u/GreenScrubs84

I'm doing better now after a diagnosis and with my medication (limotrigine, sertaline, pregabalin, and the occassional quetaipine as needed if I can't sleep) - ON GOOD DAYS!

But when stress and pressure happens, symptoms are back as they were.

I know stress and pressure triggers bipolar symptoms and can even counter med effects. So... how do you deal with it? What do you guys do if there is an inevitable stress and pressure in your life? Because I tend to shut down plus all other symptoms flood my system that I don't have anything left to function and deal with and extinguish the stress and pressure happening. So they either pass, or I ignore it until it bounced back, or if I'm lucky, someone will take care of it for me and I'll be back to "normal functioning" me. But what if it won't pass, I can no longer ignore it, or no one can take care of it for me. What do I do? What do you guys do?

As the title goes...

Is it too much to want/ask for someone, anyone, to take care of me fully? To take off all my burdens and take care of all my responsibilities for a while? Not forever, but until I can be on my feet again.

I grew up and adulted without anyone taking care of me. Without anyone easing my burdens or sharing responsibilities with (only child of a single boomer mom). I learned to always be on the go. To juggle all things. I fail once in a while because it just isn't sustainable. Plus my mental health is also not ok.

My mental health further declined, especially last year. I'm getting better and changes and improvement only started this month. But for the past month, I can't function most of the time. And I'm just so exhausted. I asked for help. Mostly financially and other support. I got help. But what frustrates me is that the help I'm getting were partials only. I'm not being ungrateful. In fact, I'm so grateful that I sometimes think I don't deserve to be helped.

But the thing with that is I'm having a hard time recovering mentally. Because I'm still running on fumes and running on survival mode. I'll receive some help and I still can't relax because I still have to push myself and stress out and feel pressured to fulfill the rest of what I need and the rest of my responsibilities. And it exhausts me. And I feel like it's a hindrance to really recovering fully.

I know it might be impossible, especially in my situation/reality. But, I wish someone will just take care of me and all my responsibilities for a bit. Maybe a month or 2 of not worrying about anything and focusing on recovering should be enough. I don't know. But it's been 5 months of me trying to recover while still juggling things here and there and my recovery feels one step forward, 2 steps back. And it makes it all the more exhausting.

Di ba innocent until proven guilty?

I'm not going to talk about crime. But in the context of mental health and asking for help.

If someone says they have a certain mental health state or illness or disorder, or even just saying or showing their pwd id, why can't we just take it as it is and move on? Or if someone is asking for help, why do we make it our burden to prove they are telling the truth?

Why do most people, especially pinoys, immediately go to policing? Challenging? Questioning? Interrogating? For what purpose? Trust issues much?

Why can't we just take it as it is. Now if the other person is faking, pretending, malingering, scamming, so what? Isn't it on them if they are? It's their problem and it's their conscience and their guild and shame. And not mine! If I can't help or don't want to help, then I keep quiet, and move on. If I can and want to help, I help, and then move on. Why do other people spend so much time and energy to disprove someone? May monetary reward ba na di ako aware na matatanggap dito sa Pinas if makapagpatunay tayo ng faker? 1 faker = 1,000 pesos? Ganern?

I was put on anti-depressant for 3 years and it sucked big time. I was finally diagnosed with bipolar 2 and I recently started on lamotrigine while still on a very low dose of ssri. And it was life changing. I have never felt this stable and calm. There are still cycles/mixed, but the intensity and the polarity is not too extreme anymore.

However, when there is an external stressor, my symptoms and the intense/polarized feelings happen again. Not as intense as before prior to lamotrigine. But it's there and the things I stopped doing when I felt stable, I started doing again (skin picking, anxiety/panic, intrusive thoughts, avoidance/shutting down). Is this common for bipolar 2 folks? Even on medication?

So, I have an excellent vet that I discovered last year when my boy was really ill and has been misdiagnosed by 3 different vets already. I had to do my research extensively, and I'm glad and grateful I found her and her clinic. My dog was finally diagnosed properly and was treated and is now healthy and thriving. I owe my boy's life (and mine as well) to her.

Now this vet doesn't have an online presence and doesn't market her clinic. She doesn't even run ads on her clinic's page. Very lowkey. Because her practice isn't a hospital. And she is not after the money nor fame. I'd say it was probably fate that I was able to somehow found her details. And I'm glad I did. She is the best vet ever! I've been to multiple vets and I have never encountered anyone as smart, as talented, and as kind-hearted towards animals like her. Her practice is also very different from other clinics. She is an excellent diagnostician, she will take time to explain everything and will also present owners with all options for treatment (consultations sometimes take 2hrs or more). Also doesn't give false hope and doesn't do unnecessary procedures. She is too good to be true.

Having bad experiences with other clinics, misdiagnosis here and there, and the fear and anxiety that my boy will not make it, I understand what other fur parents are going through. I wanted to help others too. But I want to respect my vet's preference to stay low key. So I don't publicize her clinic nor her name. I sometimes reach out to furparents via private messaging if I come across a case that I think my vet can help with. And I sometimes post that if anyone is looking for a good vet, they can reach out to me via private messaging.

What I don't understand is why it is difficult for people to respect that. Recently mutiple people keep commenting and urging me to publicize the clinic's name. Others even said so that I can help out. I'm already helping. All I ask is for them to send me a message instead. And I'm not forcing anyone. So why are they forcing me to post details publicly when I don't want to. And worst, someone even wrote the location of the clinic in a comment. I don't care if you don't trust me. Then don't. I don't care if you won't go to my vet. Even better so that we won't ran out of appointment slots. No one is forcing anyone anything here.

And because of that, I decided to just delete my post altogether because it isn't worth it. So instead of more furparents getting the help they need, I'd rather keep gatekeeping my vet.

Hay mga pinoy talaga. That's why we cannot have nice things no?

May mga UV po ba na dumadaan along or around ADB ave or at least nearer sa Malayan Plaza? And saan po terminals nila and anong signage? Coming from Kalentong area or Greenhills area or MRT stations. Ang haba kasi ng lalakarin huhu.

Hi fellow furparents!

Sharing lang po in case may mga naghahanap ng vet na maaasahan para sa treatment and/or management of CKD, Cancer, FIP, Geriatric Care (senior cats), end-stage diseases.

I currently have a really good vet who's been helping my dog through multiple chronic conditions. She's kind, thorough, an excellent diagnostician, and uses both traditional and alternative/complementary approaches (labs, treatments, supplements, etc). She has a lot of geriatric patients (both cats and dogs) with end-stage disease/s who are doing really well and thriving.

Pero heads-up po:
✔️ Treatment, management and care needs dedication
✔️ Though my vet's rate is not expensive, regular checkups, meds, supplements, therapy and extensive lab tests can add up.
✔️ Hindi siya instant magic. It takes time, consistency, and commitment.

They don’t really do advertising or anything, and they’re very low-key, so I usually just connect people to them.

If you’re serious about finding the right vet and willing to do the work (and spend a bit or more for it), message me nalang. I’ll be happy to share her details privately. 🙏

Let’s help our furbabies live their best lives.

Clinic location: Metro Manila

Hi fellow furparents!

Sharing lang po in case may mga naghahanap ng vet na maaasahan para sa treatment and/or management of CKD, Cancer, FIP, Geriatric Care (senior cats), end-stage diseases.

I currently have a really good vet who's been helping my dog through multiple chronic conditions. She's kind, thorough, an excellent diagnostician, and uses both traditional and alternative/complementary approaches (labs, treatments, supplements, etc). She has a lot of geriatric patients (both cats and dogs) with end-stage disease/s who are doing really well and thriving.

Pero heads-up po:
✔️ Treatment, management and care needs dedication
✔️ Though my vet's rate is not expensive, regular checkups, meds, supplements, therapy and extensive lab tests can add up.
✔️ Hindi siya instant magic. It takes time, consistency, and commitment.

They don’t really do advertising or anything, and they’re very low-key, so I usually just connect people to them.

If you’re serious about finding the right vet and willing to do the work (and spend a bit or more for it), message me nalang. I’ll be happy to share her details privately. 🙏

Let’s help our furbabies live their best lives.

Clinic location: Metro Manila