u/GynarchGal

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8znD-ul792w

Women only fought en masse for voting rights because when they lobbied every single state legislature in the country demanding to raise the age of sexual consent that MEN set as young as 7 years old, the all male legislatures refused and mocked the women of the Christian Temperance movement for daring to challenge their sexual entitlements.

And YES it was Christian women who fought men for the political power to protect childr*n.

"Owning What You Need to Own

>This is going to be my last point, but it’s another tough one. Kids who grow up around a domestic abuser accumulate a lot of resentments toward their mother, not just toward the abuser. Many of these resentments are the products of distortions caused by the abuser, as I’ve pointed out. But they aren’t all. The kids have some justifiable complaints. (I can say this because kids have justifiable complaints against any parent. My children certainly have valid grievances against me, and I’ve needed to own those.)

>Now, when you’ve been the target of all this terrible abuse, and then on top of that you’ve had your children driven away from you, the last thing you feel like doing is being the one to apologize. And I’m certainly not asking you to apologize for anything their father did, since that’s beyond your control. But try to push through all that hurt enough to be able to offer sincere apologies for actions of yours that you do feel bad about, and for things you could have done better. Kids really need this from their mothers.

>Plus, it helps distinguish you from their abusive dad, who is never going to own anything in a sincere and heartfelt way. In other words, one of the ways in which you can remind them how different you are from him is by demonstrating your ability to accept responsibility for your actions, and to give them room to have hurt feelings and resentments about those things. He’ll never do that.

>Don’t look for apologies in return from them until a long time from now. If your relationship continues to heal, that day will come."

• https://lundybancroft.com/rebuilding-severed-relationships/ ”

 

I know nothing will probably happen, but it feels good to try and share truth with her. I'll get downvotes on reddit for pursuing her, but kids who still send their parent stuff are underrepresented here. Yeah, we're estranged. But she's gonna have to be the one to block me 🧘‍♀️

I'll eventually give up if she never responds, but I have a decade or two of on/off contact. I don't care about the game or dance or rules, I just want to reach out to my mom with love and truth.​