u/HotDay3410

My oldest turned 17 today, I planned a party for her and she invited 10 of her friends plus we had family there. It was originally supposed to be outside but the weather was shit so I decorated the screened in porch for her and thats where she and her friends were while the adults hung inside (I live in a single wide, theres not much room 😅).

Anyway, the party started off great, everyone was having fun but it went downhill quick. My daughter has anxiety and is also on the spectrum, she gets overwhelmed quickly, she came to me starting to panic because of the chaos and I gave her a hug and got her calmed down so she went back out with her friends. Two of the boys had gone to grab a card game from their house and as they were walking into the porch, one had a small ball in his hand and he threw it at my daughter as she was turning her head (extremely hard, I literally saw it happen) and it hit her square in the nose. She started crying, got up and went to the bathroom. I followed her, got her calmed down and she decided to go back out. I could tell she was trying not to have an anxiety attack but she pushed through. The kid apologized, everyone started having fun again but I heard my daughter yell at her friends multiple times to tone it down because they were super rowdy and there were several times she came to me on the verge of panicking. We got through dinner and cake and then came time to open gifts. Things were fine but then I started hearing some of the other kids say something along the lines "thats not something you buy for a friend". All of a sudden my daughter comes in the house bawling. One of her best friends got her deodorant, body spray, body wash, and socks (not fun socks, just a generic pack).

My daughter gets bullied constantly for being the "smelly kid" in school. She showers everyday but no matter what she uses she deals with bad BO. Theres no shortage of deodorant or any other hygiene products in our house. Her friend sees what she goes through everyday.

Daughter goes to the bathroom to try and calm herself down, I pull the friend aside and explain why she's upset, nicely and calmly. Friend tells me she didn't know what was in the gift bag because her mom put it together, I tell her I understand and that its not that my daughter doesn't appreciate the gifts, just that its not an issue she wants to be reminded of. She says she understands and we go back to the party. While I had her friend pulled aside, my daughter came back to the party and told her friends it was time to go (the party wasn't suppose to end for another 30 mins) and that she just didn't want to celebrate anymore.

She was so upset and my heart broke for her. This was not how I wanted this night to go. After the friend that got her the deodorant got home she texted my daughter and told her she didn't want to be friends anymore because my daughter was "playing victim and humiliated her". So now my daughter is even more upset and hurt and my heart is hurting for her 😭