and spiritually. I seek to continue working post marriage however, I expect from my partner to lead the financial responsibility. Mutual understanding is the key inshaAllah.

Timeframe for Marriage: Within 6 months (establish compatibility within weeks), holding onto faith in Allah azzawajal and His mercy. If He wills, it will happen in the divine timing.

If you are interested, please reach out to me with a little bit of details about you (so this way I know who are you). I am not going to reply to your "Hi" only message.

Assalamu Aleykum,

Posting here for the first time, but I believe this could be the most appropriate sub to get opinion on the matter at hand. I am 39| F from Lahore. I came across someone online, who is from a different city then mine, and is working in UK for over three years. After getting to know that we share the same family name, he suggested that I consider him for marital purpose. Initially, I was reluctant because I wasn't sure if our personalities and perspective matched, I felt a hint of covert narcissism in his condescending remark right off the bat when he apparently "joked" that "bahar janay Ka shauq tu hoga apko", trying to imply that he is a catch because as he lives in UK, and somehow setting the tone of being superior in the conversation and in this equation. I didn't like it because I generally don't like unnecessary jokes which have underlying meaning to them.

Any way, he messaged me on and off with several days of no contact in-between, also we were only conversing on an online platform via DMs. However, since he suggested again that I consider him, I thought of giving him a chance, also I felt for him genuinely because both his parents passed away.

We started talking on WhatsApp a month back, and he suggested again that I consider him for marriage, and he was mostly suggesting it because according to him because we share similar family name, he was very much interested. I already mentioned to him earlier several times that I'm a career oriented woman, I am focusing on my PhD these days and trying to work on my career goals. I have also travelled to US and Europe for academic purposes. He would always say, "aap kaisey kr leti Hain" and instead of appreciating it or showing encouragement, it felt like a complaint. I ignored mostly because I wouldn't judge someone that early.

Our WhatsApp conversations started with him investigating me about my family's financial status, "he directly asked me, if I am the breadwinner of the family", I was caught off guard because I didn't expect a man asking me such a personal and probing question, I still answered all his questions. He kept yapping alot about inflation in Pakistan, and that how do I manage, who manages? He was trying to get sense of my social and financial status, while I felt uncomfortable because I expected him to talk about me or himself.

It started getting a little uncomfortable because why he is adamant on probing about my family's financial situation while he isn't interested in knowing me as a person? After few days, he would again inquire about where I live in Lahore, in which area, and if I drive?

And all this while I didn't ask him anything about his financial situation, which is what a woman should be asking a man, considering that I do want a man to be a provider, even if I do contribute, I like a provider mindset. Now I stopped talking to him, and then he contacted me again and I decided to ask him real questions, I asked him "where does he see himself in life and professionally in five years?", he started evading the question, by trying to joke, "ye bhi koi time hai aisey sawalon Ka" while he still answered the question only selectively, saying, I see myself having 2-3 children but skipped career related questions. I asked him about the nature of his job, about his visa status, but there were crickets on the other side. No response. As if I stepped in forbidden territory, which is weird because I was talking to him to consider him for marriage.

I finally sent him a voice note, stating that I have lived in Lahore all my life and in fact my ancestors are from Lahore too, If I have to live in Pakistan, I'd prefer living in Lahore, and since it's just been three years you've moved to UK and with all the economic crisis there and long PR processes for new immigrants, I wanted to ask you these questions because I don't want confusion.

Plus I don't want to consider someone because I share a family name with that person, most important thing for me is compatibility and long term goals, and even if they don't match we don't have to move ahead. As it is better to part ways then to butt heads.

He didn't like my questioning and my voice note and didn't reply to anything and just posted a whatsapp story stating "it isn't ego, but if someone disrespects me I don't look back at them again" - something on those lines.

I was really surprised, I mean, a guy approaches me to consider him for marital purpose and then ask me uncomfortably personal financial related questions, which in fact a women should be asking, but when I wanted to know practical questions and expressed my objectives, he felt like it was disrespect.

If anyone have an opinion on this, I would like to hear it. If I was wrong or if I overreacted or if I asked inappropriate questions.

I have been on and off with someone I have shared magnetically profound connection for over 2 years now. However, I ended up breaking away because of his strong Moon opposite Venus character, Moon opposite Pluto and other moon, Uranus and Neptune aspects. I am wondering if relationship with Moon opposite Venus and Moon opposite Pluto has ever worked out smoothly for anyone? He is unable to commit, highly sexual, emotionally unreliable, keeps his options open even while telling me that he loves me. I also noticed a strong association with mother and his only sister.

Good evening everyone,

I am aiming to buy an air fryer, which is both spacious, preferably double sided and good quality, however I also do not want it to be too pricey. I want suggestions which brand and from where I can buy it in Lahore? Also, if am estimated price could be mentioned alongside will be really helpful .

Regards.

Hi everyone, I was offered a PhD admission to one of the programs at WSU for fall 2026, while I was delighted at first but then immediately realized that that alongside the admission, there was no offer for funding such as graduate assistantship which are usually offered with it. I am an international student, I applied for an advertised graduate assistantship advertised by another department however, I didn't succeed at winning that either. Now I feel stuck. I have requested the graduate school to defer my admission to the next term however, I am still unsure if that will help me receive the awaited graduate assistantship. Has someone else been through such a situation?