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I’m 54 and just tried blow dry cream for the first time. I have no idea how it works but my hair dries so much faster! It is like magic!

I have very fine 2a/b and sadly thinning hair that I put tons of product in since that gives it body once it is all dry and looking good but it usually takes forever to dry. I usually give up before I’m done cause I can’t be bothered and then I see the thin areas on the back where my cowlick wasn’t dried and teased…. Anyhow I feel like I don’t know how to talk to girlfriends about stuff like this and I don’t know what to do myself. They all seem to be "leave my hair to air dry and it looks great" folks. I wish. I like that natural look but not how much scalp it shows or how much hair gets in my face…
I wanted to share since I assume others would like their blow drying to go faster (I’m using seen unscented).

And also hear about anything you have discovered. Please share!

I tried static nails and they don’t fit my nails well. My natural nails are too curved underneath so the sides kept popping off. Also the short ones were too short and didn’t cover my natural nails completely. Medium oval looked nice but I want the option for short press on nails that will be long enough to cover my short natural nails sometimes.

My nails/skin is pretty sensitive so I like the idea of tabs to attach nails since that seems less likely to cause a reaction. I bought some cheap tabs from amazon to try but they didn’t hold anything so I gave up. Or some sort of thicker glue that doesn’t run everywhere?

Any brand suggestions? I’m tired of buying stuff online that doesn’t work for my body.

Retail Brand: none

I am on a journey exploring my own neurodivergent nature lately and trying to better understand how I differ from NT people. I am realizing that I have surrounded myself with neurodiverse people (both diagnosed and undiagnosed). I wonder how much of that is due to my artistic pursuits and interests. I have a music degree. Our "couple best friends " met in art school together. Another good friend has 3 kids, 2 went to circus school and one starts art school in the fall. My sister also has a music degree and my brother has a jazz minor. (Funny he’s the only one of us making any money at music now.) My mom has an art degree. My nephew is in NYC trying to make it on Broadway. Various other artistic talents throughout the family for sure. Those are just some examples. I know there is much speculation about Mozart having ADHD and other artists being autistic. I was asking my husband who we know well that we are confident that they are NT and we both were drawing a blank.

This is, of course, just an intellectual exercise but does perhaps being neurodivergent bring something essential to being an artist or can a truly NT person be a successful artist too?
Obviously ND is a spectrum and how it impacts each person is different. I am not saying that every ND person is a gifted artist in some area. Just that to be a gifted artist does one perhaps need at least some amount of ND?

I’m not nearly as oily as I once was but I’m certainly not dry however my skin is still aging and not as firm and plump as it once was. Losing 70 lbs over the past 3 years probably doesn’t help either.
I have been using Froya for the past 6 months and am really happy with it and my skin using it however since it is oil based when I apply anything water based over it they just don’t mix. Using primer and rubbing in the froya really well helps but I worry that isn’t the greatest for my skin.

Most days I want light to medium coverage. I have some uneven-ness and scarring from acne and since my skin is extremely pale and prone to scar it lasts forever. I have been using laura Geller balance and brighten but while the porcelain matches my winter skin the fair looks orange on me in the summer. And the fuller coverage version is too much. I have a liquid foundation I have been using for when I want fuller coverage but it isn’t doing me any favors. Last night I dressed up and was very disappointed at how my makeup looked and couldn’t figure out what to do. It saw many more wrinkles after I had my makeup on than before. I have been trying to use a tinted moisturizer but it won’t rub in over the froya.

To make things a bit more challenging I have sensitive skin and am quite scent sensitive so anything with a strong or long lasting smell I can’t use. Especially if it is a floral scent. I have tried a few makeup setting sprays but each one had a scent I couldn’t tolerate so I gave up.

Any suggestions for something that will look good on my not as oily as it once was but not dry however certainly aging skin? Something that may help to plump it up? Or at least not make it look worse?

I am long time dxed with adhd now self dxed asd at 54. My husband has a recent formal dx of adhd from testing and an informal dx of asd from therapist. I find myself wondering if I know anyone well who is neurotypical. Both of my children are dxed AuDHD. My mother considers ADHD to be simply being a person from my father’s family. (She brings the more asd traits to the gene pool). I think back and wonder who I have known in my life who wasn’t somehow neurodiverse. A couple that invited us over for dinner early in our marriage come to mind. We nicknamed them (to ourselves) “The Borings” and avoided their company after one evening together. Perhaps it was because they were NT and we just couldn’t connect?

I find myself thinking a lot about what I have missed or misunderstood from the NT world. In some ways it seems to me like no one is NT since I see neurodiversity all over the people I know well but then I read statistics about rates of asd and it isn’t a majority so clearly something is off. Either I’m misunderstanding the people I know (possible I’m sure) or I just naturally gravitate toward more ND people and “self select”.

Of course that makes it even more difficult for me to understand the NT perspective. Thoughts? Experiences?