u/GloomyStay6162

I, 30m, have had this odd situation come up lately. I found this guy Benson, 27m, on tinder a few weeks back. I don’t normally get the attention of many in my area so I’ve kinda been overthinking it a lot. Im a bisexual man that lives in a fairly rural area in Virginia so dating as a bisexual black man has its struggles. I’m trying to save and move to somewhere more inclusive like Richmond or dc but I don’t make enough money.

Typically I am more geared towards dating but won’t deny a hookup if the person vibes. Benson and I vibed and hooked up and have talked a bit but randomly he can block them unblock me on Snapchat and then I just accept it. Unsure if he is maybe closeted or has a relationship or what. I should move on and ignore him but again idky I just don’t. Lookwise he definitely an 8 but personality he’s around a 2. Idk if I’m just bored or a lot of others in my area are boring, can’t hold a conversation, fairly weird/freaky or are way too kinky for me.

In the past I let another guy kinda do the same thing but we don’t talk anymore. Took a while to stop the habit of being blocked then blocking him when he would make multiple accounts to try talking again. I’ve tried bringing it up with Benson but he ignored it and we just hooked up. I also have an old Snapchat I used to kinda stalk his account but then i quickly logged out bc that felt very weird and felt like a slippery slope into something dangerous. Need advice on how to stop putting up with behavior like this. I have tons of friends but sometimes I want to talk to somebody in a more romantic or even sexual way. Like I want to hold somebody and be held. sometimes I feel like there’s a pit in me that needs to be filled. I have a full time job, tons of hobbies, go out with friends about every weekend, and volunteer a lot with my community, help my mom with her business that will soon become mine but idky I can’t stop thinking about this one guy. I feel weird about it, I haven’t talked to a friend about it in like a week bc I was hoping maybe shutting up about the situation would have him be yesterdays news but I woke up this morning thinking about it and now I need advice.

So can anybody offer some advice?

I, 30m, have had this odd situation come up lately. I found this guy Benson, 27m, on tinder a few weeks back. I don’t normally get the attention of many in my area so I’ve kinda been overthinking it a lot. Im a bisexual man that lives in a fairly rural area in Virginia so dating as a bisexual black man has its struggles. I’m trying to save and move to somewhere more inclusive like Richmond or dc but I don’t make enough money.

Typically I am more geared towards dating but won’t deny a hookup if the person vibes. Benson and I vibed and hooked up and have talked a bit but randomly he can block them unblock me on Snapchat and then I just accept it. Unsure if he is maybe closeted or has a relationship or what. I should move on and ignore him but again idky I just don’t. Lookwise he definitely an 8 but personality he’s around a 2. Idk if I’m just bored or a lot of others in my area are boring, can’t hold a conversation, fairly weird/freaky or are way too kinky for me.

In the past I let another guy kinda do the same thing but we don’t talk anymore. Took a while to stop the habit of being blocked then blocking him when he would make multiple accounts to try talking again. I’ve tried bringing it up with Benson but he ignored it and we just hooked up. I also have an old Snapchat I used to kinda stalk his account but then i quickly logged out bc that felt very weird and felt like a slippery slope into something dangerous. Need advice on how to stop putting up with behavior like this. I have tons of friends but sometimes I want to talk to somebody in a more romantic or even sexual way. Like I want to hold somebody and be held. sometimes I feel like there’s a pit in me that needs to be filled. I have a full time job, tons of hobbies, go out with friends about every weekend, and volunteer a lot with my community, help my mom with her business that will soon become mine but idky I can’t stop thinking about this one guy. I feel weird about it, I haven’t talked to a friend about it in like a week bc I was hoping maybe shutting up about the situation would have him be yesterdays news but I woke up this morning thinking about it and now I need advice.

So can anybody offer some advice?