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Management has started giving software development projects to employees who are not engineers and have 0 computer science or even programming experience. How will they complete these projects? Vibe coding!

In the beginning, I saw them struggling a lot. They didn't even know what to prompt the LLM, let alone how to evaluate its output. I saw horrific security risks. Repos were absolute swamp messes. They inevitably consisted of two branches, one called main and the other some cryptic string that had numbers in it. The cryptically-named branch had countless commits, each co-authored by Claude, each containing 50+ changes spanning the entire code base.

I decided to pour myself into conveying the fundamentals of software development to my colleagues. I thought it was unfair they'd been given software development tasks with 0 knowledge of the field. I balked at the specter of technical debt and security gaps looming before our entire team. I've spent hours laying out best practices and giving tips, holding the hands of my colleagues as they wade through their projects. I'm the only engineer who has volunteered and spent time doing this, and I'm also the only woman on the entire team.

The result is predictable. I should have known.

As they started delivering and receiving praise for their "accomplishments", they started to act arrogant and secretive around me. Some of the ideas I shared with them, they would ask if they could try their hand at, and I excitedly said yes, that would be a great learning experience! They would then ask me for the exact specs, feed them into Cursor, get a working app, and turn around and present the app to the team to great applause. No mention of it being my idea. No mention of how I told them exactly what they would need and how they came to me 15+ times to make sure the LLM's output was correct. One of them even came to me after presenting my idea in a meeting and said bashfully, "That was your idea, right?" As if the guilt had gotten to him, but not enough to actually tell the others it was my idea.

The arrogance is baffling. I overheard one colleague telling another how he used to be impressed with a former employee, because that employee hand-coded some interfaces. He said, "Bruh I could vibe-code something way better-looking in like 5 minutes!" Silently I'm thinking to myself, Because you have no idea how it works. You literally don't even know the name of the stack the LLM used to create that. If you sat in front of a blank text editor and tried to code ANYTHING by hand, nothing would come out.

The secretive part is what really irks me, though. They still depend on me to deploy anything. I noticed it earlier this week: my colleagues started asking me vaguely about deployment, without saying what they want to deploy. It annoys the hell out of me. Just be upfront and say what you want.

They want to feel they 'built' something from start to finish. They don't want to have to hand things off to me. Mind you they're still coming to me for help throughout the actual building phase.

I noticed this secretiveness particularly because there's a larger project one of them has been vibe-coding that I assumed I would need to deploy once he was finished. I asked him earlier this week if he could send me his repo, and there was this weirdness in the air. He and the other colleague glanced at each other. Later, when I had headphones on, I heard them talking about how the one was going to deploy the project, just give him a few days.

In the end it was too complex for them and I had to take over anyway, but the whole atmosphere has really gotten to me. Even while deploying this project, I had to change a lot of the code because it was full of the dead-ends, loops, weird dependencies and bloat you can expect from a vibe-coded app. I asked the author if he had the API key his project needed, and he goes "Nope. Migrated it to this other API"

Yeah bro, your code is still asking for the first API key. I just can't imagine someone else spending so much time and effort on my project, and replying to their question with "Nope." (While being wrong on top of that). And not immediately giving me the API key he thought his project needed??

He has yet to thank me for deploying this for him.

It hurts. During meetings the guys all praise and thank each other. Multiple times I've had to fix things that my male colleagues recklessly vibe-coded, and many times I've sat down one-on-one with a colleague so he wouldn't look bad in front of the others. They never say thank you to me in the meetings.

It's made me like AI even less. AI has taken a lot of the fun out of software development, because management expects 10x the speed from me and I don't have time to code by hand. But now I've also got a bunch of 20-something guys around me who think they're software engineers on par with the rest of us who have 10+ years experience in this field.

My therapist opened my eyes to this and since then I've wanted to communicate it to every woman I can.

My therapist explained that malice is always composed of one or all of the three: envy, jealousy, and greed.

All men come from women. All women come from women. Nobody, male or female, comes from a man.

The beginning of every person's universe is fusion with Mother. A small part of a greater universe: that universe is Mother. Even for ~2 years after birth, Child sees Mother as an extension of itself. They are one, one organism.

There is no Father. Mother uses genetic information from a male human to build Child, but that male human could die days before Child is even conceived and it would have 0 impact on Child. The only reason males have influence over Child today is because men have inserted themselves into this dynamic (even inserting themselves into birth itself: look up Louis XIV and how he changed the way all women give birth for his benefit). Studies show it's the involvement of the "tribe", and not specifically Father, which fosters happy, healthy children.

For this reason alone, men envy women. They resent the fact that they were utterly, inextricably dependent on women, and that unlike girls, they can never grow up to become that Creator, that Universe.

Freud spoke of penis envy, but in recent years we have been allowed to give voice to the much more obvious reality: womb envy. The ability to form life. A penis is fragile. A vagina is a ring of strength; a womb a center of creation. Who has more reason to be envious?

In fact, it's possible that for the vast majority of human history, humans lived in matriarchy. It was only natural to worship that which creates life. Keep this in mind: humans have existed for ~300,000 years. We only have recorded history going back ~5,500 years. It's very likely that we are living in a tiny blip in which envious, resentful men have usurped the natural order and we see the results of that all around us: demolition of the ecosystem, slavery, human trafficking, oppression of the innocent by the envious (my therapist also told me white people envied black people, and look how that has played out), horrific wars. Men cannot create, but they can destroy.

Look at the stories men have told themselves. Creator is male, Woman comes from Man, Woman is Evil, Woman is Temptress, Woman is cursed with childbirth ("childbirth sucks anyway, I don't even want to be able to do it!!").

But if you read many accounts of women, they describe childbirth as empowering, painful and yet beautiful. A man declared childbirth to be a curse - and why would he do that unless he was envious?

In their stories, the divine order is God, Man, Woman.

Notice how Man has to write stories and force his narrative upon others. Woman simply is what Man wants to be. Woman is Creator, Woman is Originator. Our truth persists in spite of thousands of years of men attempting to convince themselves of the opposite.

One illustration of this is the concept of 'male lineage'. EVERYBODY KNOWS WHO THE MOTHER IS. Men invented the concept of 'male lineage' because they felt left out. In reality, it doesn't matter who the father is. It only matters that Mother-Child is healthy and happy. This is biological reality. Mitochondrial DNA is passed virtually identically from mother to child and can be traced back thousands of years matrilineally. What do we need male surnames for? The father merely supplies an ingredient, everything else is done by the mother - and yet somehow at the end of it all, the father's name is slapped on the child. Why? Envy and jealousy.

The other massive reason men have to envy women is sexual power.

Men desire women. Women have incredible, undeniable sexual leverage. Every woman could have sex with multiple men a day if she wanted to. In fact, our sexual leverage is so enormous that men will literally pay money to access our sexuality. No woman has to pay money to obtain sex from men.

Of COURSE men envy this.

That's why men call us sluts and whores for having sex. It's not because they think we're inferior. It's because they know our sexual leverage is incomparable to theirs and they hate that.

Nothing else makes sense. How could they spend hours a day viewing naked women and beating their meat to them, while in the same breath cursing these women?

It's only because they hate that these women are so desirable, and have such sexual advantage.

When you envy somebody, you want to destroy her.

Look on Instagram. Look at women making posts simply celebrating their own beauty, and the literal hundreds of men that gather in the comments, utterly ripping her to shreds, shaming her, telling her she's ugly, worthless, a slut, a whore, a cum dump, a public toilet.

That is ENVY. That's what envy looks like.

The other day a group of men called me a whore (mind you I've slept with 2 men in my life) and I replied that having lots of sex and being desired isn't an insult, it's a compliment. The men all viciously replied some variation of:

"Having a lot of sex as a woman makes you a slut, as a man it makes you a stud"

IT'S RIGHT THERE IN OUR FACES. THEY WANT TO HAVE AS MUCH SEX AS WE COULD HAVE, SO THEY TELL US IT'S GOOD FOR THEM BUT SHAMEFUL FOR US.

I'd like to end this post with positivity: When we're faced with somebody who outshines us, we can either choose to envy her, or we can choose to love and celebrate her shine.

There ARE men who choose to love, celebrate, cherish and protect women. And those are the only men I want to be around, personally.

Anyone else?

I’m just swollen and weird and stiff and numb, one side of my face is bigger than the other, my nostrils are uneven also I’m losing hair after the surgery and just look blech…

After the first few days of course

I'm on day 10 and just started putting a warm compress on my face instead of ice, and it's a game changer for me!

I bought a couple of those gel bead masks off Amazon. I'd kept them in the freezer, but you can actually stick them in the microwave, too.

I think this is the one I bought (any of them would work): mask

I keep it on about 20 mins, and after I take it off, my face is warm, pink, and the swelling feels somehow "looser".

What a warm compress does is pull blood to the area. You might think this is counterintuitive for swelling, but the flow of blood also helps to transport waste away.

Try it out! Again, after the first few days, after your swelling has peaked. This is for when you're in the "plateau" phase of swelling.

I watched this film for the second time tonight. On a second viewing, the arc of the story is far more apparent to me.

Zendaya's character is genuine, pure of intention, trusting of those around her. She is the victim in this story. Nearly everybody else is her assailant.

Charlie (Robert Pattinson) appears insecure in himself and weak-willed, but I think he's actually darker than that. I will return to him.

Rachel is the most clear attacker. She hates Emma from the very beginning of the movie. She probably hated her from the moment she set eyes on her. I am guessing this is out of envy -- Emma is genuine and emotionally secure, something that can cause a fractured person to want to destroy her.

Rachel's first line in the movie is telling Emma that she looks ugly when she cries. She immediately "conceals" this attack, in the way social assailants do, with obfuscation. She meant the 'general you', not Emma specifically (this doesn't really make sense, and that's the point: it misdirects attention from her malice). It's a hidden jab intended to take Emma's confidence in herself down a notch. The entire time Emma is talking about her feelings for Charlie, Rachel is sneering and questioning her statements. ("Really?" "But you're 30.")

The next scene we see Rachel is the big revelation that Emma once planned a school shooting. It's clear that Rachel was malicious from the beginning of this conversation. She does not like Emma. I think that no matter what story Emma would have shared, Rachel would have used it to rally a vicious attack against her. She leapt at the opportunity to hate Emma openly.

You can see this because there is no logical reason to hate Emma based on her confession at all. Rachel had immediately excused Charlie's story with the fact that he was only 14 at the time. She'd excused her husband and herself for the things they actually did.

Emma did not actually DO anything. And when she'd "planned" to do something, she was only 15 -- but Rachel immediately throws this in her face: "So it doesn't count just because you were 15?" despite excusing someone else on the same basis literally moments earlier.

The other interesting thing is that what Rachel did was actual evil. As she openly admitted, with zero remorse, she acted on sheer impulse. Not an instinct to defend herself. She viewed her mentally handicapped neighbor with contempt. Without reflection, without pause, she tortured him simply because she wanted to. It was a literal senseless act of cruelty. And to this day she feels 0 guilt about it.

Emma does not try to excuse what she did. She apologizes for having had the idea at all.

I think this interaction, besides setting the plot of the movie into motion, lays the juxtaposition for the victim and assailant. Emma is pure of heart and struck by the weight of her mistakes. Rachel acts out of malice and feels no guilt.

Now Charlie: I don't think he actually loves Emma. He has no sense of self, and he clings to her because she has a sense of self.

During this interaction with Emma, Rachel, and Rachel's husband, you can tell that Charlie doesn't know how he should react yet. He wants to laugh, just as he's laughed at everyone else's stories. (As an aside, I think his own confession wasn't real -- he just made it up to answer the expectations of the group. I suspect he's done very dark things in his life, as he does later in the movie, but he would never say something that would risk exposure of his true self. He says something vague that doesn't sound interesting or convincing).

But as Emma's telling her story, and answering follow up questions, Charlie is just laughing, hesitatingly, and glancing around at the others. He has NO IDEA if her confession warrants condemnation or not. Shockingly, as someone who supposedly loves Emma, he is waiting for the others to make up their mind before he's made up his own.

And so all the fall out and crisis Charlie goes through is not grappling with whether he can forgive his fiancee's past. It's whether the person he's attached himself to is still laudable in the eyes of others.

You can see this because he doesn't even try to empathize with Emma and her pain as a teenager. He's simply trying to figure out whether the things she's saying are good enough for everybody else. When Emma says she didn't go through with the shooting because someone else did first, instead of seeing that his fiancee was touched by the victims and the reality of a shooting, Charlie says, "So basically someone already stole your thunder?" Ie that's the only reason you didn't do it?

Instead of seeing that connecting with those around her alleviated Emma's distress and dissolved her anger, he asks, "Didn't you feel like a fraud?"

In other words, he has NO UNDERSTANDING of his fiancee's emotional reality whatsoever.

This culminates in him desperately trying to get the "OK" check mark of approval from one of the 'others', namely Mischa, regardless of her level of integrity. Because it was never about that for Charlie.

When he lamely 'defends' her at the wedding, he isn't crying out for his fiancée's dignity. He's crying out for mercy for himself.

Emma is beset on two fronts by fractured, morally bankrupt people. Her fiancé and her best friend. They are swirling around her, attempting to assassinate, hoodwink, and use her to soothe their own lack of selves.

It's only day 6, but my face is just so heavy and tight and tingly. I can't hardly take it.

Am I going crazy? My free trial expired today, I have been trying to buy the software, but the store page literally has two links that do nothing: https://www.literatureandlatte.com/store/scrivener

If you click on either of the two options presented, nothing happens. I even examined the URLs in the buttons, and this is what they are: https://www.literatureandlatte.com/store/scrivener#!

The buttons literally just add '#!' to the end of the current URL.

HOW DO I BUY THIS SOFTWARE.