not asking for advice (but im so open to it), moreso curious if anyone else is in this boat.
i thought we were both recovering, if not recovered! suddenly theyve taken a turn in how they speak about this, and i dont know how to handle it with grace.
semi recovering and i can't do this shit anymore. if anyone's found a way to cope with this, or way to counteract it, please share
does anyone have experiences/opinions/advice, for maintaining a relationship like this? i love my partner and i want to do better instead of worrying or irritating them
context: ive been upset at myself for not being able to do more than text daily. now my side of the conversation feels spacier every day; i dont know what they see in me to love anymore. we're in different countries, but im not making enough to move
being employed/going around people used to be against the rules, but my mother's just given me the pass to "go get a job"
WHAT do i do now? im scared to; it wasnt encouraging. but she meant it. i live nearby plenty of stores, but i dont know how to get an in...
if anyone gets where im at, please give your opinion !! i need an adult
homeschool grad+parents wont bring me to college, so im enrolling online and just. so so lost. if any other adults have opinions from the outside world, i'd hear anything
i cant move out, not allowed a job yet, but i dont want to just stew in self pity like this. what does it do? my parents have never regretted raising us this way, isolating us, and continue to be comfortable. my depression(+) is an inconvenience, not something worth letting go of their control for. idk, im sorry. do any adults in this boat know how to cope?
so. my parents have given us "summer of 2027" as their "letting go" date, meaning i can finally job search. it has to do with an ocd fear of theirs, so im trying to hold out. im 21, the eldest. i want to get to my long distance friend, to live with her, but the idea of asking my parents to let me? even without abuse, im scared. i know the sentiment is that youre free at 18, but here it's not. im so directionless besides my friend. no other family
im living in the american midwest with parents; i dont have a job. working on a degree, but not worth mentioning.
long story short, i want to move here and start living with my long distance gf. gf has a stable job/income, and we've talked about me staying over at the apartment, but i feel lost. paperwork wise especially. and internet searches arent helping so far,, i have too many questions but want to narrow them
im an adult now, 20s. my parents have been strict my whole life, dont expect me to leave, but. if i have money to travel, can i do so without their permission?
additionally: could carefully explaining [my plans] first soften the blow? or make it worse
finally made a friend as an adult; one im closest with is in europe. ive known them long enough that all i want is to travel. i have enough money from leftover financial aid, for a ticket.
only obstacle is my parents. they know we're friends, but have never allowed me to do something like this, to make an adult decision. im terrified to bring it up. all id need from them is a drive to the airport, but i know theyre going to blow this out of proportion.
im so desperate for advice,, so anyone who understands this, please leave an opinion
CONTEXT: ex homeschooler+adult who's homebound/not allowed to get a job (parental control/their fear of illness). they say we'll be "allowed to do what we want" in summer '27.