u/Good_soup99

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Thank you to everyone who commented so far. I was not expecting this to really get any traction, but alas I am very happy to know im not overreacting and if anything, under reacting. A lot of my older colleagues have told me im overreacting about this and told me it’s “just how working in an office is” and that im “too young and little inexperienced when it comes to working in an office space” to understand that….. k. For those commenting about going to HR, I have. They’ve done, nothing. Management has done, nothing. I’ve been told that there’s lack of evidence of her doing this because there’s no one else around to witness it, and the cameras in our building do not show down the hallway that leads to the bathroom area. HR told me there’s my side, her side, and in the middle of all of it there is the truth. I want to also add, I do not abuse the bathroom and my time. I am gone 5-10mins in the bathroom. 15mins tops. HR proposed us sitting in a room and arguing out our differences. I declined as I personally do not think this is an appropriate way to handle conflict in a work space. I’ve been through something at a previous job where HR had me and a couple other coworkers “argue the differences out” and it resulted in everyone quitting and one person being fired. Thank you again to everyone for your comments. I’m not really sure what else to do. I can’t afford to look for a new job at the moment so im in a weird limbo space.

As the title states. My coworker is not the brightest bulb in the box, and definitely lacks in a lot of areas at work that other people have to pick up the pieces and correct. For whatever reason or another, or management has a soft spot for her and im convinced she could set the building on fire, and would not get in trouble at all. Me and this coworker, do not get along. We’re both female and im about 5yrs older than her. We don’t get along and she’s made my life at work very insufferable. She’s a bully flat out. She has a very bad habit of coming and bothering me whenever someone is looking for me or she needs something, when im in the bathroom. She comes in, calls my name, tells me im needed and I usually say “okay I’ll be out in a few minutes”. Instead of being a normal person and saying okay and leaving, she repeats to me that im needed and proceeds to wait. Multiple times she’s come and knocked on the stall door. I’ve had several conversations with her and management that this is disrespectful and that repeatedly telling me im needed, and knocking on the stall door is not going to make me finish up any faster as I like everyone else, can’t control our bodies in the bathroom. It’s gotten to the point that I snapped at her today and frankly, I don’t care. She called me a bitch oh well. I was gone for 10mins taking a number 2, and told her I would be out in a few minutes. She did the same song and dance, repeated to me that I was needed and I needed to hurry up. When I was finished I exited the stall to find her standing with her arms crossed. I told her what she was doing was invasive and ignorant and her doing this, is not going to make me shit any faster and that I’ve asked her not to do this several times. She stormed off, I came to the front to help who needed help and before I left she said I didn’t need to be such a bitch and she’s just doing her job. I turned and said I’ve asked you several times not to do what you did five minutes ago and you still choose to come and hunt me down you have my number you can text me but you choose to come to the bathroom and repeat yourself and wait for me with your arms crossed like im doing something wrong im allowed to take ten minutes to shit in peace and you can’t even give me that. There’s no reason to rush someone out of the bathroom unless the building is on fire. Why and when did this become normalized in life? AIO?

February Pisces (f) with a July Cancer (m). We gonna make it out of the woods? 😂😭😅

When people talk about Anne Boleyn and Jane Seymour, people call them skanks and home wreckers and an array of other things. The point I always try to point out, is people need to take a step back and not think in the mindset of a woman in the 21st century…. In the 21st century a woman can say no to a relationship or a man’s advances and carry on. But in the ripe age of the 16th century…. Are you really going to deny the king who has the power to not only get rid of you and your family in any means fit, but definitely has the power to ruin yours and your families lives? So no, I do not blame Anne or Jane for accepting the kings advances. Do I agree with it? In current times hell no, but that’s not what we’re talking about. All of Henry’s wives were victims of his abuse and narcissistic tendencies. I’m not asking for hate or arguments. This is simply my perspective. I loved all of his wives for different reasons, and my heart breaks for all of them for different reasons.

I 25f ghosted a friend of mine 45m who I’ve known since I was 13yrs old. I might be the AH here but please hear me out. When I was 13, I met someone on a group page for alternative teenagers (I forget the name) and was looking to make friends. This person didn’t have a profile picture or age but was very nice. I want to add nothing sexual ever happened in the years I’ve known this person. I never met this person in person they live across my country. I’ve been having a tough time the last couple years and this person would constantly make me feel worse for going through my mental health struggles. They have never had a job and seemingly have a lot of opinions on what people should do when it comes to their job, where they work, how they work, etc. One day I had enough of it and just stopped talking to them. I had some major life changes good and bad and ofc this person had a lot to say (all negative) so I just stopped talking to them. I also had a revelation, the friendship at face value is kind of weird. If I met this person now as an adult and befriended them, different story. For example if I found out my teenage step daughter was talking to someone 20+ years older than them, I’d be a little weirded out. Thanks for coming to my ted talk.