u/Golden-lillies21

It seems like many guys want to be in situationships and FWB. It seems like many guys don't want a committed relationship or they pretend that they do knowing deep down inside that they are not capable of giving that to you but they still entertain it anyway instead of being honest. I have more respect for the guys Who tell me up front So this way I can save myself The pain and the heartache But the Who Let It Go further And string me along The way and even get into relationship with me knowing that that's not what they really want that's just so messed up. It makes me feel like most guys think it's wrong to ask for a long-term relationship. I don't even know who's telling the truth or who isn't because now I have a new fear that somebody will Express that they want a serious long-term relationship with me and then I find out that they're lying and leading me on knowing that I was up front about it from day one when they should have been up front as well. Why do we need to play these games why can we all just be honest with each other? Why do people have to use each other and why not just be upfront and even if you don't get as many dates because of it at least you're not wasting a woman's time and hurting another woman. At least you give her the decision right then and there if she wants to go through with it still or just disconnect. Why do relationships have to be started on deceit? Why say you're looking for a relationship if you're going to just use somebody as a rebound? When you lie and when you use people as rebounds not only do you destroy their trust in you but it destroys how they view other people and especially the trust within themselves because they truly thought they found somebody that wanted them romantically but the whole time their whole so called relationship which is based on lies, betrayal and using them as a rebound! Then they have the audacity to get mad when you reject having anything to do with them even as a friend! They don't think how this affects other people!

I know it's just a dream but it felt very real. I know I don't want him back because the trust is broken. My biggest fear is actually him coming back and destroying my progress that I made. When I think of him I think of the tarot card with the tower because the minute I found out that he was not who I thought he was and what he was really doing behind closed doors it was definitely a tower moment! It was a tower moment because not only was I blindsided by him but I knew that I could never trust him again......So I ended up blocking him on everything.

I've been through a bunch of therapist and they either weren't the right fit or they ended up ghosting me. I just feel more obligated to go rather than wanting to go I mean isn't there some self-help books that I can do to help myself instead of therapy. I hate that I constantly have to start all over talking to a therapist about my traumas. My recent one Told me that if I had more boundaries I wouldn't have gotten SA a few weeks ago and that what happened wasn't SA because I froze due to me being afraid. I felt like she was victim blaming me and even before that I kind of felt like me and her were at odds. I know I have to keep her because I don't have anyone else but I might even want to quit therapy for good because I feel like it never works for me and honestly I feel like chat GPT is more helpful than therapy. I mean I guess it works for some people but it doesn't work for everyone. Maybe there might be some exercises or self-help books that I can do that could help me instead. I'm just in therapy because people tell me I constantly need therapy and I never wanted to go and I even found that going to support groups also helped me a lot more too. Plus my therapist is only available on Thursdays and is such a hassle to change the day because she's constantly busy.

It was really frustrating me and I felt like he just expected me to just turn off my feelings for him and just be there for him as a friend but each time I tried it seems like the feelings would just come back for him and I cannot act on it because he just wants me to be just a friend. So yesterday I ended our communication with him telling him these things because I felt like it was holding me back especially if he would never reciprocate my feelings and as long as I stayed in contact with him I would never be able to move on heal and find possibly a new relationship down the road because I would still be too stuck on him. I just wanted him to know that and I just felt like it was closure for me and I feel like cutting contact is the only way for me to go because if I didn't it would only hurt me. I can't control the fact that I see him as something more than a friend and I respect that is all that he's going to see me as but I need him to respect that I can't see him as just a friend and he needs to respect that as well. At first he would come back hot and then he will get inconsistent cancel plans and postpone plans and when he did make plans with me it was just very low effort. He would move fast but then suddenly he would be inconsistent. I'm just so glad we never had sex that would have been a huge mistake! I'm at a point in my life where I just cannot accept this type of behavior anymore! He would treat me as more than a friend but also not a girlfriend and I would feel like this romantic / sexual tension every time we talk and it was just confusing and frustrating so I decided to walk away for good.

Besides a Leo, virgo amd an Aries, I never been in anything so draining besides this! He kept postponing the date twice until the next thing you knew it was already 7:00 p.m. and I told him earlier that I didn't want to go out when it's night time. I noticed that this kept happening more than once and he never even said sorry or rescheduled! So I ended up telling him that I don't feel like we would work out and now I feel a lot lighter. The minute I feel like somebody is causing a lot of stress in my life and I have to talk about it to them more than once or even twice I'm out the door!

I am a Pisces woman and I never really knew how a Pisces man is like. Are they just as emotional as Pisces women? How did they differ from Pisces women?

For me it was someone who broke my trust in many ways that I just could not recover from it. At first I was kind of fighting the breakup but I wasn't really fighting for us to get back together but I was really fighting for things to just go back what they were even though things would never go back to the way they were ever again and I was deep down inside and denial but now I came to acceptance and I know deep down inside that sends I cannot trust this person I would never want to talk to this person again! It got me to the point where I'm not even looking to date anytime soon and wanting to focus on other things. I heck I don't even know if I will date ever again period! I swear it was so bad for me that it felt like I was in the Jerry Springer Show except without all the physical fighting but with all that was revealed to me and it just kept piling up until I was in deep despair! I'm better than what I was but I don't feel like I will ever be the same again and so with that being said it's very easy to go no contact with this person!

You think that the person is into you and that they really like you a lot. They even go as far as to call you their boyfriend or their girlfriend and they even go exclusive with you. Everything is going good and you guys are constantly seeing each other and you actually think you're building something with this person! But boom suddenly they break up with you and tell you that they're not ready for a relationship and that they're not over their EX! You tell them from the very beginning that you want a committed relationship and they look at you straight in the eyes and tell you the same thing but then after the breakup the whole time they never really meant anything they said and you wonder what else they've been lying about? Your world come Crashing Down and you feel like your love life is cursed and all that you keep attracting is people that are still not over their EX. You start to realize that maybe people just never Choose You and maybe you're just destained to be alone. It's like all you want is just love but then some people you can see the red flags right away but then you don't see it until the wool is pulled out of your eyes when they break it off with you and tell you that they still love their EX and the next thing you know you just dealt with a wolf in sheep's clothing! You don't even know if you could even trust anybody else to date again. Has this ever happened to you before?

I have been struggling to eat and it's like my stomach feels like I ate a bunch of food when I didn't and not only that the cramps just feel very bad and a lot of times it seems to affect my stomach a lot and I start getting IBS symptoms. I'm getting a laparoscopy at the end of July if everything works out with my insurance and my blood test and they're going to see if I have endometriosis. I can't be the only one who loses their appetite when they start PMSing and also I know I heard many things about people with endometriosis gaining a bunch of weight but has anyone on here actually lost a lot of unintentional weight because of it?