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Just wondered what other people's periods were like post-part in if you didn't breastfeed?

Mine came back at week 9 and every single one has been different. One was so late I thought I was pregnant and then I remembered that I hadn't had sex since LO was conceived (thankyou, horrific pregnancy symptoms).

I'm asking because I feel like I'm coming on halfway through my cycle and it's starting to freak me out. There's no bleeding but the cramps and aching are making me sad. I'm on the waiting list for the implant (which is 15 weeks) 🥲 so this is it for me atm.

I was on the pill/implant for 15 years before I conceived so I don't really know what my periods were like before but the few I had while TTC were regular and honestly not that bad.

I can't honestly tell if it's my period, tight pelvic floor is playing up, if recent sex was a bit...full on...or carrying a 10kg wiggly baby is starting to take its toll on my aged body.

Has anybody else had this?

Thank god for this sub.

I've just been in the sleep training sub and had a row with someone because the 101715219192th person has said that ST helped their baby to self-soothe and I contradicted them.

Why is it so hard for people to understand that babies are cognitively, physiologically not capable of self-soothing until at least ages 3-5? Babies literally can't control their emotions. Otherwise we wouldn't have toddler tantrums, under 25s would always make sensible decisions. A 4mo can't tell the difference between a parent just popping out of the room or going to Mars. They aren't capable of going "oh yeah, I'm alone in this big dark room and I am quite scared because I can't walk or talk or run away or hide and there's nobody to protect me from the massive tiger that could hurt me but never mind I'll just go to sleep".

I'm not even really against ST if that's what works for then - but if they're doing something, it's important they understand what is actually going on.

And why the hell would it be biologically advantageous to self-soothe? THEY CAN'T COMMUNICATE ANY OTHER WAY. Until recently, historically speaking, they pretty much lived on their mother for most of their infancy.

I s2g the sleep industry has so much to answer for.

A quick lowdown:

My baby doesn't have teeth yet. I am going mad trying to figure out what's happening.

0-6mo - terrible napper. 28 minutes three times a day, until they hit 11 minutes and I decided life was too short for this shit. Religiously followed wake windows, tracked all the sleep, zero progress. This was the first time my baby thought she could kill me.

6-9.75mo - contact napped twice a day and everyone is happier, amazing night sleep (mostly), happier baby. Baby decided to give me a reprieve. Dad can't put her to bed or pick her up in the night. So the naps were fine but I was on duty 24/7.

10mo, on the dot - zero naps. Suddenly screaming for an hour just to get 28 minutes. Did an extremely random 1.5hour pram nap that I have been trying to recreate a few times since. Otherwise all contact naps are a joke. All pram naps are absurdly short. Cot naps are 15 minutes. She's sleeping 11hrs at night (presumably to make up for the crap naps). Average awake time has jumped from 10hrs to 12.

Man, is she tired in the day. But I'm fed up of the screaming.

Can I just drop to 1 nap now? Or...is it just teething 💀

My 10mo tornado baby has been fighting ALL THE NAPS. Bedtime has gone crazy late because all the naps are later because she's fighting them.

Is this a phantom nap drop or is this a legit time to try? It honestly feels like there has been this huge crazy shift in the last two days and it has completely blindsided me.

I've been capping all her naps for weeks so I'm not sure if she can even sleep long enough for a 1-nap day.

(Help a girl out. I'm scared.)

Baby is 10mo and we've had a pretty solid routine for naps and bedtime for about three months.

We contact nap twice a day, end by 15:45, bedtime around 19:45.

I haven't changed anything but suddenly bedtime is getting later and later, naps are getting shorter...and I am exhausted.

Any wisdom here? TIA!

my baby is 10months old. She is super active, crawling 24/7, barely sits still.

She cut her finger two days ago - I don't know how but it looks to be a clean cut, like a paper cut. It's on her fingertip.

I feel like I'm going mad. Every time I put a plaster (band-aid) on it, she chews it off. I don't want her to choke, so I have put a sock over the plaster. Instantly, she pulls off the sock. So I can't use a plaster any more.

The problem is now that the cut is basically always exposed. I keep cleaning it, checking it but I can't keep her off her hands, so it keeps re-opening and bleeding. It's a tiny cut; what the hell am I supposed to do?! It doesn't look infected (we've been there before!), but it's just obviously a bit fragile. It's Wednesday night and it happened on Monday morning. Two nights of socked hands, so it has had a few hours to just dry out.

It isn't bleeding constantly but it's like she just keeps knocking it. Eating is a nightmare. I don't know what to do.

LO is 10mo and will only let me (mama) put her down.

Her dad would like to share the load (I would also like a night away!) but she isn't having it. He will get aaaalll the way through the routine fine but the moment the lights go down and he's doing the swaying to sleep, she screams. She howls. She won't stop until I step in.

Any advice? TIA!

I know this is super common but has anyone successfully got their baby to accept a different parent to do bedtime?

My husband would like us to take turns but our baby only accepts me 🥲 baby is formula fed so it isn't a breastfeeding thing.

TIA

10mo the into parenthood, and I've learnt about the Possum's approach. Tbh it is largely what my mum told me to when she found out I was tracking everything in Huckleberry 🥴

Anyway. My baby sleeps pretty well most nights (we start in cot and then we cosleep from 4/5ish because I am not prepared to start my day that early).

I'm really interested in doing Possum's because life is busy and I am done being behilden to a clock but I'm kind of caught up in a few things:

- the longer baby naps, the crappier the night sleep -- so I would have to cap naps, which isn't very Possumy

- bedtime really can't be earlier than 7pm because of work and dinner, but then I don't think I could cope with a half 8 bedtime. my husband goes to bed at 9 to wake at five for work 💀 30 mins of tv with my husband is bleak...it's our only chance to chat and hang out together

How do I unlearn schedule or clock based naps?! is It just unlimited catnaps if I'm going about my day? Am I just allowing ALL THE ILLEGAL NAPS?!

I'm on the attachment side of parenting rather than sleep training, and my Instagram feed is full of reels from holistic sleep coaches telling me that it actually doesn't matter where baby falls asleep. They say there's no evidence-based reason for drowsy but awake, settling in their own space, not feeding to sleep. Their general gist is that babies just get the hang of sleep but it isn't something you can teach. I largely believe this but don't have any evidence for that. (I was fed to sleep and I am, at 32, able to go to sleep without a boob. Go me.)

At night, I rock to drowsy and pop LO down. I've done it the same way for months. Some days she connects cycles all night and sometimes she doesn't. I haven't attempted a cot nap for four months but am tempted now she's 10 months because motherhood Is a walk in the park as it is to see how we do. She Feeds to sleep in a contact nap so it's a double whammy change. I'm curious to know if I should just plonk her down and expect a solid nap.

I know I could just attempt a cot nap but I'm a coward actually curious: does it even matter? Is there actually a paper that has researched this, or are there just too many variables? TIA!