r/HomeschoolRecovery

When I was homeschooled if I did something my mother wouldn’t like she’d say you wanna go to public school where the demons and evolution are taught???? You should be thankful I homeschool you! You’d be corrupted by the world!!!!

Your entire job as a parent is to know better. Your kids don't. Not only is this walking back any apology you could give and selfishly framing child abuse you inflicted in terms of your own personal journey instead of the child's, it shows that you fundamentally do not live up to the bare minimum responsibility you have as a parent, let alone an educator.

You have a responsibility to know better, or learn before you harm children. Homeschool parents view their children as property and not people.

So I just looked at a trial for a America homeschooling thingy and it's s SHOCKING. Like how are you guys even supposed to learn, and then of course it's just a pipeline to get a GED. You guys really aren't exaggerating also what's with gamifying this stuff oh my gosh. And when I lurked I only related to some loneliness here and there... Yikes

Bro, in my country homeschooling is more school like. Get your parents off this, public school is free. OMG

Finding this sub was legitimately the first time I ever felt truly seen. I promise this post has a happy ending.
My parents pulled me out of school in the 4th grade for a major move. The plan was to homeschool me for a year, and then once everything settled put me back into public school.

Then they started their divorce. My trust in my father was instantly shattered, and my mom told me so much about how he had betrayed her and hurt her. She made me take her side, and I did so wholeheartedly and blindly. It was a whole mess and I, an unmedicated ADHD child, put all my energy into video games and writing stories with my friends.
Even when my parents tried to teach me, I freaked out and lashed out at them. I didn’t have a support system outside of my friends, and being with my parents was too much. It was a lot, and I regret rejecting school, but it came from a place of fear and feeling the need to pour all of my time and energy into escapism. Eventually they both gave up. Even when they finally separated, and my dad tried to send me to a private school, I didn’t trust him and couldn’t stand the feeling of being controlled by him. I was also far behind my peers in math and it felt humiliating.
I eventually refused to go to school, moved in with my mom, and dropped it. After that, no one tried anything. My mom was too depressed from the divorce to get out of bed, much less get me an education, and I hated my father too much to accept any help from him.

When I got older, about 14, I realized how bad of a situation I was in. I started listening to history and literature videos on YouTube. I started writing, and learning about story structure and a lot more. I learned so much, but I still didn’t touch math. I begged my mom to put me into school. I tried to leave her to live with my dad again. I don’t remember much from that time, but I remember that the severity of her anger and manipulation whenever I would bring up that sort of change scared me. It was too much, too fast, and I was too scared to leave the familiar makeshift independence I had with her for the structure I would have to live in with my dad.

At 20, I got a job as a cashier in a pharmacy. It was a big, terrifying step for me. I had severe social anxiety amongst several other issues. At 21, I decided to try becoming a pharmacy technician. When I first started, I couldn’t even remember how to write out an addition or subtraction problem. At first, my cousin tutored me. Then, through time and pharmacy training, I figured out how to write out division problems and multiplication problems. I moved out of my mom’s house to live with my wonderful partner, who moved from across the country to live with me. We’ve been together for almost 6 years now. At 23, barely a year after starting my pharmacy technician training, I passed my final exam with a near perfect score. The passing score was 1400, and the maximum was 1600. I got a 1591.

I learned to be more confident. I learned that I was capable. I learned how to talk to people.

A week ago, I quit that pharmacy job. I quit because I was starting community college. This Monday, May 18th, was my first day of school in almost 10 years. Closer to 15 if you ignore my two-month private school situation.
I am finally in a real history class. I’m taking Introduction to Algebra to make sure I understand the fundamentals of college math. I’m taking a college English class.

You do not have to have a traditional education to get where you want. I have a cobbled together transcript based on what I managed to teach myself. You don’t have to follow a traditional timeline. You don’t have to become your own multi-subject teacher in a mad dash to fix everything. If all you can manage is baby steps, that is fine. That is allowed.

You’ve got this. It took so long for me to get to a point where I felt safe enough to start school. You can turn your life into what you want it to be, piece by piece. It just takes time. You are on no one’s timeline but your own.

i’m carrying so much complex untreated trauma, but i don’t know how to put it into words. it feels so surreal and weirdly invisible? its affected me so deeply but i can’t explain it. it all feels like a blur. everything has been too overwhelming to process. i need a hug ngl

Hello! Ive been homeschooled for only around 4 months. Im in 9th grade, i am getting seriously effected by it. I can no longer read long things, focus, or write. In public school i was always bored and lonely since i had issues agreeing with my friends. But looking back this boredom allowed me to be creative, i would constantly draw and write long stories and i would get excited about things. But now i sit at home. All day. I still have one friend but since i dont have a drivers license yet or a job i dont ever see my friend. At public school i would be able to sit in a silent room with people around me and just relax, i didnt need a screen. But now since i have nobody around me and im a very social person, homeschooling is like hell. I cant focus on my school work without having youtube playing right next to me. And if im being honest being homeschooled makes it SOOOOOO easy to cheat. I know i shouldnt, but when i started i immdiently started cheating, and now its too late into to school year to stop, my end of the year tests are next week and i know NOTHING. My brain has been ruined by homeschooling. This summer im gonna get back into writting and reading and next year im gonna work harder to actually do my work instead of cheating.

Hey guys, first time posting here, sorry if I mess something up. I’m 17 and I’ve been curious about some mental stuff.

To put it simply, I pretty much don’t care about people dying. Genuinely, if my best friend, someone I love, or even a family member died, my brain just goes, “welp, guess I’ll need a new one.” I used to think this was normal and that everyone thought this way, but I told ChatGPT and apparently it’s not.

Some other things are that I don’t really care if I live or not. I’m way too scared to kill myself, but if I could just snap myself out of existence painlessly, I probably would. At the same time, I don’t really identify as depressed. I stress a lot about things, get bored easily, and sometimes feel empty, but I also have fun sometimes, I think. I’m honestly not really sure. My emotions are kind of up and down.

I do remember feeling a lot lonelier and more depressed as a kid than I do now, although I still feel mentally unstable.

I think overall it's a strange experience because I don't think I'm as depressed as other people here, but this "feeling" that I have is really confusing.

Here are some other stuff probably more unrelated.

1. Time is messed up: I sometimes feel like things that just happened happened ages ago.

2. Reality feels distorted: Sometimes I don't believe anything exists, and that it's just me who actually feels "consciousness.

3. I overthink things: While pretty common, I overthink things so severely and hyper-focus on literally nothing.

That's it thanks for reading.

My mom is literally obsessed with sending me to a GOOD international university. And believes in the whole graduated at 17 now having a computer science degree bullslop. And she feels I need to get into homeschooling. A AMERICAN DIPLOMA. She wants me to get an AMERICAN diploma.

My home country curriculum is fine and I was doing well, my mom even wants to learn prestigious admissions. I get it, her intentions are pure but my mom will do a lot of damage because she doesn't know what she's doing.

I get it, I too care about admissions but ughh. How do I tell her in the kindest way to just back off. I wish she knows that as she's looking into international home school curriculums, they are obviously lacking in rigorousity.

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I’ve been homeschooled since COVID hit when I was 7, and because of a lack of supervision on online programs, I fell incredibly far behind.

I’m in 8th grade now but I never memorized my multiplication tables, my spelling isn't great, and the academic gap feels overwhelming, especially since my mom said we would work on 7th-grade math over the summer but we never followed through with it. On top of that, I haven't regularly seen kids my own age in six years, and turning 14 soon just makes me feel completely lonely and isolated.

My dad fully supports me going back to public school for 9th grade next year, but my mom is completely against it, getting angry and telling me that "life isn't a Disney show" and that I should stay home to go to college early. I don't care about college right now; I just want a normal education, real teachers to help me catch up, and a chance to make friends, so how can my dad and I convince her to let me go back?

Once I started being homeschooled in the 3rd grade my parents stopped taking me to get shots and became specifically anti-vax during the pandemic (especially my father). I need to catch up on my vaccines if I want to go to college so I found a low cost clinic online and set up an appointment. I was really worried about the price, I'm technically insured and 18 but with my dad being as anti-medicine as he is I was worried he would freak out if he saw a charge on there (it's his work insurance I am under). So at the clinic I explained my issues and after talking with each other a bit they let me get the vaccines for free, they said they "loved seeing young women take charge of their health" lol. I have a few follow-up appointments but am otherwise on track to being fully vaccinated ^^

I low-key just watch tommyinit and his friends from 2021 just fucking around and having fun. In his vlogs, mod vids, or old streams whatever it just helps. Just watching people living life and having fun really helps ig

Ive been homeschooled in my tiny quiet village since 7 and its really lonely, I sit inside all day and it makes me sad. We dont have a library, no nature walks, no activity clubs, no hobby stores. I cant even make any friends because theres no schools within like 40 miles so no other kids live here. Ive tried getting into other hobbies I can do but I just want to do "normal" things like other teenagers

I promise. That is all, that is the post.

I grew up in central Texas in the 1990s. My mother has serious mental health problems—perhaps borderline personality disorder, severe depression, and/or unresolved trauma—and was abusive and neglectful. My father has similar issues and was especially abusive and neglectful. They are antisocial and hoard.

They withdrew me from public school in 3rd grade, put me in a small Southern Baptist private school for 4th grade. Was not conservative enough for my mother's increasingly quiverfull-ish leanings. Then they withdrew me from private school in 4th grade, started homeschooling. You know the drill: they did not do a fucking thing. I became depressed, anxious, eating-disorded, self-harming, and suicidal.

I experienced educational, medical, and psychosocial neglect. I experienced severe emotional and serious physical abuse.

I am 42 years old now and it got much, much better. I do not want to describe exactly how it got better, because that can look different in so many ways—and describing one path forward can seem exclusionary to others.

Just want to make space for an "it gets better" discussion.

Hi, so I have been homeschooled for quite some time and I feel I am definitely behind in a lot of subjects. My parents are pretty supportive, and I love them dearly, but they have definitely neglected me in my education. The reason why they decided to homeschool me and my sibling is because of mental health (ADHD, autism and severe depression). Sometimes I wish they had left me in public school so i could have a somewhat normal childhood. All I know is that mom will try her best to get me back to speed. I do feel socially behind. I mean, I do have 1 really close friend though. It was probably really hard to homeschool me because I struggled with regulating my emotions and motivation a lot when I was younger, but that's when she should have done something about it like therapy. but does anyone else have a similar experience of still loving your parents knowing they have done wrong and trying to fix it? I'm grateful that she never blames me and has always tried. Does it get better from here? And are there things I should be doing?

I don't know what to do. I can't leave the house. I'm incredibly afraid of talking to people as is. Even online. I don't know what to do.

Last year my mom blocked my anti homeschool dad everywhere so now they communicate through me but they just argue and argue and my mom makes me lie to my dad about getting education and my dad isnt any better, putting pressure on me to prove my education and making it seem like my fault 🥲 im so so tired of this i dont know what to do anymore

I tell people that I'm homeschooled and they say they're jealous and they'd give anything to be homeschooled. Maybe its great if your parents aren't religiously brainwashed and didn't treat you like shit. I started being "homeschooled" when i was about 10, in 6th grade when Covid hit. I already was a bit of a weird kid and but I always had at least one friend. I liked school not because i enjoyed learning but it was an escape from my terrible homelife. Yeah i got picked on but it was bearable. I was stuck at home every day with my abusive step mom who would punch me and choke me when I didn't understand something. I'm away from her now living with my cousins at my grandparents' house. My grandpa is a narcissist and attempts "homeschooling." he grades nothing, verbally berates my and my two cousins daily among other terrible things. I dont feel like i've truly learned since 5th grade. I feel like ive been stagnant and under stimulated to the point i've been diagnosed with Depression (and PTSD from my step mom). I've been promised that next year I can do a curriculum online and for a few months I was genuinely excited until they decided that they would take it back. I'm trying not to cry while typing this I just want this to end so badly I just want to get away. I used to SH a lot now I either drink or vape instead because people made a fuss about the scars. I probably sound like some edgelord, I guess I am since i get very limited social interaction and whenever im forced to go to Church youth group i feel extremely anxious and I keep to myself so I dont look like a massive idiot. Thanks for listening to my rant, i hope nobody else experiences this but i know there are others like me too out there.