u/HeyPesky

My 18 month old has never been a good sleeper, but we've slowly been finding our way.

Starting aroudn 12m u​ntil about 3 weeks ago, she would go to bed in her floor bed with me nursing her to sleep, then sleep most of the way through the night most nights.

Then about 3 weeks ago she started cutting her canines and hit her 18-month sleep regression​, and now every single night it is 2 to 3 hours of playing around, visibly exhausted, getting increasingly agitated and rough with my body, and once she finally does fall asleep, she wakes up at 2:00 a.m. and 5:00 a.m.

She is also regressing on biting, so these bedtime situations are exacerbated me standing up so she can't access my boobs anymore for a couple of minutes after she bites.

Naps have become complete chaos, she used to be routinely going to sleep at 11:30 a.m. and now sometimes she will pass out in the living room at 11:30, and other times she will fight sleep as hard as she can until she doesn't go down for her nap until 3:00.

I am the primary earner in our family and because I'm still nursing, the primary one putting her to sleep. We have a consistent calm bedtime routine, she doesn't do any screen time, and her room stays dark at night.

At this point, my work, my health, and My overall psychological well-being are all suffering because I am spending somewhere around 4-5 hours a day, just sitting in a room with a toddler who refuses to sleep and that is time that I needed for work or rest.

At this point I'm starting to consider just putting a crib in her room and doing ferber method, which I have been staunchly opposed to doing because I value attachment parenting and I really enjoy cuddles with her, and the fact that she needed me to sleep wasn't a problem... But the fact that she needs me to be in the room while she refuses to sleep and completely loses her mind if I leave before she's passed out, is.

Help!

For the past several months we've had a pretty decent household routine where I help our toddler go down for her nap (she's still breastfeeds and comfort nurses to sleep), then I start my work day and get a solid 45-hour chunk in before dinner.

She's had an easier time with me not being around if Daddy is the one to greet her after nap and I stay hiding in my office.

For the past week, however, she has been completely inconsolable when I'm not there. When she wakes up. He'll try taking her outside or engaging her in fun activities or just being present for her big emotions. And nothing works. So I've been cutting my work days short because it's not like I can focus when I can hear my toddler having a meltdown for over 45 minutes anyways.

Well, now she's decided that naps are for suckers. Her (short) naps have been the only time I've been able to get anything done.

I am our primary breadwinner and I am not winning bread right now, I am barely maintaining my existing clients and I'm at only half the workload I need to be at for us to be breaking even. My husband has been applying for jobs but they either don't call him back or offer something insulting like $12 an hour.

I don't know what to do. I can't work after she goes to bed, because she's also lately been launching into party mode at 7:00 p.m. which is her usual bedtime, and not settling down until 9:30... At which point I need to sleep because I've been up since 6 with her, and I can't function at all on too little sleep.

I want to cry. I had so much to get done today and I'm not going to get any work time because she is skipping her nap. Have a doctor's appointment this afternoon and I'm pretty sure she's going to cry herself to sleep while I'm away at it.

She's 16 months old... I'm not sure if I need advice or empathy or maybe both.

My now 15-month-old was consistently using the potty for all of her poops and about 70% of her pees since she was about 6 months old.

She had a significant regression about 3 months ago, when I had shoulder surgery and it got difficult to set her on the party, we'd have to wait for my husband to come put her on the potty when she needed to go.

Now that I'm able to lift her again, we are starting to reintroduce the potty and we've been catching her poos and getting her on the potty for most of them, but she's really regressed on pee pee in the potty.

The latest thing is that she will spend a long time hanging out on the potty reading and relaxing, and then hop off of it, squat next to it, and pee.

Is there such a thing as a squat potty for toddlers? Anybody have any ideas what to do?

Currently I don't react strongly, I just pick her up and put her back on the potty and say pee pee goes in the potty and then after a few minutes enlist her help in cleaning up the pee.

Hey friends, I could really use some emotional support from other parents with ADHD right now. However, when I tried to look up ADHD parenting subreddits they're all people talking about how difficult their ADHD kid is, which isn't really the community that I'm looking for right now.

Are there enough parents in this sub that I can talk about my parenting challenges (as a parent who has ADHD, with a husband who is autistic and has ADHD) here?