u/GooseberryGenius

You want to reach into your screen and hug and squeeze Hannah and tell her everything is OK and she's perfect. That scene with her mum on the phone was incredible! I am wiping tears as I type. The actress is so talented. And the Brooke Shields resemblance is uncanny...need to see them as a mother daughter duo in something soon.

Also gosh I wish I could Thanos snap my fingers and wipe all Delaney's off the Earth's surface. But we can only hope they get got.

So people understand that they shouldn't hit their spouse and it's abuse. But they will hit a child and justify it as "discipline"? Both are very wrong, but the one people justify isn't the one involving two adults but involving a defenceless child who literally can't fight back or leave. And the child never chose this relationship or to be there at all (not victim blaming the spouse that's abused, I'm just highlighting the agency gap).

The law recognises the idea of spousal support and keeping someone in the life to which they have become accustomed, but your rich parents can kick you out at 18 legally and you have no rights.

This makes no sense. Less than no sense. Why is some person you met and got involved with more important than someone you literally made and brought into this world? Why the double standards??

So you remember the "I'm not saying she deserved it video" way back in 2023 that people said was Selena being bullied by Hailey? It NEVER made any sense and there was never any connection.

This woman is just beyond insecure it's pathetic (but we already knew that). Weight gain happens over time, and can happen to anyone for any reason. She had obviously been gaining the weight for a while, and it's not like she was not seen in public in all that time. I don't know why she would assume that video was about her because she felt insecure about her body that day.

Now, if something specific and instant happened right before the video was posted - say, for example, Selena got hit by a bus or something - then yeah I'd say it's probably about her/even if it wasn't, I'd say it would make sense to think it was about her, because that's a specific incident. Do you see what I'm saying here?

I have been seeing a lot of people talking about the influencer who decided to terminate her pregnancy after she found out the baby would be born with down syndrome. They are mostly in support, talking about how financially and emotionally draining it would be to raise such a child and, as an afterthought, some point to how difficult the child's life would be.

It's been so irritating to see all the comments, because they say this then finish off with "may God give us healthy normal children". Oh my goodness. There is unforeseeable trauma, OCD, ADHD, depression, anxiety, cancer and myriad other issues that can't be seen before a child is born. And even if a person is born a perfect human, the world still gives room for ample struggle. Heartbreak, abuse, freak accidents etc.

The way they don't see the problem with them casually choosing to bring children into this world to suffer but they absolutely agree with aborting a fetus with down syndrome shows how they always fall short of basic common sense. Blinded by ableism, enriched by self-centeredness. And in the end it's mainly about them and how hard it would be for THEM to raise the child.

So some background. I didn’t know Hailey just because of Justin. I knew who Hailey Baldwin was way back in 2014/15 because I used to read those teeny mags like J-14 and tiger beat. I always thought she was cool and had a magnetic aura. She was also fitness inspo for me because we have a similar body shape and structure if that makes sense.

At the same time, I was a Bieber fan and also watched Wizards. So I was never coming at any of this from a background of disliking any of them. When Hailey married Justin I thought she looked beautiful and wished them well the way you’d casually have goodwill for a celebrity couple. With the drama happening with Selena, at that time I didn’t personally spend too much time in comment sections so I wasn’t aware of all the hate Hailey was facing, but I heard lose you to love me and got the gist of the situation. I followed both women.

At some point I started to really like Selena. She does have great PR. She seemed nice and chill. Like an actual kind person. Again this was all sort of background to me and I hadn’t gone too deep. I felt bad for her because of her lupus and kidney transplant, and tbh I never thought she could sing but I figured whatever, she’s nice. Then I found out how she got the kidney, and I saw some of her past bullying of women. For whatever reason the Barbara Palvin one really irritated me. Then I put that to the side and didn’t dislike her per se, but I stopped short of becoming a fan because of the red flags. I ignored her for a while until the 2023 incident. Then I realised this individual is fucking unhinged. That whole time I worried about Hailey’s mental health. Frankly Selena is an abuser. And my girls at exposingSMG did the good work of exposing her, but I remember back then people around me thought I was nuts for being team Hailey.

In conclusion, Selena has great fucking PR. It’s so good that I was almost a fan, which is inconceivable to me now.

So I was thinking about the thing that happened where Hailey said she doesn’t compare herself to brands she’s not inspired by. She obviously meant that very literally - why would she compare her brand to those so different from hers that she doesn’t directly draw inspiration from them?

Then pathetic Selena went on her IG story to post that BS she did (“it’s just about relevance not intelligence” - cringe asf). And of course said “all brands inspire me”, stupidly not realising that if all brands inspire you, then none do. I swear she’s such a child.

That would’ve been a great opportunity to either say nothing (best case) or just post on her story for her rabid fans: “can you guys calm down lol, we are both building different brands and there’s no drama! Room for everyone.” That would’ve given her the martyr thing she was craving in a less snarky way. Hell, it would’ve even done great PR for her and her brainless fans would attack Hailey regardless so win win for Sel. But nah she’s a preteen in the way she acts and always chooses the biggest ass option.

Yes, maybe I shouldn’t fantasise about reaching the top of the exploitative pile that is capitalism, sure. But it’s going nowhere for now and it harms women anyway, so I may as well have a little fun fantasy moment.

1 - I would pay for every woman I could possibly afford to pay for to take her abuser to court with the best possible lawyers, civil and criminal.

2 - I would pay for every harmed woman’s therapy/psychiatric support I could afford to. I would also cover free massages and spa treatments.

3 - I would pay tuition for as many women and girls as I could afford to.

4 - I would do whatever I could with the power the money brings to free girls (and girls turned women) in child marriages across the world and provide them with money and help to be able to be on their own and thrive.

5 - I would fund the development of women only communities with full infrastructure.

6 - I would put a fuckton of money into research on women’s health and healthcare approaches.

7 - I would give women with cats free veterinary care because why the hell not. I love cat ladies.

Coming back down to earth, I know these are all complex and perhaps a few would be tough to do even with Musk level wealth (although I feel most seem possible enough, but maybe some of it is wishful thinking). Felt nice to dream though.

What would you do?

I can be impulsive sometimes too and it's hard to know when something is ok to react to right away or when you should instead wait a few hours or a day to see how you feel before responding. I deal with this on my own because I'm not a billionaire.

If I were, I would literally hire a therapist to also serve as someone who I would text a situation and have them tell me whether to respond or not. Then, if self control is that bad, have a live-in phone seizer, who would collect my phone on the therapist's say so. Because the crash out to promotion to social media break pipeline with her has happened way too often for her not to have thought of this, with all the wealth she has.

So do y'all remember in 2023 when Selena found a 2017 clip of Hailey making a face on a comedy show about Taylor Swift's music/saying Beyonce was better or something. Again, from 2017. She went to find a 7 year old clip at the time. Hailey was like 19, 20 max.

Then she commented some nonsense and said she was "defending her friend" and that started the whole 2023 drama. Eventually Hailey ended up messaging her to call off her rabid fans (and if course she put her on blast for that) and then they both posted stories.

Anyway, what if Justin spoke up instead? Just put on his story or posted "please leave my wife alone, I would always chose her no matter what, the rest of the bs has nothing to do with her or us. Please leave us in peace". It wouldn't have stopped the haters and they'd have said Hailey made him write it (so maybe it would be better if he filmed a video saying it tbh). But I think it would've looked better than Hailey constantly having to fight for herself and Selena playing shit starter and victim and hero all at once.

So I live in a houseshare and it's clean enough. All that isn't a problem. But one of the housemates (didnt know them beforehand) has the most rancid personality. I'm talking passive aggression and just flat out aggression in the GC over the stupidest things, complete rudeness, stomping around and slamming doors with the most stank look on their face. Basically like a passive aggressive toddler with tantrums and bitchiness just contained enough that it would be weird to flat out call it out. At least for us normal, polite people. And often this person will just be in a bad mood for whatever reason and make it everyone else’s problem and everyone just ignores them.

So, what I'm asking is more for mantras/personal things I can tell myself to calm down and understand that she's miserable and irrelevant and I shouldn't let that energy affect me and my mental health negatively, you know? How to be in the space but not absorb the negativity. I was talking to another housemate about it and they're just much better at the mental aspect than me currently, and don't have any emotional reaction internally to it anymore. I want to get to that point in a healthy way, at least until I can move. Tips appreciated!

So when I watched the show the first time around, I disliked Su a lot. I still love Lin and if I had to be on any side I would be on hers. That said, after seeing the debates and going back to rewatch... I kinda feel like Lin shouldn't have tried to arrest Su. She did put Toph in a very difficult position. In a perfect world where all is fair and equal, yes, she was a criminal and should've been arrested. But in reality the better approach would've been for Lin to let it go in the moment, then report it to Toph privately and have her deal with it.

That said I still very much disagree with the people who say nonsense about how Lin is holding onto things and how that's wrong. You don't get to decide how someone you have hurt reacts or if/when they forgive you. But, rewatching as an adult I do think Lin showed poor judgement trying to arrest Su. I also think Su was wrong for not just giving a straightforward "I am sorry" apology when they saw each other after all those years.

Happy to hear thoughts...expressed **respectfully** of course.

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So I used to be Christian. I'm now atheist. But I think there are some benefits to being religious, whether God is real or not. There is choosing to believe something out there is in control, which can help day-to-day anxiety and fears.

I was thinking today about how if m*n didn't exist, and as a result, religions looked very different (basically all that would be kept is believing in a higher power with a plan) I might very well choose to believe in it, because as I said, real or not there can be benefits.

But even if I don't go to church or interact with m*n, I cannot in good conscience believe in and worship a God that allows the daily abuses and oppression these creatures enact. Genuinely an XY only flood should've come by now, if there were a true benevolent God, because this is just too much.

So add religion to the list of things they ruin.

And in case you're wondering, yes I just read another abhorrent news story about their abuse. Two today actually, both involving girls around 12 years old. One in the US, one in the UK. And don't get me started on the BBC article about 5 year old girls being sold I was fuming about yesterday. And I haven't even stopped to think of my own personal experiences with m*n. I just can't at this point. And I can’t even turn to a higher power to seek comfort.