u/Icy_Skin_7590

If you could be reincarnated as an animal, which one would you want to be and why?

Ill pick out my favourite answers in 24 hours.

My former boyfriend is currently transitioning into my girlfriend. No biggie, I love her and she has my full support.

The problem is that she has really thick, black body hair all over her body. She shaves it because it makes her feel better, but she gets really stubby again after just half a day.

So when we lay in bed together in the morning (we both sleep without clothes) and one of us rolls over to hug the other, I immediatly have this absolute horrible itch all over my back and side and chest and arms and legs and its *awful*.

But also when I then move away or simply tell her that this feels really bad for me, it makes her feel dysphoric.

She hasnt started hrt yet and I know that none of us it at fault here. I just hope that maybe someone has some advice.

Edit: thank you all for the advice :) we will look for some proper hair removal cream and invest in a soft pyjama once the temperature goes down.

Since Ive lost a bit of wheight a while ago, Ive been thinking about getting a belly botton piercing, but I have some concerns Id like to ask people with that piercing.

-How much does it inconvinience you during healing and after?

-Can it make wearing certain clothing difficult? (aka high waist trousers, thight shirts...), Is it uncomfortable when wearing thight clothes?

-Can I safely sleep on my stomach with it?

-How intense is the cleaning routine during healing?

-Would I have to take it out in case I gain wheight again?

-Is there some kind of difference in an upper and lower belly botton piercing regarding healing and discomfort?

Thanks in advance <3

Okay, so I know that in america, you have limited sick days for some reason, and when you are out of those, you have to take your vacation days when you are sick.

Now lets say you are out of both, so you have the option to either starve and go homeless because you are not getting paid or dragging yourself to work while half dead when you are really really sick, not just a cold or something.

And now I cant really imagine it to work out for someone, both the employees and the employer, to do costumer service or any kind of work at all while not even being able to stand up properly/ throwing up everywhere/ falling half asleep/ shitting themselves once an hour/ almost suffocating while having a coughing fit/ being delirious from fever, you get what I mean.

Kurz ein bisschen Hintergrundinformation:

Ich habe eine bescheinigte geistige Schwerbehinderung, Behinderungsgrad 80. Hat dazu geführt, dass ich aus meinen angefangenen drei Ausbildungen geworfen wurde, weil ich meinen Chefs zu dumm war, bevor ich das endlich bescheinigt bekommen habe. Dann ein paar Maßnahmen von der Arbeitsagentur gemacht und inzwischen arbeite ich seit einem Jahr eine 20h- Woche als Aushilfe in einem Handwerksbetrieb.

Ich bin halt etwas langsamer, brauche etwas länger und man muss mir Sachen manchmal öfter erklären. Als Ausgleich dafür bekomme ich vom Amt eine Eingliederungshilfe.

So weit, so gut, mein Chef kann mir legal 4€ die Stunde zahlen und hat eine billige Arbeitskraft, die kleinere Aufgaben übernehmen kann, damit die Gesellen und Meister in der Halle nicht mit Sachen wie Aufräumen oder Ware schneiden und verpacken beschäftigt sind.

Alle sind damit zufrieden und ich gehe gerne zu meiner Arbeit.

Nun muss ich alle sechs Monate zu meinem Eingliederungsbeauftragten beim Amt und dem erzähle ich dann, wie es so läuft.

"Ach, Herr xxx, das klingt doch super. Vielleicht können wir ja jetzt anfangen auf 30 Stunden hochzuziehen."

Nein. Nein können wir nicht. Fickt euch.

Die 20 Stunden Woche funktioniert super, weil sie mich auslastet, ohne mich zu überlasten. Ich habe insgesamt 3 Jahre in meinem Leben eine 40 Stunden Woche gearbeitet und es war jedes mal die miserabelste Zeit meines Lebens, weil es mich psychisch komplett gefickt hat.

Ich *kann* nicht mehr leisten als das. Ich hab's versucht und es hat jedes mal mit einem Klinikaufenthalt geendet. Klar wäre ein bisschen mehr Geld super, aber wofür? Damit ich nach ein paar Monaten wieder anfange, mich alle zwei Wochen krank zu melden, weil ich es nicht schaffe aus dem Bett zu kommen?

Aber immerhin sieht die Statistik im Computer dann besser aus.

Edit: eben kurz zur Erklärung, ich bekomme Mindestlohn. Mein Chef bezahlt aber nur 30% davon, der Rest kommt als Eingliederungshilfe vom Amt

If you dont know what waiting mode is, its when you have an appointment, like a doctor or a phone call, in the evening so you spent the entire day waiting for that appointment instead of doing something.

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Now, this is probably gonna sound silly, but what has really helped me with this are alarms because it helps immensly with my anxiety of being late.

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Im going to my mom later in the day today, so Ive structured through my entire day beforehand.

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-Half an hour for getting ready (brushing teeth, combing hair, taking meds, etc.)

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-Half an hour for breakfast.

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-Half an hour for packing my things (my meds, a water bottle, my wallet, umbrella, sunscreen.)

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-One hour for chores I wanted to get done today. (And its not the end of the world if you dont get all done within the time frame youve set for yourself.)

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-Half an hour for searching out an outfit and getting dressed.

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And now I have everything I need ready and can use the last two hours to play video games, as Ive set another alarm for half an hour before I need to leave. The trick is to leave plenty of puffer time in between. I know that I dont need half an hour for breakfast, but I still plan it like that so I wont be stressed while doing it.

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This has been extremly helpful for me to deal with waiting mode, so I wanted to share :)

My family comes from poland. My grandma tried to raise me and my siblings catholic, my parents left us the choice if we want to believe but still took us to church on easter and christmas, I am also baptized.

When I was a kid, I was pretty sure that things like god and religion (I only knew of catholism at the time) was a very large make-belief we all played along with. Like the Tooth Fairy or Santa Claus.

We pretend like its real because its fun and interesting, but we all know its not that serious, right? Its all just a game, right?

And then I got older, I had a communion, and I kinda realised 'hey, people actually take this a lot more serious than Santa Claus. They didnt build large, beautiful buildings because its fun, they build them because they actually believe there is a man in the clouds watching their every move and reading their thoughts.'

I dont mean to thrash on religion, do what makes you happy, but when I had that realisation at a child it was wild.

So, Ive had my split for around a month now.

Since then Ive been to three doctors that had to look into my mouth. One for the stitch removal, one because I had a small bubble on the underside of my tongue that had filled with saliva and needed to be popped and one as the annual dentist.

All of them were warned in advance "hey, just a little warning, my tongue is split in the middle"

All of them looked completly horrified as I opened my mouth and asked: "...did you do that volentarily? 😨"

Like girl, whats the alternative? 😂

"I licked the tip of a knife. All the way down to the frenulum. It was a mess."

"I got blackout drunk at a party and my friends thought it would be a funny prank. 🤷🏻‍♀"

Long story short, tell me about your most interesting reactions of doctors regarding your mods :D

If this isnt allowed its totally fine for the mods to delete it.

Im in a bit of a pickle. My boyfriend doesnt like noodles, he says he doesnt like the texture and the taste, which is totally fine, everyone can have their preferences.

I love noodles. You just need a sauce and some veggies and boom, you have a nutricious meal. I mostly prefer them because its quick and easy to make. Until now when I have cooked noodles for dinner he has either very reluctantly ate it or cooked himself something else, but it would spare both of us time and effort if I found something thats equally easy to make, filling, and fits good with sauces.

Does someone maybe have an idea for how we can find a middle ground?