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It was English 1st paper exam. The exam went well, the question was easy and we all got excited when we saw the question paper.

But it hit me while I was doing "খাতায় ইমেইল লেখা". Why tf were 12.5 lakh people, who are old enough to drive, get married, do most things (assuming most hsc examinees are above the age of 18) writing an email, on paper and why there are literal rules and "formats" of writing a দিনলিপি (personal diary). And why tf do I need to know je mojid er bou ki colour er Shari pore chotobelay douraito. And there was a completing story in our guide books jetate kaak kolshi te pathor fele Pani khai. We learned that shit in class 1 as well (আমার বাংল বই নস্টালজিয়া)

I mean memorization is required for mostly any professional field. But what's up with this boi er random tottho memorize kora. I genuinely feel like if they put even the SLIGHTEST bit of effort, they could've brought about some positive changes, some changes don't even require a huge amount of money, just some proper planning. They simply just dgaf

The sad part is, we put in a lot of effort actually, but none of it gets reciprocated. Hundreds of hours you spent memorizing সমাস, for 5 marks only, you could've done something far better. All this effort and the highest form of validation you can get is from a মিষ্টির দোকান and they just want your cash xD.

And I'm not saying this out of spite, or because " shara bochor porinai". In fact, Ami shara bochor porsi, and I am sort of regretting it. Because eishob poreo Kono labh nai. None of our efforts would get reciprocated. You spend hours memorizing random shit, and someone else would just copy it from someone else and get the same mark as you.

I'm just expressing my frustrations as an hsc candidate. Just going through an existential crisis rn. In the end, none of us would remember "cv lekhar niyom" when actual cv lekhar time comes.

If you're someone who is in class 6-10, please focus on developing actual skills instead of trying to be the topper of your class, being a topper isn't worth it after all. Not with this dog shit education system.

I hate living in this third world country with little to no access to anything, zero connections, no money and no available jobs for teenagers. Even degree holders cannot get a proper job in this shitty ass county. The education system is shit, and you get shit on if you don't perform well on your exam, having to memorize random lines from a random poem written in 600 bc, that too when you're 18 years old in highschool. There's literally a 0.001 percent chance you'd escape this hellhole and break the cycle of poverty and make it big, so I'm still not losing hope.

But deep down, I wish people here had a bit of common sense or a bit of self control. They keep popping out babies like it's a competitive sport while having zero food or shelter and people would caption it like "omg look such a young struggling parent omg mother's love 😭💕", just romanticizing poverty in general, zero accountability whatsoever and claiming the kids to be "gifts of god" while treating them like absolute dog shit.

I wish I was never born. Truly. I love my parents, all the sacrifices they made for me but I feel like being born in a poor family in a third world country really strips the life out of you.

Am I jealous? Yes. I'd always keep wondering how it's like being born in a first world country with a good family and a safe home.

And I'll never have kids. I'd never want another soul to go through what I'm going, with my own choice. The cycle ends with me💗

I do not intend hate towards anyone or any specific community, I'm just sharing my observation and asking a question.

Back in 2000's to 2010, 2015 even, there used to be a lot of cultural practices. I'm not talking about universities dances or flash mobs or anything like that, but just people and kids overall participating in singing, dancing and art classes, a lot of cultural activities and a lot of people. It was hard to find a kid who isn't enrolled in some form of co-curricular activity. And strict religious attires were limited to strict religious families only. It wasn't the norm.

But nowadays, you'll see people and parents are becoming less interested in such extra curriculars and being more focused on the rigorous and shitty education system in this country. And about clothing, you'll see more than half of them are wearing strictly religious attires, which I absolutely do not see an issue with but I am just curious about.

Why did this happen? You'll see little children dressed up in those clothing, they are not even obligated to do so. And if the answer is religious awareness is spreading across our country then why are se*ual assault and grape cases are on the rise? Why are little impressionable young adolescent boys becoming more and more misogynistic and taking pride in misogynistic beliefs? Why is the youth in Bangladesh slowly becoming more and more aggressive and mob like zombies who can easily be manipulated?

You can take a look at the street interviews of hsc/ssc candidates of now and then compare their behavior, mannerisms and way of speech with people of similar age groups 10 years ago, and you'll see a shift. And it doesn't feel like a positive shift. I saw one of them making genuinely obscene se*ual gestures in the background while someone else was giving the interview. What goes on their mind? No one knows. Aren't they aware of the fact that their faces are visible and there might be family members who watch the news? Or do they just not care and would do anything to gain validation from their peers.

What caused this phenomenon? Am I the only one who thinks like this? Or this is an ACTUAL problem going on around.

So we all know je mcq porikkha onek beshi kothin ashse, Amar worst case scenario te Ami 19 Pai and best case scenario te 23 pai. But we would never know kon answer actually correct and ek ek jaigai ekek ta dewa. I've pretty much always been a good student, even udvash eo Amar er theke way better marks ashsilo. But now I just feel like shob kisu britha Hoye gelo. Cq kharap likhinai, shob likhsi, but last er dike khata revision dite parinai.

Ekhon just tana Bangla-2 pore jacchi so that Kono na Kono bhabe ektu Bangla ta tana jai, InshaAllah jaate bangla-2 exam easy ashe.

First exam ei monobol ta bhenge dilo shobar-

What do you think? Is there any public university in Bangladesh with an actually good community? No, I'm not talking about academics or opportunities, I'm talking about how the social life is. I'll give hsc a few weeks later, hsc 26 here.

By good community I meant public universities which have the most diverse, open minded, cultural, and progressive people, who also have good e.c.a, not just academically talented.

Many people have said that du iba has the best community among public universities, there's no ragging and people are actually fun, creative and open minded as well as meritorious. But getting admitted into iba is extremely difficult.

The other public universities like buet, top subjects in du, and govt medical colleges in dhaka have the most diligent and talented students, getting admitted there is also one of the biggest challenges you can take. And maybe they also have a decent community with progressive people.

But other than the top universities, which are INCREDIBLY difficult to access, the other public universities don't have such communities. I don't want to generalize at all, and I might be wrong as well. But inside dhaka, I don't see public universities other than these with a decent community. I don't know about the universities outside dhaka either.

I was about to go somewhere and had to fetch a rickshaw but tokhon school chuti hoisilo dekhe eto free rickshaw chilo na so I had to walk a few feet away from my house. Amar Ammu pise daray chilo, watching me fetch the rickshaw. Then I saw 3 boys, they were wearing school uniforms, they looked really young (all three of them were very short, shorter than me, so I'm assuming they're in class 7-9) and as they walked past me one of them said to the other "eda ehanei thake" and they kept staring at me like actual creeps. Ora shamne agaite thake but the staring still didn't stop. They all were all smiling, laughing and stuff while giving the most vile looks you can imagine. By the time I realized what happened they had gone too far away. And Ami Ammu ke boli eishob hoise and Ammu bole thaak Baad de meyeder shathe eishob hoi e. Keep in mind I was wearing a salwar kameez with a big orna and was using a tote bag in front of me as a shield too.

And erpor Ami oi uniform pora arekta meyeke ask kori eta kon school, they replied Uttara government college.

I still sometimes feel angry that I didn't take a stand for myself. But Abar majhe moddhe monehoi je if I had indeed taken a stand for myself and Ami jodi chillaitam, ei chapri polapain gula oder gang niye jodi hajir hoi since they have an idea of where I live.

It all just makes me feel so angry. Even if you're fully clothed, you still get harassed by literal minors.

I'm 19f, I belong to a middle class family, living in a third world country. I have access to food, water, shelter, electricity and an education. I've got plenty of things to be grateful for. But because of some p*litical problems in our country, my father (the only one earning in our family) hasn't earned a penny since 2024. Not like we're starving right now, but things are quite challenging. Especially when you compare yourself to others you're close to.

I've never compared myself to people on social media, but more to my friends who have everything they want without even working a day. I don't want to sound like a whiner but sometimes there's just so much envy and jealousy inside me, it makes me a totally bitter person.

I've tried writing stuff that I'm grateful for in a journal every night, I realize that at least I have food, water, shelter, etc....so many things many people don't have, I'm a healthy person, I'm a decent student, etc. But there's this negative inner voice that rises up every single time one of my friends or my bf brings up something, like going out to eat, or ordering food(we can't order food because of the shitty area we live in, the delivery man cannot show up to my area), or even just buying something normal, because those things are total everyday things for them but a total luxury for me.

And I do realize that these are making me deeply unhappy inside, really making me question my self worth (since I don't belong to that social hierarchy). Ik it's hurting me and my mental health to the point I have to cry it out every 3-4 days a week.

How to actually GENUINELY be grateful for what you have and stop comparing yourself, your starting, your beginning with other people who have it better? Ik life isn't fair at all. But I just don't want to become a whining loser who keeps complaining but I also feel deeply insecure about my current situation. What activities would help someone like me who wants to change but just can't?

I'm 19f, I belong to a middle class family, living in a third world country. I have access to food, water, shelter, electricity and an education. I've got plenty of things to be grateful for. But because of some p*litical problems in our country, my father (the only one earning in our family) hasn't earned a penny since 2024. Not like we're starving right now, but things are quite challenging. Especially when you compare yourself to others you're close to.

I've never compared myself to people on social media, but more to my friends who have everything they want without even working a day. I don't want to sound like a whiner but sometimes there's just so much envy and jealousy inside me, it makes me a totally bitter person.

I've tried writing stuff that I'm grateful for in a journal every night, I realize that at least I have food, water, shelter, etc....so many things many people don't have, I'm a healthy person, I'm a decent student, etc. But there's this negative inner voice that rises up every single time one of my friends or my bf brings up something, like going out to eat, or ordering food(we can't order food because of the shitty area we live in, the delivery man cannot show up to my area), or even just buying something normal, because those things are total everyday things for them but a total luxury for me.

And I do realize that these are making me deeply unhappy inside, really making me question my self worth (since I don't belong to that social hierarchy). Ik it's hurting me and my mental health to the point I have to cry it out every 3-4 days a week.

How to actually GENUINELY be grateful for what you have and stop comparing yourself, your starting, your beginning with other people who have it better? Ik life isn't fair at all. But I just don't want to become a whining loser who keeps complaining but I also feel deeply insecure about my current situation. What activities would help someone like me who wants to change but just can't?

4000 taka. Extra. Every single month if you're absent for more than 2 days in a single month. Along with your actual tuition, around 4000 taka and a lot of hidden charges too.

Lab fees, for a lab where many computers do not work, and we don't even have that many lab classes. Taking fees while we're giving hsc exams and not even attending college. Taking fees after the test exam, when we're not even going to college. Taking money for "developmental purposes" but the only development they could come up with was a shishupark themed penguin dustbin and destroying our beloved canteen and building new shits there, taking up space from our basketball court as well. The kind of development no one ever asked for.

Many times there'll be issues with the payment system as well, with newer and newer "updates", making the process of giving those fees even more difficult with new portals which crash quite often.

I'm not gonna say the institution's name but it is very very well reputed. And I'm pretty sure there are many more colleges and schools in Bangladesh which are equally messed up.

I do not understand, we are already paying for the college. If I become absent, then why do I need to pay AGAIN? It's not like I'm damaging any property or I'm causing them any harm by not attending college. Besides, college does nothing but waste your time and energy. Everybody studies from tuitions, online classes or coachings anyways. I don't understand this "pay for your absence" scheme. I've always topped my class, and I'm quite happy with my results. But one time our class teacher humiliated me in front of everyone in our class because I was absent 5-6 times that month by shouting

" Bashay boshe boshe ki koro? Poro? Ki, first hoba? First toh hoba na. Tomar theke onek bhalo student ra ase Jara regular college e ashe, oder dike Takao ekbar."

That man left his job as a teacher for a government job lmao

I'm 19f, belonging from a very strict south asian conservative family. I've never had a sleepover before, not until now. So this was a very unplanned sudden situation. One of my Friends (my age) had a big problem in her building and since she lives alone, she asked me for help. So I said sure you can stay with us (my family) for a day since there's no security in your building and you live alone as a female (living alone as a female is totally abnormal in our culture). So my mother was hesitant at first but later agreed. She stayed in my room and we had a lot of fun. But before going to bed my mother called me to her room, and told me how she doesn't trust my friend and how she thinks girls shouldn't stay in other people's houses and what not. Basically she was sort of ranting about her character and her choice of living. I just said that well she was quite helpless and needed a place to stay for a while. But my mother still told me to be careful around girls like her who roam around freely as they could be a potential threat. Idk how to feel about that situation. My mother didn't like how my friend talked about how her parents had a love marriage and she was "too friendly and outspoken" with them. While my brother gets to have sleepovers, call his friends over, they stay all night together and my mother considers it totally fine, totally normal. She even asked me if my friend had a boyfriend or not, but not in a positive way but as an authoritative way to police her character whereas when she's questioning my brother about his friends, she's always friendly and playful. Is this how the older generation thinks? Is this a double standard or am I overthinking?

I'm 19f and I've never had a sleepover before, not until now. So this was a very unplanned sudden situation. One of my Friends (my age) had a big problem in her building and since she lives alone, she asked me for help. So I said sure you can't stay with us (my family) for a day since there's no security in your building and you live alone as a female. So my mother was hesitant at first but later agreed. She stayed in my room and we had a lot of fun. But before going to bed my mother called me to her room, and told me how she doesn't trust my friend and how she thinks girls shouldn't stay in other people's houses and what not. Basically she was sort of ranting about her character and her choice of living. I just said that well she was quite helpless and needed a place to stay for a while. But my mother still told me to be careful around girls like her who roam around freely as they could be a potential threat. Idk how to feel about that situation. My mother didn't like how my friend talked about how her parents had a love marriage and she was "too friendly and outspoken" with them. While my brother gets to have sleepovers, call his friends over, they stay all night together and my mother considers it totally fine, totally normal. She even asked me if my friend had a boyfriend or not, but not in a positive way but as an authoritative way to police her character whereas when she's questioning my brother about his friends, she's always friendly and playful. Is this how the older generation thinks? Is this a double standard or am I overthinking?

I'm 19f and I've never had a sleepover before, not until now. So this was a very unplanned sudden situation. One of my Friends (my age) had a big problem in her building and since she lives alone, she asked me for help. So I said sure you can stay with us (my family) for a day since there's no security in your building and you live alone as a female. So my mother was hesitant at first but later agreed. She stayed in my room and we had a lot of fun. But before going to bed my mother called me to her room, and told me how she doesn't trust my friend and how she thinks girls shouldn't stay in other people's houses and what not. Basically she was sort of ranting about her character and her choice of living. I just said that well she was quite helpless and needed a place to stay for a while. But my mother still told me to be careful around girls like her who roam around freely as they could be a potential threat. Idk how to feel about that situation. My mother didn't like how my friend talked about how her parents had a love marriage and she was "too friendly and outspoken" with them. While my brother gets to have sleepovers, call his friends over, they stay all night together and my mother considers it totally fine, totally normal. She even asked me if my friend had a boyfriend or not, but not in a positive way but as an authoritative way to police her character whereas when she's questioning my brother about his friends, she's always friendly and playful. Is this how the older generation thinks? Is this a double standard or am I overthinking?

Hsc is a few months away but I just cannot seem to mentally gather the willpower to sit on the table and put myself to revise the topics. I completed the syllabus about a month before the test exam and after that I just don't find the energy to study and sit for long hours. I still try to revise the topics as much as I can but I just feel like I need a bit more pressure to revise it. Currently the udvash model test is going on but I haven't participated in many of them because of this awful mental incapability. I want to study, I was a very regular student, I did incredible in our test exam (December), but now my fuel has completely finished. The final udvash model test, which is gonna be full syllabus would start in a few days and I'm currently revising for them, but at an incredibly unsatisfactory speed, for which I'm constantly blaming myself. Is anyone else going through this and if yes then how did you overcome it? Seniors, please give us some advice on how you navigate such mental resistances, where you're constantly blaming yourself for not studying enough, and feeling like a complete idiot.

I'm 19f and someone has made a fake account of me, which has around 170 followers and 200+ following. The perpetrator is using my older photos which I had posted on my Instagram account 2-3 years ago. I was a minor back then. Idk what they're doing with that fake account. Even though I'm currently off of social media because of an important exam, but I had told all my friends to r*port the account and post the same on their stories which did reduce its follower count but didn't get it off of the internet. How to deal with this?