Hi all, I’m (29F) pretty outdoorsy person and would like to know if I can join any groups in Calgary for activities. My life is typically a corporate girly life and I get weekends off , free after 5pm most days. I’m here all alone by myself, no friends and would like to explore my options. I’m a curious person and would like to learn more whether it’s going out of my comfort zone.
Thanks.
I saw a relationship post where guy asked his wife kept crying for minor things and it’s exhausting. I’m going through same thing but it’s with my BF. He cries for little things. Example if I don’t pick his call for certain reasons , he’ll call zillion times even after I text I’m busy at work in a meeting or if I’m with friends. ( I don’t have any male best friends). We talk daily on call for long hours , going on dates, doing activities together, I celebrated his b’day at a grand level this May, gifted us a out of province tour in BC , Canada because he doesn’t have visa for USA and I’m Canadian else my plan was to be in NYC. I spent almost $5k on his B’day. he happy cried that day and said no one did this for me ever and I made him feel special. We’ve (may be had) a very loving relationship and I carried his emotional burden for 1 year. I had 2 hours of sessions with him almost everyday on call (because we live in same city but at a 30 min distance by car)explaining I’m with you , reassuring I’m not going anywhere coz I love you whole heartedly coz after every minor fight/ conflict he’d say, baby please don’t leave me I beg you.’ To that I always said I’m here for long term and minor things can’t change my love for you. I was exhausted but deep down I knew he’s a good man , needs help with his emotions. I thought we can make a great family of our own because he’ll be emotionally stable with time. His family started treating him badly said you shouldn’t be with that girl as she isn’t from our culture , religion whatever , I don’t understand his parent’s mindset. I’m not benefiting from him at all, because all I want is love and peaceful relationship. He’s on work permit, has to get his shit together and I’m here with my career settled and can buy home anytime I want but I was waiting on him where he’d like to settle. Now for his job he has to move 1500miles away from me (Alberta to NWT). We doing long distance from 2 months and on calls he felt distant and ignored even though I was doing all my activities with him on FaceTime whether it’s cooking, cleaning, eating studying etc.I feel like I keep the conversation going coz If I stop talking on call there’s silence because he has nothing to talk about. I mentioned a couple of times and he got offended. A week ago I was at my gf place and he talked to her as well because she’s expecting her first baby next month and he was joking with her saying he and I will make 5 babies and he’s happy about us together, how loving and caring I’m about him and he’s proud of me. 2 days after that conversation he called and said I give up(remember no cries, firm tone this time) and breaking up. It was sudden and shocking to me. I tried to ask what happened and why all of sudden this? He said I felt disrespected and I wanted your love and I know you love me but didn’t consider my feelings when I said my family isn’t ready for us to marry and I’m trying but you won’t let me cry in front of you when drained ( I tried to stop him from crying saying I can’t hear what you saying when crying after 10 months. I let him cry always during these 10 months and I started stopping him last month only coz I feel it drains your energy and brings negativity ) he said I told you the day I stop crying it’ll be tough and now I’m done crying and I don’t want this relationship at all. I’m in tears my relationship sinking , it’s been 2 days no talks nothing. I ugly cried in front of him on vdo call and now he isn’t even responding and doesn’t care if I cry. I mean I don’t understand when you cry for little things but don’t melt when your partner cries her heart out. What kind of love did you have for me? He’s stuck that he doesn’t want this relationship anymore and been a week and I can’t make him understand. I shared pictures of ours explaining how we built memories and all (I was the one spending a lot on him and never made him feel low and disrespected in anyway that I’m doing it). He lost his job, I was there for 5 months with him. His frnds said she’s the one coz she’s there when you’ve nothing . Now he has job and I see him behaving like this. I wanted to give benefit of doubt saying it’s long distance but he clearly said No, it’s about him not distance, he’s not happy and can’t be happy so let’s put a break on it. I mean you decided and didn’t even care to have a conversation about it with me before making the decision and when I’m asking let’s work it out, I said SORRY even though I didn’t do anything to hurt him. In fact helped him emotionally financially , in every way possible but can’t understand this pattern of his nature and his personality completely switched from a crying lover boy who yearned for his gf and now don’t even wanna talk to her all in 3 days?? I cared for him and now this silence is killing me. Haven’t been eating and after July 27th I haven’t done anything but cry and trying to sleep but no. I mean I can’t understand where I went wrong? Why is he doing this ? He said don’t think it’s easy for me I’m hurt too but I can’t continue, I mean what do you mean by that? I can’t hurt my parents and when I said didn’t you know at the beginning of this?? Why’d you continue anything with me , why promise me I’ll be standing like a wall against family and will work on our relationship and don’t worry you’re my wife and saved my number as wife too? Now he’s saying it’s not even family it’s his decision and he can’t hurt family when he himself not happy from this relationship. I feel betrayed and used after putting all my efforts , emotions and investing time into this. I feel like there’s no way I can recover from this. I called him , he said don’t call. Didn’t talk been 2 days, this afternoon I couldn’t resist called again but then disconnected. He called back, I couldn’t attend. But now I’m feeling lost like what would I talk about? Already tried everything to make him understand but he isn’t ready to listen anything anymore. What should I do? I told my family I’m dating and we getting married in November, now how I tell them it’s all over coz he decided this not HAPPY all that. 3 weeks ago he said babe I’m sorry , I’m draining your energy and trouble you feels like my personality matches a Nar\\\*\\\*\\\*t and I said you know it means that can be worked on. Now this ? Distant , cold ?
Anyway thanks for reading my rant about my relationship that I felt is loving and have a long life. My heart still in denial that it’s just a phase or fight and will be resolved. We supposed to be celebrating our first anniversary tomorrow on the 8th Aug but here I’m all alone.
What should I do to save this relationship, is there any hope?
I’m crying when typing this so there might be typo mistakes 🥺
I saw a relationship post where guy asked his wife kept crying for minor things and it’s exhausting. I’m going through same thing but it’s with my BF. He cries for little things. Example if I don’t pick his call for certain reasons , he’ll call zillion times even after I text I’m busy at work in a meeting or if I’m with friends. ( I don’t have any male best friends). We talk daily on call for long hours , going on dates, doing activities together, I celebrated his b’day at a grand level this May, gifted us a out of province tour in BC , Canada because he doesn’t have visa for USA and I’m Canadian else my plan was to be in NYC. I spent almost $5k on his B’day. he happy cried that day and said no one did this for me ever and I made him feel special. We’ve (may be had) a very loving relationship and I carried his emotional burden for 1 year. I had 2 hours of sessions with him almost everyday on call (because we live in same city but at a 30 min distance by car)explaining I’m with you , reassuring I’m not going anywhere coz I love you whole heartedly coz after every minor fight/ conflict he’d say, baby please don’t leave me I beg you.’ To that I always said I’m here for long term and minor things can’t change my love for you. I was exhausted but deep down I knew he’s a good man , needs help with his emotions. I thought we can make a great family of our own because he’ll be emotionally stable with time. His family started treating him badly said you shouldn’t be with that girl as she isn’t from our culture , religion whatever , I don’t understand his parent’s mindset. I’m not benefiting from him at all, because all I want is love and peaceful relationship. He’s on work permit, has to get his shit together and I’m here with my career settled and can buy home anytime I want but I was waiting on him where he’d like to settle. Now for his job he has to move 1500miles away from me (Alberta to NWT). We doing long distance from 2 months and on calls he felt distant and ignored even though I was doing all my activities with him on FaceTime whether it’s cooking, cleaning, eating studying etc.I feel like I keep the conversation going coz If I stop talking on call there’s silence because he has nothing to talk about. I mentioned a couple of times and he got offended. A week ago I was at my gf place and he talked to her as well because she’s expecting her first baby next month and he was joking with her saying he and I will make 5 babies and he’s happy about us together, how loving and caring I’m about him and he’s proud of me. 2 days after that conversation he called and said I give up(remember no cries, firm tone this time) and breaking up. It was sudden and shocking to me. I tried to ask what happened and why all of sudden this? He said I felt disrespected and I wanted your love and I know you love me but didn’t consider my feelings when I said my family isn’t ready for us to marry and I’m trying but you won’t let me cry in front of you when drained ( I tried to stop him from crying saying I can’t hear what you saying when crying after 10 months. I let him cry always during these 10 months and I started stopping him last month only coz I feel it drains your energy and brings negativity ) he said I told you the day I stop crying it’ll be tough and now I’m done crying and I don’t want this relationship at all. I’m in tears my relationship sinking , it’s been 2 days no talks nothing. I ugly cried in front of him on vdo call and now he isn’t even responding and doesn’t care if I cry. I mean I don’t understand when you cry for little things but don’t melt when your partner cries her heart out. What kind of love did you have for me? He’s stuck that he doesn’t want this relationship anymore and been a week and I can’t make him understand. I shared pictures of ours explaining how we built memories and all (I was the one spending a lot on him and never made him feel low and disrespected in anyway that I’m doing it). He lost his job, I was there for 5 months with him. His frnds said she’s the one coz she’s there when you’ve nothing . Now he has job and I see him behaving like this. I wanted to give benefit of doubt saying it’s long distance but he clearly said No, it’s about him not distance, he’s not happy and can’t be happy so let’s put a break on it. I mean you decided and didn’t even care to have a conversation about it with me before making the decision and when I’m asking let’s work it out, I said SORRY even though I didn’t do anything to hurt him. In fact helped him emotionally financially , in every way possible but can’t understand this pattern of his nature and his personality completely switched from a crying lover boy who yearned for his gf and now don’t even wanna talk to her all in 3 days?? I cared for him and now this silence is killing me. Haven’t been eating and after July 27th I haven’t done anything but cry and trying to sleep but no. I mean I can’t understand where I went wrong? Why is he doing this ? He said don’t think it’s easy for me I’m hurt too but I can’t continue, I mean what do you mean by that? I can’t hurt my parents and when I said didn’t you know at the beginning of this?? Why’d you continue anything with me , why promise me I’ll be standing like a wall against family and will work on our relationship and don’t worry you’re my wife and saved my number as wife too? Now he’s saying it’s not even family it’s his decision and he can’t hurt family when he himself not happy from this relationship. I feel betrayed and used after putting all my efforts , emotions and investing time into this. I feel like there’s no way I can recover from this. I called him , he said don’t call. Didn’t talk been 2 days, this afternoon I couldn’t resist called again but then disconnected. He called back, I couldn’t attend. But now I’m feeling lost like what would I talk about? Already tried everything to make him understand but he isn’t ready to listen anything anymore. What should I do? I told my family I’m dating and we getting married in November, now how I tell them it’s all over coz he decided this not HAPPY all that. 3 weeks ago he said babe I’m sorry , I’m draining your energy and trouble you feels like my personality matches a Nar\\\*\\\*\\\*t and I said you know it means that can be worked on. Now this ? Distant , cold ?
Anyway thanks for reading my rant about my relationship that I felt is loving and have a long life. My heart still in denial that it’s just a phase or fight and will be resolved. We supposed to be celebrating our first anniversary tomorrow on the 8th Aug but here I’m all alone.
What should I do to save this relationship, is there any hope?
I’m crying when typing this so there might be typo mistakes 🥺
TLDR: I saw a relationship post where guy asked his wife kept crying for minor things and it’s exhausting. I’m a female 31 going through same thing but it’s with my boyfriend who is 31 male. He cries for little things. Example if I don’t pick his call for certain reasons , he’ll call zillion times even after I text I’m busy at work in a meeting or if I’m with friends. ( I don’t have any male best friends). We talk daily on call for long hours , going on dates, doing activities together, I celebrated his b’day at a grand level this May, gifted us a out of province tour in BC , Canada because he doesn’t have visa for USA and I’m Canadian else my plan was to be in NYC. I spent almost $5k on his B’day. he happy cried that day and said no one did this for me ever and I made him feel special. We’ve (may be had) a very loving relationship and I carried his emotional burden for 1 year. I had 2 hours of sessions with him almost everyday on call (because we live in same city but at a 30 min distance by car)explaining I’m with you , reassuring I’m not going anywhere coz I love you whole heartedly coz after every minor fight/ conflict he’d say, baby please don’t leave me I beg you.’ To that I always said I’m here for long term and minor things can’t change my love for you. I was exhausted but deep down I knew he’s a good man , needs help with his emotions. I thought we can make a great family of our own because he’ll be emotionally stable with time. His family started treating him badly said you shouldn’t be with that girl as she isn’t from our culture , religion whatever , I don’t understand his parent’s mindset. I’m not benefiting from him at all, because all I want is love and peaceful relationship. He’s on work permit, has to get his shit together and I’m here with my career settled and can buy home anytime I want but I was waiting on him where he’d like to settle. Now for his job he has to move 1500miles away from me (Alberta to NWT). We doing long distance from 2 months and on calls he felt distant and ignored even though I was doing all my activities with him on FaceTime whether it’s cooking, cleaning, eating studying etc.I feel like I keep the conversation going coz If I stop talking on call there’s silence because he has nothing to talk about. I mentioned a couple of times and he got offended. A week ago I was at my gf place and he talked to her as well because she’s expecting her first baby next month and he was joking with her saying he and I will make 5 babies and he’s happy about us together, how loving and caring I’m about him and he’s proud of me. 2 days after that conversation he called and said I give up(remember no cries, firm tone this time). It was sudden and shocking to me. I tried to ask what happened and why all of sudden this? He said I felt disrespected and I wanted your love and I know you love me but didn’t consider my feelings when I said my family isn’t ready for us to marry and I’m trying but you won’t let me cry in front of you when drained ( I tried to stop him from crying saying I can’t hear what you saying when crying after 10 months. I let him cry always during these 10 months and I started stopping him last month only coz I feel it drains your energy and brings negativity ) he said I told you the day I stop crying it’ll be tough and now I’m done crying and I don’t want this relationship at all. I’m in tears my relationship sinking , it’s been 2 days no talks nothing. I ugly cried in front of him on vdo call and now he isn’t even responding and doesn’t care if I cry. I mean I don’t understand when you cry for little things but don’t melt when your partner cries her heart out. What kind of love did you have for me? He’s stuck that he doesn’t want this relationship anymore and been a week and I can’t make him understand. I shared pictures of ours explaining how we built memories and all (I was the one spending a lot on him and never made him feel low and disrespected in anyway that I’m doing it). He lost his job, I was there for 5 months with him. His frnds said she’s the one coz she’s there when you’ve nothing . Now he has job and I see him behaving like this. I wanted to give benefit of doubt saying it’s long distance but he clearly said No, it’s about him not distance, he’s not happy and can’t be happy so let’s put a break on it. I mean you decided and didn’t even care to have a conversation about it with me before making the decision and when I’m asking let’s work it out, I said SORRY even though I didn’t do anything to hurt him. In fact helped him emotionally financially , in every way possible but can’t understand this pattern of his nature and his personality completely switched from a crying lover boy who yearned for his gf and now don’t even wanna talk to her all in 3 days?? I cared for him and now this silence is killing me. Haven’t been eating and after July 27th I haven’t done anything but cry and trying to sleep but no. I mean I can’t understand where I went wrong? Why is he doing this ? He said don’t think it’s easy for me I’m hurt too but I can’t continue, I mean what do you mean by that? I can’t hurt my parents and when I said didn’t you know at the beginning of this?? Why’d you continue anything with me , why promise me I’ll be standing like a wall against family and will work on our relationship and don’t worry you’re my wife and saved my number as wife too? Now he’s saying it’s not even family it’s his decision and he can’t hurt family when he himself not happy from this relationship. I feel betrayed and used after putting all my efforts , emotions and investing time into this. I feel like there’s no way I can recover from this. I called him , he said don’t call. Didn’t talk been 2 days, this afternoon I couldn’t resist called again but then disconnected. He called back, I couldn’t attend. But now I’m feeling lost like what would I talk about? Already tried everything to make him understand but he isn’t ready to listen anything anymore. What should I do? I told my family I’m dating and we getting married in November, now how I tell them it’s all over coz he decided this not HAPPY all that. 3 weeks ago he said babe I’m sorry , I’m draining your energy and trouble you feels like my personality matches a Nar\*\*\*t and I said you know it means that can be worked on. Now this ? Distant , cold ?
Anyway thanks for reading my rant about my relationship that I felt is loving and have a long life. My heart still in denial that it’s just a phase or fight and will be resolved. We supposed to be celebrating our first anniversary tomorrow on the 8th Aug but here I’m all alone.
What should I do to save this relationship, is there any hope?
I’m crying when typing this so there might be typo mistakes 🥺
I’m trying to login my Juniper account with all access pass , I did the training and would like to book exam but nothing is happening . So I went HPE sign up and it says I already have account . Now signed in and whole platform is changed. Old links in my email where I did the training for 2 courses , they not even opening at all. Am I missing something? Been a month didn’t get to see the portal because of onsite deployment I’m being part of. Any ideas?? Yeah I can’t see training history page with link in email. Kept loading.
I booked ticket for my Mom from Delhi to Toronto direct flight with Air India and its flight AI 187. Should I keep my calm or just cancel the ticket. The thing is it’s non-refundable ticket because I booked within a week and this was the best option I could get. Anyone travelled before same flight, can you please tell how was your experience with this flight ?
TIA!!
So here’s the story- please bear with me.
I let this girl to share one room at my home a few months ago, found my post through Kijiji, seemed nice (I admit I’m bad at observing people and their intentions). On day 7 after she moved in, she asked me if I can drop her to work that is 5mins away (she doesn’t have car, I do) . Me being nice I said fine. I didn’t know why she asked me but then her bf was waiting for her at the main door. I didn’t know who he was and shouted out loud come sit in my car, to that she’s like” No, I’m going with her.” I was shocked and said hold on , who is he and what is he doing at my driveway? He shouted again , you gonna sit in the car or should I break my car make a scene here ? He had a baseball bat in his hand. And boom he started banging it on his car. I almost passed out seeing what’s happening coz I’ve never been in such situations. I said him, idk who you’re but please leave my property. He said you don’t know who you rented the place to, she is married and have husband (he doesn’t live in Canada), and I’m her bf and I don’t know many other guys she’s messing with. I said I don’t want no stories but leave my property. She went with him. To do a wellness check on her , I went to her work without letting her know and guess what ?? I was freaking out and she was chilling with her friends as if nothing happened. When she came back home I asked her to pack bags and leave coz I’m not used to any violence whether it’s verbal or physical. She started crying and said give her a week , I agreed. After 3 days of the incident I found out she reported him to police and got no contact order. Both on temporary status here , bf status expired this month. Now fast forward to 3 months( I know I was a fool trusting her croc tears) , she’s not keeping the shared spaces clean, not cleaning up after in kitchen and washroom. I asked her a couple of days back to take out trash and put the new bags in (mind you I buy all the cleaning stuff). She messaged me when I was at work I’m not doing anything do whatever you want and I feel suffocated when you tell me to take out trash and clean kitchen after use. I said leave my place and be free. Now she’s saying I’ll call police on you coz you not giving me 30days to leave. Yesterday she said I’ll leave at the end of this month and I was happy. Today I found out when I was at work she brought a guy home(not bf, another man) . I found used condoms packets on washroom floor the moment I came home today . I panicked thinking I got myself into this hell hole by letting her stay. I called she didn’t pick up. I messaged her pick up my call coz I found out what you do when I’m not home. ( I clearly told her no male visitors inside home). She said I’m gonna call Police and say you threatening me to leave. Now this evening she messaged I’ll leave tonight give my deposit back. I know she won’t .
Idk what to do now. I let her in showing kindness and she’s doing this to me. I thought she’s on temporary status and works at Tims so I was charging her next to nothing not even utilities. I posted ad coz my parents were away for few months in States which they extended later.
I feel betrayed and now scared she can do anything with so many boys she has in her hands. She’s full of ill thoughts.
Side note: she is a content created for clean beauty and makeup and doesn’t even care to flush toilet , that level of clean.
What should I do now. Please help and advice. I didn’t tell my parents coz my Mom didn’t trust her since day 1 and I was like Mom it’ll be all good she works nearby and this place is good for her coz it’s 10 mins away by walk. I wish I’ve listened to my Mom then.
For Citizenship application processing I’ve been asked for fingerprints. Should I just stop by any police station in Calgary or any particular one I should go to ? I see HQ in Westwinds NE, can I just go walk in ? Shows $75 for this service on CPS website. Help me here please. Thanks