u/HelloandHello222

I cannot even begin to explain the anger i feel when every other day there's news of a woman beating the shit out of a child for no reason.

I speak for Nigerians because of my experience.

Majority of Nigerians cannot see children as people who are learning new things every day, they see them as someone who is fully conscious of the things they do and believe beating is a correction for everything. Putting fear and terrorizing a child is the correct way to do things.

Every time i see Africans talking about the idea of beating children i try my best to not blow up bbecause for these parents beating isn't even used for big deal things, its almost for everything!!!!! No one forced you to have a child!!!! No one forced you to keep a child you hate!!!

This is the same country that hosts meetings to see if a child is a witch or not. The society HATES children, births them for help, births them so they can make arrangements to make THEIR future better.

Of course this is not the case for everyone, but its MAJORITY of Nigerian mothers that have anger issues and pour them towards their children.

I say this as someone who grew up around other Nigerian children and witnessed their mothers beating the shit out of them in front of me for the smallest things. The same children that then tell me its correct to beat children as if i didn't just see them shaking from fear just from the sight of their mother.

I hope someday people will start getting their temper under control before having children and value them as they are just innocent people.

If you want to come and complain that you've never experienced anything in this post then move on and ignore it.

I cannot even begin to explain the anger i feel when every other day there's news of a woman beating the shit out of a child for no reason.

Majority of Nigerians cannot see children as people who are learning new things every day, they see them as someone who is fully conscious of the things they do and believe beating is a correction for everything. Putting fear and terrorizing a child is the correct way to do things.

Every time i see Africans talking about the idea of beating children i try my best to not blow up bbecause for these parents beating isn't even used for big deal things, its almost for everything!!!!! No one forced you to have a child!!!! No one forced you to keep a child you hate!!!

This is the same country that hosts meetings to see if a child is a witch or not. The society HATES children, births them for help, births them so they can make arrangements to make THEIR future better.

Of course this is not the case for everyone, but its MAJORITY of Nigerian mothers that have anger issues and pour them towards their children.

I say this as someone who grew up around other Nigerian children and witnessed their mothers beating the shit out of them in front of me for the smallest things. The same children that then tell me its correct to beat children as if i didn't just see them shaking from fear just from the sight of their mother.

I hope someday people will start getting their temper under control before having children and value them as they are just innocent people.

It was me, my 5 friends, my mom, and my little brother.

We were all having a good time when they brought out the birthday cake at the restaurant. I stayed seated because I didn't want to stand up. During the video, all you can hear is everyone singing "Happy Birthday" while my mom is angrily yelling at me to stand up so everyone can see me. She just kept getting louder and stood up to gesture me to get up, so after I blew out the candle, I awkwardly stood up, and she made my friends sing "Happy Birthday" all over again.

After that, she spent the rest of the dinner pouting. Later, my brother told me she said I had ruined the party and made a shame of her??? I honestly don't know if she was mad at me or embarrassed by her own behavior, because there was literally no reason for her to get angry.

I mostly feel embarrassed because my friends kept telling me they didn't expect my mom to be like that and kept asking if I was okay for the rest of the evening. On the other hand, it almost makes me laugh because now I don't look crazy whenever I complain about my mom.

The funny part is that I never even wanted a birthday dinner in the first place. I didn't want to celebrate, but she had a problem with that.(Same woman that on my 14th told me my birthday is not worth celebrating anymore). She wanted to control what I wore and how I looked, all while complaining about how grateful I should be that she organized the dinner and "allowed" me to buy things for it.

Something many people don't understand about my mom is that she'll buy you things or do things she wants, then gaslight you into believing it was something you wanted, even if you never asked for it. Later she'll complain about how she spent money on things we never use, even though we never wanted them in the first place.

Oh well... here we are.

It was me, my 5 friends, my mom, and my little brother.

We were all having a good time when they brought out the birthday cake at the restaurant. I stayed seated because I didn't want to stand up. During the video, all you can hear is everyone singing "Happy Birthday" while my mom is angrily yelling at me to stand up so everyone can see me. She just kept getting louder and stood up to gesture me to get up, so after I blew out the candle, I awkwardly stood up, and she made my friends sing "Happy Birthday" all over again.

After that, she spent the rest of the dinner pouting. Later, my brother told me she said I had ruined the party and made a shame of her??? I honestly don't know if she was mad at me or embarrassed by her own behavior, because there was literally no reason for her to get angry.

I mostly feel embarrassed because my friends kept telling me they didn't expect my mom to be like that and kept asking if I was okay for the rest of the evening. On the other hand, it almost makes me laugh because now I don't look crazy whenever I complain about my mom.

The funny part is that I never even wanted a birthday dinner in the first place. I didn't want to celebrate, but she had a problem with that.(Same woman that on my 14th told me my birthday is not worth celebrating anymore). She wanted to control what I wore and how I looked, all while complaining about how grateful I should be that she organized the dinner and "allowed" me to buy things for it.

Something many people don't understand about my mom is that she'll buy you things or do things she wants, then gaslight you into believing it was something you wanted, even if you never asked for it. Later she'll complain about how she spent money on things we never use, even though we never wanted them in the first place.

Oh well... here we are.

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Pretty sure everyone in my life knows about my family problems, the abuse, my resentment toward my mom, and all the issues that came with it. I realized it had gotten really bad when I felt the need to bring it up constantly to explain why I am the way I am.

Now I just feel ashamed. People probably remember me for that more than anything else, and I feel stupid because most people don't talk about their family issues the way I did. I'm definitely going to stop now, but everyone already knows, and they'll probably always remember.

I don't know if I'll ever fully get over it. Sometimes it feels like I destroyed my own sense of privacy.

Pretty sure everyone in my life knows about my family problems, the abuse, my resentment toward my mom, and all the issues that came with it. I realized it had gotten really bad when I felt the need to bring it up constantly to explain why I am the way I am.

Now I just feel ashamed. People probably remember me for that more than anything else, and I feel stupid because most people don't talk about their family issues the way I did. I'm definitely going to stop now, but everyone already knows, and they'll probably always remember.

I don't know if I'll ever fully get over it. Sometimes it feels like I destroyed my own sense of privacy.

Feeling really emotional right now, but I will never understand how no matter how much I try to make friends, I always end up being excluded.

What confuses me is that one on one, people laugh with me, joke with me, talk to me, and seem to find me funny. But no matter how many times I try making friends, I always end up on the outside. Either I’m someone they know and can say hi too, but never someone they actually become close friends with.
I know it sounds stupid, and maybe it is, but nobody has ever really made an effort to interact with me outside of the space where are in.

And people will always say that you need to enjoy your own company and that you don’t need friends. But try spending every summer alone. Try having events come up and always having to go alone because everyone else already has their own friend groups. Try having to do every activity by yourself, over and over again, until all you’re left with is feeling sorry for yourself because there’s nothing else you can do.

Try going on school trips and always being the one left alone while everyone else already has their buddies. Try being the person who has to look around the room wondering where to sit, who to pair up with, or who to talk to, while everyone else seems to have someone.

And I don’t understand why. Because when I stop trying and keep to myself, people say that I’m not making an effort, that I’m not including myself, that they try to involve me but I don’t join in. But whenever I do try to include myself, I still end up being left out.