u/HeyMay0324

TFP gives serious Mackenzie Shirilla vibes. Immature, babied by everyone around her, immature parents, ZERO accountability. The list goes on.

Hi. Son is 5. ADHD Combined type. He attends prek 4. My son is def hyper, impulsive, all the “adhd” things. But one thing that he’s really never been is mean for apparently no reason. Yes, he’s reactive and can be unkind when a friend has been mean to him… but we’ve never seen him intentionally try to hurt feelings… until now.

His teacher reached out today that this is the second time she’s had to talk to him about being unkind and making others feel sad. Apparently yesterday a student was having a rough day and crying for his parents all day. Well today, my son was behind him in line and said something along the lines of “no one’s coming to pick you up today. But someone’s coming to pick me up!” His teacher felt like this was intentional to make the kid sad and upset. I don’t disagree. The first time it happened she didn’t really give details, just said he was unkind unprovoked.

To me this is bully behavior and it’s disturbing. I understand he’s impulsive but I feel like saying something like that is idk…. Intentional? I spoke to him about it and he had zero explanation as to why he said that to the kid. We are a loving family. We do not speak unkindly to each other and every time he gets rude with us we put a stop to it and let him know it’s unacceptable. How can I curb this behavior?

Hi. Son is 5. ADHD Combined type. He attends prek 4. My son is def hyper, impulsive, all the “adhd” things. But one thing that he’s really never been is mean for apparently no reason. Yes, he’s reactive and can be unkind when a friend has been mean to him… but we’ve never seen him intentionally try to hurt feelings… until now.

His teacher reached out today that this is the second time she’s had to talk to him about being unkind and making others feel sad. Apparently yesterday a student was having a rough day and crying for his parents all day. Well today, my son was behind him in line and said something along the lines of “no one’s coming to pick you up today. But someone’s coming to pick me up!” His teacher felt like this was intentional to make the kid sad and upset. I don’t disagree. The first time it happened she didn’t really give details, just said he was unkind unprovoked.

To me this is bully behavior and it’s disturbing. I understand he’s impulsive but I feel like saying something like that is idk…. Intentional? I spoke to him about it and he had zero explanation as to why he said that to the kid. We are a loving family. We do not speak unkindly to each other and every time he gets rude with us we put a stop to it and let him know it’s unacceptable. How can I curb this behavior?

Hi. Son is 5. Worth it to mention he has ADHD Combined type. He attends prek 4. I’ll be posting this in the adhd parenting subs as well. My son is def hyper, impulsive, all the “adhd” things. But one thing that he’s really never been is mean for apparently no reason. Yes, he’s reactive and can be unkind when a friend has been mean to him… but we’ve never seen him intentionally try to hurt feelings… until now.

His teacher reached out today that this is the second time she’s had to talk to him about being unkind and making others feel sad. Apparently yesterday a student was having a rough day and crying for his parents all day. Well today, my son was behind him in line and said something along the lines of “no one’s coming to pick you up today. But someone’s coming to pick me up!” His teacher felt like this was intentional to make the kid sad and upset. I don’t disagree. The first time it happened she didn’t really give details, just said he was unkind unprovoked.

To me this is bully behavior and it’s disturbing. I understand he’s impulsive but I feel like saying something like that is idk…. Intentional? I spoke to him about it and he had zero explanation as to why he said that to the kid. We are a loving family. We do not speak unkindly to each other and every time he gets rude with us we put a stop to it and let him know it’s unacceptable. How can I curb this behavior?

Hi. Son is 5. ADHD Combined Type. In a regular prek 4 class with 17 kids at a Catholic school. He has an aide with him that we were able to get through our insurance. If he has a good week at school, he earns tablet time on the weekends. We have a very strict policy with him. Disrespectful words and any type of getting physical (pushing, hitting, etc.) is unacceptable and obviously not rewarded. But we are struggling with other things that I don’t even know if he can control.

His aide says he’s been needing multiple reminders to stay on task. He hasn’t been participating in graduation practice. He’ll kind of just jump around or somewhat follow directions. He’ll try to draw on his friends hands with chalk or crayon and they’ll tattle on him. Lots and lots of impulsivity.

I mean…. Do we punish these behaviors? Can he even control it? I think this is where I struggle the most as a parent.

Hi. Son is 5. ADHD Combined Type. In a regular prek 4 class with 17 kids at a Catholic school. He has an aide with him that we were able to get through our insurance. If he has a good week at school, he earns tablet time on the weekends. We have a very strict policy with him. Disrespectful words and any type of getting physical (pushing, hitting, etc.) is unacceptable and obviously not rewarded. But we are struggling with other things that I don’t even know if he can control.

His aide says he’s been needing multiple reminders to stay on task. He hasn’t been participating in graduation practice. He’ll kind of just jump around or somewhat follow directions. He’ll try to draw on his friends hands with chalk or crayon and they’ll tattle on him. Lots and lots of impulsivity.

I mean…. Do we punish these behaviors? Can he even control it? I think this is where I struggle the most as a parent.

Hi. Son is 5. ADHD Combined Type. In a regular prek 4 class with 17 kids at a Catholic school. He has an aide with him that we were able to get through our insurance. If he has a good week at school, he earns tablet time on the weekends. We have a very strict policy with him. Disrespectful words and any type of getting physical (pushing, hitting, etc.) is unacceptable and obviously not rewarded. But we are struggling with other things that I don’t even know if he can control.

His aide says he’s been needing multiple reminders to stay on task. He hasn’t been participating in graduation practice. He’ll kind of just jump around or somewhat follow directions. He’ll try to draw on his friends hands with chalk or crayon and they’ll tattle on him. Lots and lots of impulsivity.

I mean…. Do we punish these behaviors? Can he even control it? I think this is where I struggle the most as a parent.

My son is five ADHD Combined type and possible ASD Level 1. Not sure if it’s part of his diagnose or just being five (I doubt it because I don’t know any other five year olds who act this way) but whenever he is denied something he wants, I’d say 85% of the time he becomes mean and will hurl insults. “You’re nasty. I don’t like you. I don’t love you.” When my parents are here it’s 100x worse for whatever reason. Maybe because they spoil him. He will yell at me to get him things if I say no. Wave his hands at me as if he’s trying to hit me.

Today was Mother’s Day and he asked if he could play on my dad’s phone. He knows he’s not allowed on the phone so I say no. The insults start. I don’t love you anymore, I hate Mother’s Day. Blah blah blah. My dad tried to sit down and have a talk with him and he said no I don’t want to talk about it! And he covered his ears.

I cannot take the back talk anymore. I probably have ADHD myself I am diagnosed with GAD (generallized anxiety disorder) and I truly feel like I am going to snap very soon. The way he acts in front of my parents is embarrassing. He’s running around jumping yelling and if I deny bim something in front of my parents he flips out. I need a discipline tactic for this behavior I cannot take it anymore. I want nothing more than to disappear and to not live this fucking life anymore….

ETA: I’ve been sending him to his room and I tell him when he’s ready to speak nicely he can come down. This does nothing. He just comes down apologizes and it happens an again later.

My son is five ADHD Combined type and possible ASD Level 1. Not sure if it’s part of his diagnose or just being five (I doubt it because I don’t know any other five year olds who act this way) but whenever he is denied something he wants, I’d say 85% of the time he becomes mean and will hurl insults. “You’re nasty. I don’t like you. I don’t love you.” When my parents are here it’s 100x worse for whatever reason. Maybe because they spoil him. He will yell at me to get him things if I say no. Wave his hands at me as if he’s trying to hit me.

Today was Mother’s Day and he asked if he could play on my dad’s phone. He knows he’s not allowed on the phone so I say no. The insults start. I don’t love you anymore, I hate Mother’s Day. Blah blah blah. My dad tried to sit down and have a talk with him and he said no I don’t want to talk about it! And he covered his ears.

I cannot take the back talk anymore. I probably have ADHD myself I am diagnosed with GAD (generallized anxiety disorder) and I truly feel like I am going to snap very soon. The way he acts in front of my parents is embarrassing. He’s running around jumping yelling and if I deny bim something in front of my parents he flips out. I need a discipline tactic for this behavior I cannot take it anymore. I want nothing more than to disappear and to not live this fucking life anymore….

ETA: I’ve been sending him to his room and I tell him when he’s ready to speak nicely he can come down. This does nothing. He just comes down apologizes and it happens an again later.

My son is five ADHD Combined type and possible ASD Level 1. Not sure if it’s part of his diagnose or just being five (I doubt it because I don’t know any other five year olds who act this way) but whenever he is denied something he wants, I’d say 85% of the time he becomes mean and will hurl insults. “You’re nasty. I don’t like you. I don’t love you.” When my parents are here it’s 100x worse for whatever reason. Maybe because they spoil him. He will yell at me to get him things if I say no. Wave his hands at me as if he’s trying to hit me.

Today was Mother’s Day and he asked if he could play on my dad’s phone. He knows he’s not allowed on the phone so I say no. The insults start. I don’t love you anymore, I hate Mother’s Day. Blah blah blah. My dad tried to sit down and have a talk with him and he said no I don’t want to talk about it! And he covered his ears.

I cannot take the back talk anymore. I probably have ADHD myself I am diagnosed with GAD (generallized anxiety disorder) and I truly feel like I am going to snap very soon. The way he acts in front of my parents is embarrassing. He’s running around jumping yelling and if I deny bim something in front of my parents he flips out. I need a discipline tactic for this behavior I cannot take it anymore. I want nothing more than to disappear and to not live this fucking life anymore….

ETA: I’ve been sending him to his room and I tell him when he’s ready to speak nicely he can come down. This does nothing. He just comes down apologizes and it happens an again later.

Hi. My son is five and diagnosed ADHD Combined Type and ASD Level 1. I think it's important to note that his ASD diagnosis was like pulling teeth. His developmental pediatrician basically said he would write it down on paper so he could receive services, but he doesn't think he'll keep the diagnosis as he ages. Whatever that means. I need help from a community who understands because I am riddled with anxiety and on the verge of a breakdown.

We live on a compound type of property. Directly next door to my mother in law and we share a backyard. My nephew who is also five visited and stayed with my MIL for two weeks last month and it was hell. He would help himself to my son's backyard toys without asking, he would come over unannounced and touch all of my son's toys. My son struggled BADLY with this. We set aside toys that my son said were okay for my nephew to play with and still my nephew would try to touch other things. This sent my son into an absolute emotional spiral that he's still recovering from. There was an incident where my nephew would not get out of my son's Jeep even when my son asked him using words so my son physically dragged him out of the jeep. My son started exhibiting behaviors he hasn't shown since he was 2-3 years old. Screaming, throwing himself on the floor, throwing things, extreme irritability, etc. He would wake up and obsessively ask where his cousin was and what he was doing. He would constantly say, "You love ___ more than me! My whole family hates me!!" It bled into school and he began becoming possessive over crayons, toys, etc. Not wanting to share with classmates and that has never been an issue before.

The cousin lives states away and he eventually went home. Well, he's coming back. Probably for two months - July and August. I am riddled with anxiety and I want to vomit. Does my son need to share? YES. Does he need to be kind and civil? YES. I get all of that. But I have no idea how to handle this situation and I'm pissed off because even though it's my mother in law who will be taking care of him, it directly affects us and my child. Like I said, it affects him on all fronts. He becomes a different person when the cousin is here because he sees him as a threat. While I obviously can't tell my MIL what to do and it's totally unfair to say we don't want the nephew to come, it's what I feel like saying. Only because it affects my son so poorly. I don't know what I'm doing here. Venting? Asking for advice?

My sister in law (my nephew's mom) thinks it's funny and says it's typical cousin behavior but I disagree. It's not funny to me or to my neurodivergant son. Two months of our lives are going to be disrupted because this woman wants to dump her child onto someone else so she can freely do whatever she wants at the expense of my kid. That was probably insensitive... but I'm angry. I'm so angry.....

Hi. My son is five and diagnosed ADHD Combined Type and ASD Level 1. I think it's important to note that his ASD diagnosis was like pulling teeth. His developmental pediatrician basically said he would write it down on paper so he could receive services, but he doesn't think he'll keep the diagnosis as he ages. Whatever that means. I need help from a community who understands because I am riddled with anxiety and on the verge of a breakdown.

We live on a compound type of property. Directly next door to my mother in law and we share a backyard. My nephew who is also five visited and stayed with my MIL for two weeks last month and it was hell. He would help himself to my son's backyard toys without asking, he would come over unannounced and touch all of my son's toys. My son struggled BADLY with this. We set aside toys that my son said were okay for my nephew to play with and still my nephew would try to touch other things. This sent my son into an absolute emotional spiral that he's still recovering from. There was an incident where my nephew would not get out of my son's Jeep even when my son asked him using words so my son physically dragged him out of the jeep. My son started exhibiting behaviors he hasn't shown since he was 2-3 years old. Screaming, throwing himself on the floor, throwing things, extreme irritability, etc. He would wake up and obsessively ask where his cousin was and what he was doing. He would constantly say, "You love ___ more than me! My whole family hates me!!" It bled into school and he began becoming possessive over crayons, toys, etc. Not wanting to share with classmates and that has never been an issue before.

The cousin lives states away and he eventually went home. Well, he's coming back. Probably for two months - July and August. I am riddled with anxiety and I want to vomit. Does my son need to share? YES. Does he need to be kind and civil? YES. I get all of that. But I have no idea how to handle this situation and I'm pissed off because even though it's my mother in law who will be taking care of him, it directly affects us and my child. Like I said, it affects him on all fronts. He becomes a different person when the cousin is here because he sees him as a threat. While I obviously can't tell my MIL what to do and it's totally unfair to say we don't want the nephew to come, it's what I feel like saying. Only because it affects my son so poorly. I don't know what I'm doing here. Venting? Asking for advice?

My sister in law (my nephew's mom) thinks it's funny and says it's typical cousin behavior but I disagree. It's not funny to me or to my neurodivergant son. Two months of our lives are going to be disrupted because this woman wants to dump her child onto someone else so she can freely do whatever she wants at the expense of my kid. That was probably insensitive... but I'm angry. I'm so angry.....

Hi. My son is five and diagnosed ADHD Combined Type and ASD Level 1. I think it's important to note that his ASD diagnosis was like pulling teeth. His developmental pediatrician basically said he would write it down on paper so he could receive services, but he doesn't think he'll keep the diagnosis as he ages. Whatever that means. I need help from a community who understands because I am riddled with anxiety and on the verge of a breakdown.

We live on a compound type of property. Directly next door to my mother in law and we share a backyard. My nephew who is also five visited and stayed with my MIL for two weeks last month and it was hell. He would help himself to my son's backyard toys without asking, he would come over unannounced and touch all of my son's toys. My son struggled BADLY with this. We set aside toys that my son said were okay for my nephew to play with and still my nephew would try to touch other things. This sent my son into an absolute emotional spiral that he's still recovering from. There was an incident where my nephew would not get out of my son's Jeep even when my son asked him using words so my son physically dragged him out of the jeep. My son started exhibiting behaviors he hasn't shown since he was 2-3 years old. Screaming, throwing himself on the floor, throwing things, extreme irritability, etc. He would wake up and obsessively ask where his cousin was and what he was doing. He would constantly say, "You love ___ more than me! My whole family hates me!!" It bled into school and he began becoming possessive over crayons, toys, etc. Not wanting to share with classmates and that has never been an issue before.

The cousin lives states away and he eventually went home. Well, he's coming back. Probably for two months - July and August. I am riddled with anxiety and I want to vomit. Does my son need to share? YES. Does he need to be kind and civil? YES. I get all of that. But I have no idea how to handle this situation and I'm pissed off because even though it's my mother in law who will be taking care of him, it directly affects us and my child. Like I said, it affects him on all fronts. He becomes a different person when the cousin is here because he sees him as a threat. While I obviously can't tell my MIL what to do and it's totally unfair to say we don't want the nephew to come, it's what I feel like saying. Only because it affects my son so poorly. I don't know what I'm doing here. Venting? Asking for advice?

My sister in law (my nephew's mom) thinks it's funny and says it's typical cousin behavior but I disagree. It's not funny to me or to my neurodivergant son. Two months of our lives are going to be disrupted because this woman wants to dump her child onto someone else so she can freely do whatever she wants at the expense of my kid. That was probably insensitive... but I'm angry. I'm so angry.....

My son is five. The potty talk is driving me absolutely insane. I don’t mean swear words. I mean butt, fart, poop, peepee, etc. everything is farts and poop and everyone is a peepee head. After his bath he kept pretending to pee on the floor and making the “psssss” noise and laughing hysterically. I had to walk away from him bc it wouldn’t stop. He’s even getting in trouble in school for “bathroom talk.”

He has adhd so idk if it’s worse and he’s getting a dopamine kick from it or why but I’m TIRED of this phase

Hi guys my son is 5. He was diagnosed ADHD and ASD level one when he was 4. When he was diagnosed his developmental ped was very hesitant to diagnose him and said he didn’t think he’d “keep the diagnosis of ASD as he aged.” He’s due for an appointment and I was speaking to the doctor and he said he wouldn’t be shocked if my son no longer meets criteria come time for his appointment.

I’m confused. I thought autism was for life? Does this mean he never had it? Or still has it?

My son is five and attends full time pre-K 4. He also plays tball and has a ton of games during the week and weekends. I work full time as a special education teacher. On the weekends I am f***ing fried. If I’m not cooking or cleaning, I’m trying to relax. My husband is a cop and depending on his schedule sometime he has off multiple days in a row. When this happens, he picks up our son from school and he takes him to the park with his friends, the mall, out for lunch, etc. I’m so grateful and he loves his father so much.

My husband is going to a concert with friends in day and asked me what I have planned for me and our son today. I said…nothing? Just hang out at home or play in the yard because I’m exhausted. I laughingly say, “does that make me a bad mom?” He goes, “well yeah….” Excuse me? He goes on to say that during the week they are always out and do so much and he needs to be socializing on weekends and not cooped up at home.

I feel like shit. I’m just so burnt out…..