M27| Hari, Looking for my Hermonie
Hey,
(Used gpt to put a structure to my thoughts, Long post ahead)
27M, Bangalore / AP — Looking for someone to build a life with, not just get married to
I'm 27M, born in August 1999, currently living and working in Bangalore. I'm originally from a town near Tirupati, Andhra Pradesh.
I'm a Data Scientist, earning around ₹25 LPA. I have a B.Tech in CSE from GITAM Vizag and an MBA in Finance. I'm 5'8" (173 cm), currently around 95 kg, and actively working on getting fitter through diet and exercise.
I'm Hindu, Padmasali by caste.
**A little about me:**
I'd describe myself as ambitious, kind, romantic, emotionally stable, intelligent, adjustable, and a bit of an overthinker. I also have a weird sense of humour, which may or may not be a positive quality depending on who you ask.
I'm pretty extroverted. My interests are a slightly strange combination of movies, music, finance, politics, news, travel and filmmaking.
I've always been passionate about cinema and filmmaking. It's something I'd eventually like to pursue seriously as a career. Outside of that, I enjoy watching movies, going down random YouTube rabbit holes, listening to interviews and documentaries, travelling, going on long bike rides while overthinking life, mall-hopping, eating non-veg food and spending time with friends.
A typical weekend could involve a house party with friends, a movie, a long bike ride, some completely unnecessary YouTube bingeing and probably eating something I shouldn't be eating.
**Why am I looking for marriage now?**
I've been single for around three years. I had one relationship during college.
Over the last year or so, I've realised that despite being reasonably happy with how my life is going, there is a certain emptiness that career, money, hobbies or friends don't really fill.
I genuinely miss having someone to share my life with.
So I'm not looking for an arranged marriage simply because "it's time". I'm looking for a relationship that eventually leads to marriage — someone I can fall in love with, grow with and build a life alongside.
Ideally, I'd like to get married within the next year.
**Who am I looking for?**
I'm looking for a woman who is around my age or younger, ideally born in August 1999 or later.
Location-wise, I'd preferably like someone from around my native region or someone currently working in Bangalore or Hyderabad. I intend to eventually settle in Hyderabad, although I'm flexible about how we get there.
I'd prefer a Hindu, and ideally someone from the Padmasali community, but caste isn't a hard boundary for the right person.
I'd like my partner to be working and, ideally, continue her career after marriage. Financial compatibility is important to me as well. As a rough preference, I'd be comfortable with someone earning around ₹10L+ currently, although I care much more about how we think about money than simply the number on a payslip.
**The qualities I value most are:**
\- Loyalty
\- Intelligence
\- Kindness and concern for other people
\- A sense of humour / being a little quirky
\- Emotional maturity
\- Being family-oriented
\- Having her own identity and interests
I don't expect us to be together 24/7. I actually value personal space quite a lot and would want both of us to have our own friends, interests and independence while still being each other's primary people.
I also want children in the future.
**What kind of marriage do I want?**
Probably something between traditional and modern.
I don't want a marriage where two people spend their entire lives doing household chores after coming back from work.
If both of us are working, I'd much rather spend that time together. I'm perfectly happy with hiring a maid and cook where practical. And I'd actually love cooking together on weekends occasionally — not because we have to, but because it can be a fun couple activity.
I want us to travel a lot and explore the world together. And by travel, I mean actually experiencing places — not necessarily recreating whatever is trending on Instagram that month.
**Family**
My parents are retired government teachers. They're financially independent and live in my hometown near Tirupati. My brother recently got married and lives there with them.
My parents are fairly financially secure and have their own houses and investments. One of the houses will eventually be mine.
They aren't particularly controlling. I've made some fairly major decisions independently throughout my life, including taking a career break to pursue filmmaking, and my parents have generally supported my decisions.
At the same time, family is important to me.
I'd like my future wife to have a good relationship with my parents. My parents would likely spend around 3–4 months a year with us, particularly during summers, rather than living with us permanently.
I'm looking for someone who is comfortable with that kind of family arrangement.
A few things that probably won't work for me
**I don't think we'd be compatible if:**
\- You don't want children.
\- You aren't comfortable with a Hindu family.
\- You strongly dislike being around family or want a marriage where it's just the two of us with essentially no family involvement.
\- You are extremely superstitious.
\- You don't respect personal space or independence.
\- You expect your partner to revolve entirely around you like in movies
None of these are meant as judgments about anyone. They're simply things I've realised matter to me.
**Where I see my life going**
One slightly unusual thing about me: I'm quite serious about FIRE.
My current plan is to build enough wealth to reach financial independence around 35 and then spend a significant part of my life pursuing filmmaking.
That doesn't mean I plan to stop contributing to my family or expect my wife to fund my dreams. My intention is to build enough investments that they can support the family's financial needs while I pursue filmmaking.
I'd love to eventually have a life where we have enough financial freedom to travel, spend time together, raise our kids and pursue things we genuinely care about rather than being permanently stuck in the corporate grind.
So yes, I'm ambitious about money — but ultimately because I want freedom, not status.
If any of this resonates with you, feel free to DM me. I'd rather have a conversation and see whether we actually get along than try to determine compatibility from a checklist.
And if we do connect, I'd obviously prefer that we both take enough time to know each other properly before making any decision about marriage.