u/HumbleJellyfish-1984

A few days ago I found out my bf of 3.5 years has a wife. I've been through all the emotions anger anxiety fear sadness lonliness. Ive thrown up about it and couldnt eat. Even had a crash out on the internet. Today I have started to feel a little better physically but still mentally I am spinning. I feel like there is a huge hole in my life and my heart. To make things worse we live in a small town, I will likely have to see him around. I am 34 I feel so old to be dealing with this.

What do I do now?

How do I move on?

If something like this ever happened to you what made it better? How did you move forward?

Here's the situation. Ive [34F] had a bf[33M] for around 3. years. He is Indian. When we got together he swore up and down that me being white would not be a problem and he is free to date whomever. Fast forward to a few weeks ago. He has given me an engagement ring, set up an appointment at courthouse to get married and paid the fee, has 3 tattoos dedicated to me, one of my name and two of portraits of face, we have been actively trying to have a baby for more than a year, has paid most if my bills and given me thousands of dollars a month, we text, call, and see eachother constantly and he stays the night, he told my kids he loves them and wants to be their step dad.

I just found out he got married in India 2 years ago ( lied about a vacation) and she is actually here living with him in the US since a year ago. (I never went over to his house because he said he parents do have a problem with me being white)

I know his parents have known about me this entire time and even knew we were trying to have a baby. They have showed up at my house multiple times to confront me but for some reason didn't tell me about his wife until this time. I saw the wedding photos. He told me his parents keep his passport and important papers locked up to control him

Over text he admitted the marriage was fraudulent and forced by his parents. He said he didnt want to get married but was too cowardly to say no. He has slept with her a few times and she doesnt know about our relationship or history at all. When I asked about the tattoos he said she has never seen them. ​He got the two large tattoos of my face while he was living with her here. She works at his parents stores all day I guess but doesnt speak much english and is completely dependent on his parents for support. I blocked him and am trying to process.

This is clearly marriage immigration fraud. I have hundreds if not thousands of texts proving we have been engaged trying for a baby and planning a future together since before they got married. I feel like this is so wrong for both her and I. Should I report this to marriage immigration? ​I have found information that she will be given help and allowed to stay because she was defrauded as well. But he would suffer pretty strong consequences and likely so would his parents. ​