u/HiddenReader2020

Hi. So I was browsing this subreddit (don't ask why), when I came across this topic, and more specifically, this comment thread. It's the perfect example of what I hope to make more peaceful and not necessarily agreeable but willing to talk, from the thread title. Too often, I see debates like these derail because people just wouldn't cooperate and just do what was asked, or at least play along, because at least in my view, if they did, things would turn out SO much better. For example, one person asked something, another person asked something, the first person provided with something, and then that something gets dismissed or ignored, and so on and so forth. Throughout the thread, I was looking at one guy in particular and thought "couldn't he just at least 'entertain' (from his point of view) their debate points so things go so much easier?", so it doesn't result in a comment thread that frankly made me pound my desk and want to do some bad stuff to myself in front of them to get them to cut it out.

And it's not just this subreddit. I see it ALL the time, no matter the political orientation, but I guess to focus on liberals, since this *is* the appropriate subreddit for it, anytime I see stuff even remotely like this, I feel pushed away, as a potential ally, yes, but even as a supposed neutral bystander, I'm way more likely to disengage, or at least want to disengage, due to all the infighting and fighting and bad vibes coming off of them.

So that's my query. Thanks in advance.

Hi. In case you aren't familiar, the 20 game challenge is meant to help people learn game programming by completing projects that slowly ramp up on complexity over time so people A) aren't overwhelmed, and B) have a clear idea and curriculum and roadmap as to where to go and how to go places. I thought that was pretty neat, so I wanted to try and find one for non-game programming...and I couldn't find one.

The troubling part is that I'm sure there are plenty of similar 'challenges' or 'curriculum' out there, it's just that trying to find them that's like the 20 game challenge is, well, challenging, and I need help in finding such a place.

Thanks in advance.

Hey, so I had a fight with my mom just now, and she’s very close to, or is right about, having enough with my behavior. Much of which I would say is derived from my Autism (hence me posting here). She wants me to move out as soon as possible, so I started quickly looking at options for serious this time (I’ve done this before even without fighting, soooo…)

However, the first couple options I found didn’t seem to be suitable for me. The first one was one where I am apparently “too normal” for (My autism is level 2, not 3), and the second is more an academy than like a group home or state home or any other kind of living for Autistic adults like me.

And even more, I don’t know how I can vet these kind of living places to ensure that they’re best for me. So I need help in figuring out in finding a place for me where I could, if not live on my own, then live somewhere…more peacefully.

Thanks in advance.

Warning: Super long post. Also possibly a bit ranty. Apologies in advance.

So ever since a couple days ago, I've on occasion wondered what path or job is available to someone like me. One of the responses that's cropped up whenever I ask a question like this is to apply for SSDI, but one thing that I should probably mention more often is that I did try, several times, but there's a key condition that's preventing me from doing so: I'm...still technically working. Despite being disabled.

To be specific, the question asked in the form is this:

>During the last 14 months, have you been unable to do any substantial gainful work because of illnesses, injuries or conditions that have lasted or are expected to last at least 12 months or can be expected to result in death?

Now when I first answered this, I said "no", because I felt like that was the right answer, especially when I checked the "More Info" toolbox for, well, more information on whether I qualify or not. And based on that info, I clicked no. ...and I'm completely blocked.

If you're wondering, the work is that I help out my mom at her store in a flea market for various things, like putting prices on items, and restocking a couple specific sections, or even manning the cash register sometimes. On average once a week or every two weeks, I also need to unload merchandise from her car. However, I don't work even remotely for every single hour. Even during the weeks where I was working five days a week, and I stayed at the store for like 47 hours per week, my actual working hours would be at best 30 hours, if I'm lucky. Nowadays, it's more like working 10 hours in a 26 hour work week, but in my opinion, even that is enough to be considered a "substantial gainful activity", hence me answering "no".

In case you're wondering, the rest of the hours is used for bathroom breaks, food breaks (lunch, dinner, and yes, even breakfast), and actual breaks. During the actual breaks, I find myself doing more menial stuff on my phone, partially because of the environment not being conducive to more productive stuff like reading non-fiction help books on my phone, and partially because I'm still recovering from all the work.

This is also why putting this on a resume is awkward at best, due to the nature of the work itself. It was generally safer to leave it off, since trying to frame it in a 'resume friendly' way doesn't work, since even the work itself is suspect on whether it's 'official' or not.

Anyway, I don't want to answer 'yes', because that could be considered a dishonest answer. And giving even a remotely dishonest answer right here could result in, I dunno, the government sending ICE my way and putting me in a 'camp' or something. That's now paranoid I am about this whole thing, and why applying for something like SSDI is near-impossible, if not outright. Because technically, I am still "able to work" despite my disability.

Oh yeah, my disability. To be specific, it's level 2 Autism. Now, I wondered if I had any other disorders that just weren't diagnosed, but I asked my therapist about it today, and they said that Autism in at least my case is an umbrella that could cover a wide range of symptoms that would normally be used to identify other disorders, like ADHD, Anxiety, Depressions, and so on and so forth.

Side note, yes, I do visit a therapist. It's something that gets mentioned to me a lot, despite me already seeing one. So know that seeing a therapist is already being done.

Anyway anyway, that leads me to what kind of options are even available to me, job-wise. At first, I thought that my options were basically limited to family work or menial part-time stuff like food delivery driver, or retail worker, or fast food worker, or etc., very few of which, if any, are even remotely suitable for me, and NONE of which are able to provide a full enough income to live on my own.

But then I wondered if I'm thinking too little, so I thought about asking here or somewhere else. I'm hoping that there could be an option that I hadn't considered that A) Is a good fit for me, and B) is sustainable enough for me to live on my own. For some financial context, I live in Florida, so costs are probably going to be way higher than you might expect.

However, there are a LOT of obstacles that I have that can shut down all sorts of options. For starters, I am not physically fit, so something like ‘trades’ wouldn’t do well for me either.  I also can’t do nighttime jobs for hopefully obvious reasons.  I also can’t do much in the way of customer service or sales.  Even if I could do something like a normal transaction on a cashier, as soon as something abnormal happens, like having to answer two customers at once, I immediately am likely to panic and melt down.

For an even more unique obstacle, though, I also have a phobia of greenery and vegetation.  This includes the likes of plants, flowers, and yes, even food.  So almost every single vegetable, for instance, is a no go for me.  And this can also apply to printed patterns on various stuff as well.

This leads to another obstacle in me finding any kind of job:  I can get, for a lack of better term, ‘traumatized’ very, VERY easily.  Almost comically easily.  The aforementioned example of having to answer two customers at the same time is a good example of just how little it can take to ‘traumatize’ me and leave me with intrusive thoughts that still occur to this day.  Heck, just walking past two people arguing with each other or a parent scolding their child is enough to develop an ‘intrusive thought/memory’ that will haunt me for years and decades to come.

How long has this been going on?  Well, I have intrusive thoughts and memories from all sorts of incidents going all the way back to elementary school at least, so imagine all of that, but multiplied a thousand or a million fold.  Or more.  Now, as far as work related risks, go, my mom has recently put me in the back more and more as my deficiencies in handling the front are more and more exposed, but I still have to be called to man the front eventually, and…well, it always risks me developing another episode or two each time.

Now you might be wondering "Well why not work on these issues so they're not as much of a problem?" Well, in my view, just trying to work on these issues can be an obstacle in of itself; in other words, trying to 'heal' from them can also be traumatic, or in other other words, trying to deal with my issues may be more trouble than its worth. While I could be wrong, and even if I'm technically am, I'm still fearful enough to not want to risk it.

So why not reach out to disability services, then?  Well, back in November 2024 to May 2025, I did.  And after months of searching for an ideal job for me, it was ultimately concluded that I needed to ‘work on myself’ first before continuing my job search.  Now, this mostly entailed on working on my social skills, but unfortunately, not only have I made very little progress in that department, I don’t see much potential or a ceiling in reaching said skill level.  Now, before you ask, I am also including handling things when things go wrong, which I am…urgh.  I don’t want to think or talk about it.  Just know that this area has no hope for improvement, like, ever.

Now I can see merit in reapplying and offering a new angle, which I have considered, but I called back some time ago and never heard back.  So there’s that.  Maybe I should try again and do it more ‘officially’ this time, but my hopes are low enough that I haven’t gotten around to it yet.

As for very specific paths, one path that's been on the up and up as far as suggestions go is nursing. Yeah, no thanks. That's not a path I'm interested in, just generally speaking. Also finance, outside of some general bookkeeping, which...good luck finding positions for those.

There's probably more that I'm missing, but that's what I got for now. So yeah. Tall ask. I don't know what to expect, but I do hope that responses are.....way more gentle than last time.

Thanks in advance, and thanks for reading.

Hello again. So I've been following Brackey's Godot tutorial, despite it being over two years old, but it seemed good enough. ...and then I read the comments and found that key parts of it are outdated. Juuuuust great.

So now I'm currently on the hunt for tutorials that are recent enough to not 'suffer' from any sort of outdated-ness. I'm also looking for exercises and projects that function like exercises that are also recent enough to be applicable and usable to improve, though the recent part probably isn't as urgent for these as much as the actual tutorials. However, it would be appreciated if they were.

For those that are reading this from the future, I'm using Godot 4.7 as of July 2026.

Thanks in advance.

EDIT: Oh yeah, forgot to mention: Don’t mention the docs, as I’m already familiar with them. I’ve done the 2D step by step tutorial, and am planning on doing the 3D one…eventually. But it’s on my list, so no need to mention it. Sorry about that.

If you’re wondering why not the traditional methods of protesting, you may assume that the people have assumed that those methods are not sufficient to bring the change they want, and thus will have to resort to more “drastic” measures to get the change they desire.

Hey there.  So despite being away from the larger Pokemon franchise, I have kept up with various YouTube stuff that are related to Pokemon, with VGC being one of the most notable.  I’ve been waiting on the mobile release because I figure that it’d be better that way for me, and now that it’s here, it’s finally time to jump in!

…or is it?

See, I have several questions in regards to this whole Pokemon Champions thing, some of which are more economy-based, and others involve actual battling.  For the record, I do have a bit of Singles experience in non standard OU and Little Cup, but not much.  But enough to know some fundamentals.

1. What’s the best way to optimize the beginning of your account?  From my experience, there can often be optimal ways of making the beginning of your account more efficient to better set yourself up long term.  I know that this is the case for Master Duel, and I was wondering if there was something similar.
2. How necessary are the cash purchases?  One thing I am surprised about from what I can tell is the seemingly lack of repeatable microtransactions, outside of like monthly passes, but that’s not entirely the same thing.  Despite that, though, I assume that they offer similar bonuses.  my goal is to make team building as painless as possible, if that matters.
3. What’s a good way to figure out my “style”?  I know I could just jump in and battle and go from there, but I fear that any starting conditions I create would build biases that would skew the results.  As such, I’m wondering if there’s a better way of going about this.
4. How bad is the RNG?  I saw the most recent regional, and holy cow, is the RNG usually that bad swingy?  I know Pokemon is filled the brim with RNG, but still.
5. How awkward would it feel if I had skipped gen 9 and the Gen 8 DLC (so no Urshifu or anything like that)?  I skipped S/V for…reasons, and Legends ZA for…slightly different reasons, so I feel like I might be missing some context, for a lack of better phrasing, and I’m worried that’ll impact my experience.
6. This might be a bit early, but how is performance on the iPhone?  More specifically, an iPhone 15 Pro Max?

Thanks in advance.

Hey. So there I was, just sitting there instead of studying to upskill myself, wallowing in an existential crisis of sorts that I've realized recently:

I don't want to work anymore. The idea of doing so...well, if it doesn't inspire the darkest of thoughts, then a part of me wished it did.

All I want to do now is indulge in my hobbies, desires, and passions.

And yet deep down, I realize that I still need to get any sort of job to get a stable income.

But I know for a fact that unless I get extremely lucky, a HUGE majority of jobs I'll get will not be enough to cover my living costs.

How much? Well, by my estimate, I'd need at least $3000 a month at a very, VERY low ball estimate. The actual number is likely hundreds of dollars higher. And tell me. What kind of job can pay for that much in that little amount of time for even a full time job, let along a part time one?

So...why not just go out and get a job regardless? Well, I have way too many obstacles to list here, but I'll list them if anyone is interested.

What about leaning on your own skills? Well, I have huge pockets of my life where I thought I developed some resemblance of skills, and yet at best, they're irrelevant to the point of might as well not existing, and at worst, not existing at all. And that kind of realization has put me even more down than before.

And again, to reiterate: this 'ideal' job would have to cover huge amounts of costs, and there are loads of other alternatives and options that are just a no-go for me for a huge amount of reasons. Some of which I'll expand on if prompted.

So that's where I'm at. I really should expand on all of the stuff that I just mentioned so you can get a better picture/history of what I'm talking about, but I'm too down to do so right now.

Thanks for reading.

EDIT: And before you ask, yes, I am currently going to therapy. It's nowhere near enough.

Hey, so recently, I asked how certain project ideas were considered beginner tier, and one consistent comment involved libraries, and how my unfamiliarity with them was one of the main causes. This certainly 'felt' right, so I figured I should continue with at least getting familiar with certain libraries, like the Django library in Python Crash Course, which I had just attempted to read. But after a little while, I was truly overwhelmed, and I felt that I could not continue in good conscious.

This left me thinking: There's got to be a better, more gentler way of being familiar and practicing with libraries. I have so many questions and concerns about how to tackle getting more familiar with libraries and how to apply them.

One question that I have in mind is: How do I know which libraries to use? For example, one of the practice project ideas I found involved making an RPG character sheet. How would I know what libraries to use, if any? And I'm not necessarily (just) talking about the standard libraries like random and time. One other practice project I mentioned in that topic was a PDF comparison project, and it was mentioned that a library would do the job real quick. Well, how was I supposed to know to use a library without being told? That's the kind of situation I keep worrying about, but applied to an endless array of ideas.

And even when I do figure out what kind of library to use and practice, I could run into the Django problem of being overwhelmed all over again, and not being able to continue as a result. What do I do then?

Like I said, I have so many questions and concerns, many of which admittedly hadn't been materialized into actual words I could communicate with, but I don't want to clog up this post with any more examples than necessary. Regardless, I need help. And reassurance. And an adult. (Yes, I am also an adult. Why do you ask?)

Thanks in advance.

Hey, so recently, I've been trying to figure out what my big life goals were, and one of the subgoals was getting more proficient in programming, even though I already have a CS degree from 2019, but I digress. The thing is, I got my CS degree at least partially (if not primarily) as a 'backup' plan for my true goal at the time: Video Game Development. However, I've realized that having that as a 'backup' plan and not diving headfirst into a Game Design degree...may have actually screwed me over, since I didn't entirely focus on one path or the other, and thus leaving me in this weird limbo for more than half a decade at this point.

There were several points in my life where this dilemma reached critical mass, and this is one of those times, now. When I picked up programming, my main goal was to make video games. However, by this point, there are plenty of video game engines like Game Maker, Unity, Unreal, and now Godot that really could do this job without having to do even more raw programming for various stuff. Actually, especially looking back, this was true back then as well, but it's even more true now.

Hence my current dilemma: Should I stick with studying raw programming and CS concepts and skills, or just dive fully into video game development via the engines mentioned? Now, if you're wondering why I couldn't just do both, well, time and energy are limited, especially for someone like me.

Or maybe do something like Pygame, getting the best of both worlds? Funny thing is, I just went through a practice program that involved making a video game in Pygame, and THAT was the critical impetus for making this kind of post, since now that I've done both, coding in something like Game Maker (though nowadays, I'd probably use Godot) for the purposes of making games is VASTLY more preferable to coding stuff in Pygame, so that path is out of the question.

So that's where I'm at. I asked this question elsewhere, but got little to nothing in regards to answers. So I'm asking here hoping for more concrete and more...gentle advice, if possible.

Thanks in advance, and thanks for reading.