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There's so many muslims who are young and behaving foolishly. I stay away from it all on social media when they promote such nonsense but now it's happening around me, my friends start identifying as feminists. They start rejecting the hadiths saying the Quran is sufficient enough and the hadiths are made by "random men"... that they are "sexist".. saying we can be progressive muslims. We are born in the West, we should accept things that the kafirs also accept. Let's look appealing to them.

I get looked weirdly by them because I agree with the Quran and the Hadiths. I get looked weirdly and insulted for being a woman and not calling myself a "feminist"... I agree with everything about Islam. Its very sad the huge impact social media has on our ummah. Seriously. What even are we doing?? This all is crazy to me. I go online and try to seek knowledge and I just see all these people around my age spread misinformation and try to mix kafir laws with Islam. Its difficult to come back from this. Too many brothers and sisters of ours are getting out of hand. They don't even know the whole purpose of being a Muslim is to worship Allah. We are born for Worship. We weren't put on this Dunya to have fun and mingle around. Believers gotta remember that.

First of all. It's annoying and it seems like a topic that muslim men like bringing up. It seems like they just like ragebaiting or whatever because guys near me talk about it and think I'm going to mind or feel jealousy. I'm not even considering any one of these men but anyway I want to give my opinion on this.

Polygamy isn't obligatory. I hate when people say that everyone should do it. If that was the case and if that's what Allah wanted then He would have made that a rule but He didn't. Because Allah knows his creation well and He knows they have limits. Not every man can provide for his family even if that's the way it should be. And not everyone can treat 1 wife good let alone 2, 3 and 4.

The primary warning regarding unequal treatment of the wives comes from a well-known Hadith narrated across multiple major collections, including Sunan Abi Dawud, At-Tirmidhi, An-Nasa'i, and Ibn Majah:

"Whoever has two wives and he inclines to one of them over the other, he will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides collapsed (or paralysed/hanging down)."

The primary purpose of this specific body deformity is instant public exposure. The billions of humans resurrected from the beginning of time to the end will immediately know, just by looking at him, exactly how he treated his family. He cannot hide his injustice; his body acts as a permanent billboard advertising his cruelty and unfairness to the entire universe.

As you can see that the consequences for the mistreatment of the wives isn't a joke. Its a big deal. Also If the husband's good deeds do not outweigh his injustices, or if his wronged wives do not forgive him and claim his good deeds as compensation, he faces the punishment of Hellfire.

Do you really believe if a wife or husband or someone in your family.. if you have mistreated them, they won't ask Allah for your good deeds? Family won't matter on the Day because everyone will care about themselves and want to save themselves.

Salam. This seems to be an issue with both my parents. They just seem to label everyone as a kaafir. I've heard my mum call her own siblings it and even her own children. Idk for what reason.. maybe they don't agree with her or they just make her mad so she declares them as "kaafirs" when she gets mad. My dad also called the Shia Community "kaafirs" too which I thought was pretty messed up.

Idk what I can say or do to convince them to stop being like that. I love and respect my parents but I feel like they cross the line sometimes. I don't even want my friends around the house because this is how my parents behave. Also my other family members always have issues with us because of the constant drama that comes with my family. I understand it completely. I just feel stuck.

Salam. This seems to be an issue with both my parents. They just seem to label everyone as a kaafir. I've heard my mum call her own siblings it and even her own children. Idk for what reason.. maybe they don't agree with her or they just make her mad so she declares them as "kaafirs" when she gets mad. My dad also called the Shia Community "kaafirs" too which I thought was pretty messed up.

Idk what I can say or do to convince them to stop being like that. I love and respect my parents but I feel like they cross the line sometimes. I don't even want my friends around the house because this is how my parents behave. Also my other family members always have issues with us because of the constant drama that comes with my family. I understand it completely. I just feel stuck.

I've heard a lot of Muslim men marrying Hindu women. These Muslim men are from India or Pakistan. Just today this lady was arguing with me because she fell in love with a Muslim man and thinks if she respects the religion that is enough for their marriage to work.

I'm pretty sure Muslim men can't even marry Hindu women since they worship Idols and that's shirk to us. Shirk is the biggest sin in Islam. I told her it wouldn't work out but she's trying to paint it as a lovestory and how we muslims should be open to such a love. Like no.. it's not allowed nor would a real Muslim man who respects his religion and family choose this way.

I've seen many bollywood actors do the same thing which may be why some people genuinely feel like it should be normalised but I don't think it's right at all. I was in the right to say to her that it would never work out and he has to choose God first, right? Because she probably saw that as being close minded but those aren't muslims can't possibly understand the connection we have with Our One and Only Almighty Allah.

I've heard a lot of Muslim men marrying Hindu women. These Muslim men are from India or Pakistan. Just today this lady was arguing with me because she fell in love with a Muslim man and thinks if she respects the religion that is enough for their marriage to work.

I'm pretty sure Muslim men can't even marry Hindu women since they worship Idols and that's shirk to us. Shirk is the biggest sin in Islam. I told her it wouldn't work out but she's trying to paint it as a lovestory and how we muslims should be open to such a love. Like no.. it's not allowed nor would a real Muslim man who respects his religion and family choose this way.

I've seen many bollywood actors do the same thing which may be why some people genuinely feel like it should be normalised but I don't think it's right at all. I was in the right to say to her that it would never work out and he has to choose God first, right? Because she probably saw that as being close minded but those aren't muslims can't possibly understand the connection we have with Our One and Only Almighty Allah.

Honestly, I used to think that as long as someone sounded religious, they were safe to listen to. But I've realized that false eloquence is one of the most dangerous traps out there. The Prophet (peace be upon him) was sent as a mercy to mankind, so if a speaker or a mentor makes you feel bitter, isolated, or hateful instead of close to Allah, that's a massive red flag. I’m sharing these quotes because they perfectly capture that exact trap and the heavy regret that comes with it.

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"Remorse is repentance."— Prophetic Hadith (Sunan Ibn Majah)

"And they will say, 'Our Lord, we obeyed our masters and our chiefs, and they misled us from the right path.'" — Surah Al-Ahzab [33:67]

"There will be leaders after me who will not follow my guidance and will not establish my Sunnah. There will be men among them with hearts of devils in the bodies of humans."— Prophetic Hadith (Sahih Muslim)

"And do not walk upon the earth exultantly. Indeed, you will never tear the earth open, and you will never reach the mountains in height." — Surah Al-Isra [17:37]

"A servant will continue to be in a space of safety regarding his religion, as long as he does not spill blood unlawfully." — Prophetic Hadith (Sahih al-Bukhari)

"There will come a time of deception... when people will seek a religious ruling from the ignorant, who will misguide them and go astray themselves."— Prophetic Hadith (Sahih al-Bukhari)

"When it is said to them, 'Follow what Allah has revealed,' they say, 'Rather, we will follow that which we found our fathers doing.' Even though their fathers understood nothing, nor were they guided?"— Surah Al-Baqarah [2:170]

"Do not be a blind follower (Imma'ah), saying: 'I am with the people; if they do good, I do good, and if they do evil, I do evil.' Rather, discipline yourselves."— Prophetic Hadith (Sunan al-Tirmidhi)

"There will be people from my Ummah who will speak beautifully but act terribly. They will read the Qur'an, but it will not pass beyond their throats." — Prophetic Hadith (Sunan Abi Dawud)

"So have they not traveled through the earth and have hearts by which to reason and ears by which to hear? For indeed, it is not the eyes that are blinded, but blinded are the hearts which are within the breasts."— Surah Al-Hajj [22:46]

"Say, [O Muhammad], 'Shall we [believers] inform you of the greatest losers as to [their] deeds? [They are] those whose effort is lost in worldly life, while they think that they are doing well in work.'"— Surah Al-Kahf [18:103-104]

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Who are some scholars or preachers you look up to? I try my best to find good ones. Unfortunately there are some people who still listen to bad scholars and praise them.

Honestly, I used to think that as long as someone sounded religious, they were safe to listen to. But I've realized that false eloquence is one of the most dangerous traps out there. The Prophet (peace be upon him) was sent as a mercy to mankind, so if a speaker or a mentor makes you feel bitter, isolated, or hateful instead of close to Allah, that's a massive red flag. I’m sharing these quotes because they perfectly capture that exact trap and the heavy regret that comes with it.

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"Remorse is repentance."— Prophetic Hadith (Sunan Ibn Majah)

"And they will say, 'Our Lord, we obeyed our masters and our chiefs, and they misled us from the right path.'" — Surah Al-Ahzab [33:67]

"There will be leaders after me who will not follow my guidance and will not establish my Sunnah. There will be men among them with hearts of devils in the bodies of humans."— Prophetic Hadith (Sahih Muslim)

"And do not walk upon the earth exultantly. Indeed, you will never tear the earth open, and you will never reach the mountains in height." — Surah Al-Isra [17:37]

"A servant will continue to be in a space of safety regarding his religion, as long as he does not spill blood unlawfully." — Prophetic Hadith (Sahih al-Bukhari)

"There will come a time of deception... when people will seek a religious ruling from the ignorant, who will misguide them and go astray themselves."— Prophetic Hadith (Sahih al-Bukhari)

"When it is said to them, 'Follow what Allah has revealed,' they say, 'Rather, we will follow that which we found our fathers doing.' Even though their fathers understood nothing, nor were they guided?"— Surah Al-Baqarah [2:170]

"Do not be a blind follower (Imma'ah), saying: 'I am with the people; if they do good, I do good, and if they do evil, I do evil.' Rather, discipline yourselves."— Prophetic Hadith (Sunan al-Tirmidhi)

"There will be people from my Ummah who will speak beautifully but act terribly. They will read the Qur'an, but it will not pass beyond their throats." — Prophetic Hadith (Sunan Abi Dawud)

"So have they not traveled through the earth and have hearts by which to reason and ears by which to hear? For indeed, it is not the eyes that are blinded, but blinded are the hearts which are within the breasts."— Surah Al-Hajj [22:46]

"Say, [O Muhammad], 'Shall we [believers] inform you of the greatest losers as to [their] deeds? [They are] those whose effort is lost in worldly life, while they think that they are doing well in work.'"— Surah Al-Kahf [18:103-104]

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Who are some scholars or preachers you look up to? I try my best to find good ones. Unfortunately there are some people who still listen to bad scholars and praise them.

I'm saying this as a Muslimah myself... Whenever I see a Muslim woman online trying to fight for equal rights, its cringe.

I'm not saying that you should have less rights as a woman. I'm saying you should be happy with the rights given to you by the Almighty. Stop treating it like its a big deal that you and a Muslim man may not be able to do the same thing. This dunya is just a test and we have been given duties and obligations. It makes sense that a duty a man has wouldn't be the same as a woman's. When secular feminism tries to 'expand' rights to make men and women identical, it usually ends up stripping women of their unique Islamic privileges.

For example, Islam grants women the divine right to total financial maintenance by men. If we 'progress' into absolute secular equality, women lose that protection and are forced to carry equal financial burdens under capitalism. True progress isn't trying to rewrite Allah’s perfect balance; it’s studying, implementing, and reviving the beautiful rights He already guaranteed us.

Just do what Allah has told you to do. At the end of the day we are His slaves. Why complain?

I'm saying this as a Muslimah myself... Whenever I see a Muslim woman online trying to fight for equal rights, its cringe.

I'm not saying that you should have less rights as a woman. I'm saying you should be happy with the rights given to you by the Almighty. Stop treating it like its a big deal that you and a Muslim man may not be able to do the same thing. This dunya is just a test and we have been given duties and obligations. It makes sense that a duty a man has wouldn't be the same as a woman's. When secular feminism tries to 'expand' rights to make men and women identical, it usually ends up stripping women of their unique Islamic privileges.

For example, Islam grants women the divine right to total financial maintenance by men. If we 'progress' into absolute secular equality, women lose that protection and are forced to carry equal financial burdens under capitalism. True progress isn't trying to rewrite Allah’s perfect balance; it’s studying, implementing, and reviving the beautiful rights He already guaranteed us.

Just do what Allah has told you to do. At the end of the day we are His slaves. Why complain?

In Islamic theology, every single moment of life, including a long life spent enduring the heavy weight of mental illness is deeply purposeful and intentionally decreed by Allah. When a person struggles with their mental health, a long life is not a punishment or a cruel delay; rather, it holds profound spiritual wisdom and immense mercy that our finite minds cannot always see.

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1. Continuous Purification and Forgiveness of Sins

In Islam, struggling with an illness is a powerful means of spiritual cleansing. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ taught that no pain, anxiety, sadness, or hurt pricks a believer without Allah expiating some of their sins because of it.

Every extra day spent enduring depression, anxiety, or psychological distress means sins are constantly being erased. A longer life provides more time for this cleansing, allowing a person the opportunity to meet Allah in the Hereafter completely purified.

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2. Tremendous Multiplication of Rewards

Allah measures our actions based on the capacity and the ease with which we can perform them. For someone with sound mental health, waking up for prayer or making dua takes normal effort. For someone battling severe clinical depression, just getting out of bed requires monumental effort. Allah sees the invisible effort. The heavier the internal burden, the heavier the weight of that action on your scale of good deeds. A long life means decades of accumulating immense rewards for basic survival and patient perseverance (Sabr).

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3. Absolute Divine Justice and the Lifting of Accountability

Islamic jurisprudence firmly establishes that people are not held spiritually accountable for what is genuinely beyond their control.

"Allah does not burden a soul beyond what it can bear" (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:286).

On the Day of Judgment, Allah will judge actions by taking into account the exact neurochemical imbalances, hormonal conditions, and trauma a person was fighting. If a mental health condition severely impairs someone's free will or rational thought, the "pen is lifted," meaning they are absolved of blame for what they could not control during those times. A long life allows them to exist safely under Allah's protective mercy.

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4. A Test and Blessing for the Wider Community

A person's life is never just about themselves; it is interconnected with everyone around them. Enduring a long life with mental health struggles serves as a test of compassion, empathy, and care for family, friends, and society. It gives others a lifelong opportunity to earn rewards by showing the same unconditional love, patience, and dignity that Prophet Muhammad ﷺ showed to those who struggled with mental distress in Medina.

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5. The Ultimate Compensation in the Hereafter

The Quran reminds us that the Dunya (this worldly life) is temporary, imperfect, and designed to be a place of trial. A long life of suffering makes the eternal peace of Paradise that much sweeter. Islamic scholars note that the life after will serve as a divine makeup for earthly suffering. In Paradise, all trace of sorrow, chemical imbalances, grief, and fear will be permanently erased, replaced by eternal joy. Every year of pain on Earth will be compensated with unimaginable beauty.

Serious question. Would you marry someone who takes religion to the extreme? A guy said he got the ick from me all because I didn't believe that harming innocent civilians was a good thing. We always argue on religion because of this. He was the one who brought up marriage first and now he thinks I'm an ick and he thinks I'm dumb for not agreeing with him.

At the start he would say I was allowed my own opinion. I study Islam differently to how he does. He listens to Shaykhs that I don't listen to and he believes they are 100% Righteous. I never said anything negative but these shaykhs have had bad pasts and arrests yet he doesn't believe they are wrong.

Since I'm desi. I have posted about Imran Khan. I said he should be free from jail and the guy got angry and said "liking Imran Khan is kufr".. I'm genuinely confused because Imran Khan is a Muslim. ​idk who he thinks he is to make such a claim.

The first Caliph, Abu Bakr, famously commanded his armies never to harm women, children, the elderly, or monks, and never to destroy property or crops.

Despite these clear prohibitions, intentional killings happened across history due to political power struggles, civil wars, and rebellion: Early Sectarian Rebellion (The Kharijites).

In the 7th century, a radical splinter group called the Kharijites broke away from mainstream Muslims. They believed that anyone who disagreed with their political and religious views was no longer a Muslim and could be legally killed. They assassinated many early Muslims, including Ali ibn Abi Talib, the Prophet's cousin and son-in-law.

Dynastic Civil Wars: During transitions between major empires (like the Umayyads and the Abbasids), rival factions frequently slaughtered one another's families, political supporters, and entire towns to eliminate potential threats to the throne.

Massacres During Conquests: While some military campaigns followed strict ethical rules, other rulers and commanders ignored them entirely. Out of anger or a desire to terrorize their enemies into surrendering, some armies slaughtered civilian populations after capturing cities.

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Modern extremist groups (like ISIS or Al-Qaeda) completely reject mainstream Islamic law. They use highly selective interpretations and psychological distortions to convince themselves that killing innocent people is acceptable:

The Power of Takfir (Excommunication): This is the core tool used by extremists. By declaring that mainstream Muslims, government workers, or ordinary citizens are "not true Muslims" (or are apostates), extremists claim that those people have lost their right to safety and can be targeted.

Labeling Civilians as "Combatants": Extremists often argue that because democratic citizens pay taxes or vote for governments that launch military operations in Muslim countries, those citizens are directly responsible for the war. Therefore, they falsely claim that these civilians are actually enemy combatants.

Guilt Neutralization and "Total War": Extremist groups operate under a doctrine of total war without constraints. They use a twisted logic regarding "collateral damage," asserting that any innocent Muslims killed in their attacks are simply "noble martyrs" who will go straight to paradise, which allows the attackers to completely erase any personal guilt.

Political Grievance over Religious Faith: Extensive research shows that many individuals who join violent extremist networks are driven far more by political rage, a desire for power, or social isolation than by authentic religious devotion. They use religious language as a convenient cover to justify geopolitical retaliation and acts of pure terror.

Suicide is a major sin , and the one who does that is faced with a warning of eternity in the Fire of Hell, where Allah will punish him with the means that he used to commit suicide.

Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever throws himself down from a mountain and kills himself will be throwing himself down in the Fire of Hell for ever and ever. Whoever drinks poison and kills himself will be sipping it in the Fire of Hell for ever and ever. Whoever kills himself with a piece of iron will have that iron in his hand, thrusting it into his belly in the Fire of Hell for ever and ever.” (Narrated by al-Bukhari (5442) and Muslim (109).

Thabit ibn Dahhak (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever kills himself with something will be punished with it on the Day of Resurrection.” (Narrated by al-Bukhari (5700) and Muslim (110)

Jundub ibn ‘Abd-Allah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “A man among those who came before you was wounded. He panicked and took a knife and cut his hand, and the bleeding did not stop until he died. Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, said: ‘My slave hastened his death; I have forbidden Paradise to him.” (Narrated by al-Bukhari (3276) and Muslim (113).

The believer has to be patient and to seek the help of Allah, may He be exalted, and understand that no matter what hardship befalls him in this world -- no matter how severe it is -- the punishment of the Hereafter is worse than it. It is not acceptable according to anyone who is of right mind to run away from the heat of the desert and throw himself into the fire. How can he flee from temporary hardship and difficulty -- which inevitably will come to an end -- to an eternal punishment which has no end?

The Muslim should ponder and realise that he is not the only one in this world who is affected by calamity and hardship . Calamities befell the greatest of mankind, namely the prophets, messengers and the righteous. They also befell the worst of mankind, namely the disbelievers and atheists.

The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “No pain, hardship, sickness or grief befalls a believer, not even worry that befalls him, but some of his bad deeds will be expiated.” (Narrated by al-Bukhari (5642) and Muslim.

If the suicide is due to mental illness that has had such a far-reaching impact on a person’s reason that he is not aware of what he is saying or doing, if in such a case it so happens that he killed himself, then he will not be with the sinners who have committed the major sin of suicide; rather he will be excused. That is because this person was no longer accountable due to severe mental illness that led to loss of reason.

If a person dies following a religion other than Islam, then Paradise will be forbidden for him, because Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Verily, whosoever sets up partners (in worship) with Allah, then Allah has forbidden Paradise to him, and the Fire will be his abode” [al-Maa’idah 5:72]

Good deeds done by a person whilst he is a kaafir will not benefit him in the Hereafter at all, because Allah says (interpretation of the meanings):

“And whoever seeks a religion other than Islam, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers” [Aal ‘Imraan 3:85]

“And We shall turn to whatever deeds they (disbelievers, polytheists, sinners) did, and We shall make such deeds as scattered floating particles of dust” [al-Furqaan 25:23]

“Those who deny Our Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) and the Meeting in the Hereafter (Day of Resurrection,), vain are their deeds. Are they requited with anything except what they used to do?” [al-A’raaf 7:147]

‘Aa’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) asked the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) a question similar to that asked here. She (may Allah be pleased with her) said: “O Messenger of Allah, during the Jaahiliyyah Ibn Jud’aan used to uphold the ties of kinship and feed the poor. Will that be of any avail to him?” He said, “No, that will not be of any avail to him, because he never said ‘O Lord, forgive me my sins on the Day of Judgement.’” (Narrated by Imaam Muslim – may Allah have mercy on him) in his Saheeh, 214).

But if the kaafir never heard about Islam and Da’wah never reached him, then Allah will test him on the Day of Resurrection.

As-salamu alaykum (ٱلسَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ)

I have made a sub about Islam for those who are curious to learn more about the Religion and for those who want to find a purpose.

r/SeekersOfDeen

If you want to gain any knowledge about Islam. You are welcome there. The sub is made for everyone who wants to be back on their deen again. I'll post topics about Islam and people are free to post on there too. I'm focusing on my Deen and encourage you to do the same too. May Allah bless you ❤️