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i've just kinda been jumping around the series these past few days watching all the arcs (The Replicator is my fav). I wanna know what are the episodes you come back to the most? and what about them makes you wanna keep rewatching?

Kia Ora! i'm currently a sociology undergrad in wellington, looking to pursue a masters in social work at auckland university.

i wanted to get some perspective on people's experiences within the MSW(professional) degree. is it worth it? how was the application process? how was the placement experience? what was the workload like? was it more essay/fieldwork focused or was there exams too?

anything helps! thanks so much team :)

Kia Ora! i'm currently a sociology undergrad at VUW, looking to pursue a masters in social work at UOA.

i wanted to get some perspective on people's experiences within the MSW(professional) degree. is it worth it? how was the application process? how was the placement experience? what was the workload like? was it more essay/fieldwork focused or was there exams too?

anything helps! thanks so much team :)

kia ora! as the title states, i'm looking for a cheap or preferably free alternative to grammarly. I've been using grammarly since intermediate iirc, and the last year or so i have been painfully shilling out $50 a month for the pro version; but cost of living is making it hard for me to justify the price of pro. the free version works fine, but that extra bit of help that pro offered really saved my ass when i felt like i was off track.

i'd really like some suggestions that are a cheaper alternative to grammarly pro, so anything helps! thanks team :)

Hey all!

my partner and I are travelling from NZ to brisbane in late september and were wondering what are some of the favourite spots around town. we are here for about a week and already plan on going to the Jim Henson Exhibit at the art gallery (our hotel is like 5 mins away).

we are both particularly nerdy and we love a bit of live music. any op-shop/bar/card store/music store recommendations welcome :) thanks team!

i dont want this to a be a pro vs anti AI debate so please don't make it that.

i can understand to an extent that they want people hyped for the franchise again, especially with more and more streaming services offering the og trilogy and tbosas. i just dont like the way AI is used in almost all of the trilogy clip thumbnails!
i saw one of Mags from the fog scene in catching fire and whatever AI they used to "enhance" the image made her look like an older Phoebe Bridgers!!!

i just wonder if Suzanne Collins has any say about how her franchise is being represented, especially since the overarching theme of sotr seemed to be very anti-AI.

idk. it's just been really putting me off recently :/

i've been a bartender for about three and a half years now, ive had three bartending/front of house jobs but this main one i've been at for around 2 years.
tonight was really bad, i had to wear the industrial ear muffs we have in our tech room because of my sensory issues; it felt like everything swelled and turned up to 1000%. i'm home now, but i hate feeling like that and i usually end my shift 10x more exhausted than i should be.

does anyone in the service industry, specifically bartending have any tips for how to navigate/regulate? even if its just sharing a ritual for before or after your shift. anything helps, really!

my work is good about neurodivergence, my company is partnered with the Sunflower Hidden Disabilities organisation (i have a pin i wear on my uniform since we aren't allowed lanyards) and they've let me chill in the kitchen and do dishes when i'm FOH, but its a bit difficult when i'm behind the bar and have to stay there (security reasons). all my managers know i'm neurodivergent and are incredibly accommodating which im so grateful for; i know a lot of people in the service industry don't have that.

i've been a bartender for about three and a half years now, ive had three bartending/front of house jobs but this main one i've been at for around 2 years.
tonight was really bad, i had to wear the industrial ear muffs we have in our tech room because of my sensory issues; it felt like everything swelled and turned up to 1000%. i'm home now, but i hate feeling like that and i usually end my shift 10x more exhausted than i should be.

does anyone in the service industry, specifically bartending have any tips for how to navigate/regulate? even if its just sharing a ritual for before or after your shift. anything helps, really!

my work is good about neurodivergence, my company is partnered with the Sunflower Hidden Disabilities organisation (i have a pin i wear on my uniform since we aren't allowed lanyards) and they've let me chill in the kitchen and do dishes when i'm FOH, but its a bit difficult when i'm behind the bar and have to stay there (security reasons). all my managers know i'm neurodivergent and are incredibly accommodating which im so grateful for; i know a lot of people in the service industry don't have that.

mild spoilers for Obsession (2026).
General question, I know the movie is supposed to make you feel awful. I mean like, in reference to BPD.

I watched Obsession tonight with my partner and came out feeling heavy, nervous and anxious. I found myself constantly asking them on the drive home "do I act like that?" and "do you see Nikki in me?"
obviously, they reassured me that no, I do not act like Nikki and that Nikki didnt even know she was acting like that herself. which is true, and I know it.. but I cant help but feel that way.

I felt like the movie opened up my chest and took every single episode, split, and meltdown i've had and turned it up to 100, then tried to stuff it back between my ribcage. I almost walked out on multiple occasions and when the movie ended I didn't know weather to cry, scream, throw up, or everything at once.

I'm just wondering if anyone else has felt like this? did you see all of your episodes manifest in Nikki? how are you faring afterwards? idk. maybe I just need sleep.

Kia Ora Whanau!

As the title suggests i'm looking for a practice outside of the VUW uni drs, being conscious of my financial situation and how regularly i'm at the drs.

i posted about this earlier on the VUW subreddit but basically i'm very frustrated with the way i'm being treated at Mauri Ora. their response to people looking for SSRIs and other mental health help has been disappointing at best, and after a mental health crisis i've suffered, i'm starting to think that Mauri Ora isn't for me. I also go to a nurse tri-weekly for a HRT shot but i'm learning to do it myself.

if anyone has any suggestions about practices that are conscious about uni students but still manage to provide good healthcare (long shot, i know) that would be greatly appreciated. Chur!

I love a good headcanon. can be one you've conjured up or one you've heard online! i want to hear them all!

Mine comes from my own head, I headcanon Finnick as polynesian decent. kind of a self-insert as i am also polynesian, but the clothes he wears in catching fire/the way he's drawn in the illustrated version are very similar to some of our formalwear! it's a hc i love talking about and building more onto :)

give me your favourite headcanon of your favs!!

Just looking to vent but i'm not opposed to advice.

Basically i'm really frustrated with the way i'm being treated at Mauri Ora and was wondering if anyone else has felt these frustrations?
i've been trying to get some help for my sleep and mental health for around two years now, and everytime i bring up my concerns i'm referred to this "health coach" or "heath nurse" who isn't associated with the drs and is just there to give you wellness tips (is what i gathered).

this really, really pisses me off. i've tried to tell whoevers reffering me that i've probably done whatever this "health coach" tells me i need to do, but every time im brushed off. but its true!! i have been struggling with sleep for years and my mental health for even longer, i've literally had to put getting SSRIs on hold because my GP has told me to wait six weeks, even after a serious mental health episode which Mauri Ora knows about. do they think i haven't been trying?
it's gotten to the point where i've even been downplaying physical health issues in fear of not being taken seriously.

i know the most logical option is to change my GP and file a complaint but i have so much other shit piled up on me i don't feel like i can. i think, though, if i'm at this six week appointment and i'm not prescribed meds i will file a complaint because this is medication i am in desperate need of.

again, i dont know if i'm looking for advice. maybe i just need other people to share their frustrations with me so i don't feel like im crazy for feeling overlooked.

I don't even know if this is the right sub to post this in I just need to get this out to someone. I've been dealing with BPD symptoms for the better part of four years now. some days are better than others, and due to therapy from a while ago, I'm no longer splitting as much anymore.

Last week though, that changed. I had one of the worst splits since 2023. crying, hyperventilating, suicidal thoughts, frustration and anger at myself, everything felt bad and horrible like I forgot what happiness and joy felt like. A lot of things had happened to me from February-present that had been weighing on me and all of a sudden, it snapped and I couldn't help it. my partner was with me, and though I no longer scream or throw things during my episodes, all of that balled up hatered and anger is directed inwards and it causes me to have a lot of scary thoughts that I thought I got rid of.

I booked an emergency flight to my hometown alone and have been here for around a week now, with plans to head back early next week. I feel better now being home and surrounded by my main support system but a part of me feels shitty and bad and like I havent progressed or changed in my healing journey. Another part of me is terrified to go back to the city I live in because what if this happens again? what if it's worse this time and I fully revert back to the person I was during my most violent episodes?

I don't know if im looking for advice or support or what. Like I say, I don't even know if this is the right sub to post on. I just needed to shout into the void of Reddit so I can sleep.

Hey team!

Just looking for some help with my Surface Book 3 Laptop. I have the laptop with the detachable screen (button on the keyboard) which I have only used a handful of times. I mainly use my laptop for school. I got it refurbed from a third party website for around $800NZD with a 6 month warranty (since passed).

these past few weeks, however, my laptop has become unusable. it started with the 'U' and 'backspace' key not working. nothing was stuck under it, it just decided to stop working. as time went on pretty much the entire right half of my keyboard has stopped working. as I said, I use this laptop for my uni so it's thrown a wrench into my studies.

I know nothing about laptops, so my partner factory reset it to no avail, then took to to a tech store to see what they can do. we got quoted over $500NZD to fix it because its apparently a hardware issue.
theres been no help from microsoft since we found out theyve stopped servicing Surface Books, which sucks. and to just get the keyboard half of the laptop would be over the original quote we got from the tech store.

I'm just wondering if theres any use trying to get a second opinion on fixing it? my mum suggested i send it to her city so she can have a look around but I really need this laptop for school. Or should I just cut my losses and dip into my savings to get an entire new laptop? please help a brother out 🥲 I'm very new to this. literally anything helps.