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Ok but for real I tried getting a teacher and I find it so hard to pick up the grammar and you know Arabic is feminine and masculine etc it’s actually so hard omds
But I think I wanna try again, anyone have tips for a beginner? I can actually read Arabic quite well and my writing is not bad, it’s the speaking, im trying to watch cartoons in Arabic for starters

I am so tired of people calling me strong and basically telling me ‘you’ll be okay anyway’. No i am not okay and I haven’t been for a very long time and it is exhausting. People really just want you to move from ‘sad’ to doing better.

That’s because most people do not know how to sit with pain they cannot fix. They want reassurance that you’ll survive it so they can stop feeling uncomfortable.

I feel like a lot of people do not realise how lonely emotional pain can become when nobody knows how to sit with it properly. Then when someone reaches breaking point or takes their life, everyone suddenly says “I had no idea.”

Sometimes being called “strong” just feels like people overlooking how tired you actually are and it frustrates me so much oh my gosh this is exhausting

So I feel like I’m quite a complicated person and I’m very aware of that. I’m currently on a solo trip and I’ve had a lot of time to reflect, and I think I’ve been feeling like this for a while but maybe ignoring it. I’m also in my late 20s, so I don’t know if this is just part of that phase where you start outgrowing people and dynamics.

Lately I’ve been feeling really distant from my friends, like I’ve either outgrown them or maybe just outgrown the dynamics I have with them. For context, I don’t have a big group — I have about 4 “best friends” (2 are twins and 2 are seperare) and I’ve known them for yearssss.Then I have 2 close friends I met around 2/3 years ago.
But the truth is… I don’t feel close to them anymore. I have no desire to see them, spend time with them or chat to them. They don’t even know I’m on my solo trip right now.

I know I’m not easy. When I’m struggling, I tend to isolate because I’ve been disappointed a lot and I find it hard to be vulnerable. So I go quiet, deal with things alone, then come back and try to be my usual bubbly, outgoing self. I’ll over-give, be present, be supportive… and then eventually I burn out again and shut down. It’s been a cycle for a long time. I think what I’m starting to realise is that I’m actually very curious about my friends’ lives. I listen deeply, I ask questions, I try to understand them properly and I’m glad I can be that for them. But I don’t feel like that same curiosity is ever returned to me.

There are things I’ve been dealing with for a long time and they have no idea. So therapy I’ve been in therapy for over 2 years, and I told them about it after about a year of me in. They acknowledged it and were glad I was getting help, but no one really asked deeper questions about it or checked in on how it was going. I don’t even fully know what I expected, but I know that if it was the other way around, I would have shown more curiosity and support.

And honestly… I don’t even know if I want to share anymore. Part of me feels like after all this time, if they haven’t been curious enough to really know me, then maybe they don’t deserve access to that side of me.

At the same time, something that’s been sitting with me is that my friends feel veryy close to me. They’ll say things like they can’t imagine life without me, and it almost shocks me because I realise… I can imagine life without them. And that makes me feel really guilty, like maybe I don’t value them the same way they value me.

I think they know I struggle mentally to some extent, but it’s kind of become a joke that I “ghost” or “need space” and it’s not funny to me. I don’t disappear for no reason. I do it because I feel overwhelmed, drained, and emotionally exhausted. Like they’ll be ‘Omds you’re gonna disappear again, or don’t do that’ but I don’t feel like I do it intentionally, I kinda get to a point where I shut down literally. At the same time, I’ve realised I actually feel really good when I’m alone. I enjoy travelling solo, going to the gym, going on walks, taking myself out it genuinely fills my cup.

What confuses me is that it’s not like I struggle to connect with people. I can actually make friends quite easily. Recently I even met a group of girls through TikTok and I genuinely enjoyed being around them. But obviously it was light and surface-level, not the same as long-term friendships.

So now I feel confused… because I know I can connect with people, but I still feel more at peace alone than I do in my actual friendships.

And now I’m at a point where I don’t know if I even want these friendships anymore, or if I’m just tired of the dynamic where I give so much understanding and energy but don’t feel that same depth in return. I don’t know if this is growth, or if I’m just isolating myself and pushing people away. Right now I’ve taken a step back, and I do feel more at peace in my own company and I don’t feel lonely because I have Allah and tbh that’s the only relationship that matters to me.

But I’m just interested if anyone else has experienced this??

So I feel like I’m quite a complicated person and I’m very aware of that. I’m currently on a solo trip and I’ve had a lot of time to reflect, and I think I’ve been feeling like this for a while but maybe ignoring it. I’m also in my late 20s, so I don’t know if this is just part of that phase where you start outgrowing people and dynamics.

Lately I’ve been feeling really distant from my friends, like I’ve either outgrown them or maybe just outgrown the dynamics I have with them. For context, I don’t have a big group — I have about 4 “best friends” (2 are twins and 2 are seperare) and I’ve known them for yearssss.Then I have 2 close friends I met around 2/3 years ago.
But the truth is… I don’t feel close to them anymore. I have no desire to see them, spend time with them or chat to them. They don’t even know I’m on my solo trip right now.

I know I’m not easy. When I’m struggling, I tend to isolate because I’ve been disappointed a lot and I find it hard to be vulnerable. So I go quiet, deal with things alone, then come back and try to be my usual bubbly, outgoing self. I’ll over-give, be present, be supportive… and then eventually I burn out again and shut down. It’s been a cycle for a long time. I think what I’m starting to realise is that I’m actually very curious about my friends’ lives. I listen deeply, I ask questions, I try to understand them properly and I’m glad I can be that for them. But I don’t feel like that same curiosity is ever returned to me.

There are things I’ve been dealing with for a long time and they have no idea. So therapy I’ve been in therapy for over 2 years, and I told them about it after about a year of me in. They acknowledged it and were glad I was getting help, but no one really asked deeper questions about it or checked in on how it was going. I don’t even fully know what I expected, but I know that if it was the other way around, I would have shown more curiosity and support.

And honestly… I don’t even know if I want to share anymore. Part of me feels like after all this time, if they haven’t been curious enough to really know me, then maybe they don’t deserve access to that side of me.

At the same time, something that’s been sitting with me is that my friends feel veryy close to me. They’ll say things like they can’t imagine life without me, and it almost shocks me because I realise… I can imagine life without them. And that makes me feel really guilty, like maybe I don’t value them the same way they value me.

I think they know I struggle mentally to some extent, but it’s kind of become a joke that I “ghost” or “need space” and it’s not funny to me. I don’t disappear for no reason. I do it because I feel overwhelmed, drained, and emotionally exhausted. Like they’ll be ‘Omds you’re gonna disappear again, or don’t do that’ but I don’t feel like I do it intentionally, I kinda get to a point where I shut down literally. At the same time, I’ve realised I actually feel really good when I’m alone. I enjoy travelling solo, going to the gym, going on walks, taking myself out it genuinely fills my cup.

What confuses me is that it’s not like I struggle to connect with people. I can actually make friends quite easily. Recently I even met a group of girls through TikTok and I genuinely enjoyed being around them. But obviously it was light and surface-level, not the same as long-term friendships.

So now I feel confused… because I know I can connect with people, but I still feel more at peace alone than I do in my actual friendships.

And now I’m at a point where I don’t know if I even want these friendships anymore, or if I’m just tired of the dynamic where I give so much understanding and energy but don’t feel that same depth in return. I don’t know if this is growth, or if I’m just isolating myself and pushing people away. Right now I’ve taken a step back, and I do feel more at peace in my own company and I don’t feel lonely because I have Allah and tbh that’s the only relationship that matters to me.

But I’m just interested if anyone else has experienced this??

So I feel like I’m quite a complicated person and I’m very aware of that. I’m currently on a solo trip and I’ve had a lot of time to reflect, and I think I’ve been feeling like this for a while but maybe ignoring it. I’m also in my late 20s, so I don’t know if this is just part of that phase where you start outgrowing people and dynamics.

Lately I’ve been feeling really distant from my friends, like I’ve either outgrown them or maybe just outgrown the dynamics I have with them. For context, I don’t have a big group — I have about 4 “best friends” (2 are twins and 2 are seperare) and I’ve known them for yearssss.Then I have 2 close friends I met around 2/3 years ago.
But the truth is… I don’t feel close to them anymore. I have no desire to see them, spend time with them or chat to them. They don’t even know I’m on my solo trip right now.

I know I’m not easy. When I’m struggling, I tend to isolate because I’ve been disappointed a lot and I find it hard to be vulnerable. So I go quiet, deal with things alone, then come back and try to be my usual bubbly, outgoing self. I’ll over-give, be present, be supportive… and then eventually I burn out again and shut down. It’s been a cycle for a long time. I think what I’m starting to realise is that I’m actually very curious about my friends’ lives. I listen deeply, I ask questions, I try to understand them properly and I’m glad I can be that for them. But I don’t feel like that same curiosity is ever returned to me.

There are things I’ve been dealing with for a long time and they have no idea. So therapy I’ve been in therapy for over 2 years, and I told them about it after about a year of me in. They acknowledged it and were glad I was getting help, but no one really asked deeper questions about it or checked in on how it was going. I don’t even fully know what I expected, but I know that if it was the other way around, I would have shown more curiosity and support.

And honestly… I don’t even know if I want to share anymore. Part of me feels like after all this time, if they haven’t been curious enough to really know me, then maybe they don’t deserve access to that side of me.

At the same time, something that’s been sitting with me is that my friends feel veryy close to me. They’ll say things like they can’t imagine life without me, and it almost shocks me because I realise… I can imagine life without them. And that makes me feel really guilty, like maybe I don’t value them the same way they value me.

I think they know I struggle mentally to some extent, but it’s kind of become a joke that I “ghost” or “need space” and it’s not funny to me. I don’t disappear for no reason. I do it because I feel overwhelmed, drained, and emotionally exhausted. Like they’ll be ‘Omds you’re gonna disappear again, or don’t do that’ but I don’t feel like I do it intentionally, I kinda get to a point where I shut down literally. At the same time, I’ve realised I actually feel really good when I’m alone. I enjoy travelling solo, going to the gym, going on walks, taking myself out it genuinely fills my cup.

What confuses me is that it’s not like I struggle to connect with people. I can actually make friends quite easily. Recently I even met a group of girls through TikTok and I genuinely enjoyed being around them. But obviously it was light and surface-level, not the same as long-term friendships.

So now I feel confused… because I know I can connect with people, but I still feel more at peace alone than I do in my actual friendships.

And now I’m at a point where I don’t know if I even want these friendships anymore, or if I’m just tired of the dynamic where I give so much understanding and energy but don’t feel that same depth in return. I don’t know if this is growth, or if I’m just isolating myself and pushing people away. Right now I’ve taken a step back, and I do feel more at peace in my own company and I don’t feel lonely because I have Allah and tbh that’s the only relationship that matters to me.

But I’m just interested if anyone else has experienced this??

solo travelling as a muslim girl is so cute because you meet other muslimahs everywhere and it’s always love!!!!! like the masjid wherever you go in world will always be home, but how also I think I find home in Somalis ???
Like today I met a Somali girl here in Malaysia and idk… it just felt different
like instant comfort,and such a wholesome interaction and it kinda was like awww because I don’t even have Somali friends like that… and I’d actually love to
as much as I love meeting muslim girls from everywhere, there’s something about meeting a Somali girl specifically that just hits different
now I actually wanna meet a Somali girl in every country I go to !😭

I’ve travelled solo a few times and I’m about to go to Kuala Lumpur, Langkawi and Singapore soon inshaAllah.

I recently came across apps like Travel Ladies and NomadTable and thought it would be nice to connect with other girls while travelling… but I can’t lie, it’s just not giving what I expected 😭

I don’t feel like I fully fit the vibe as a hijabi Muslim traveller, and it made me realise I’d actually love a space that’s more aligned with us.

Does anything like this exist?

Like a group/app/community for Muslim girls who travel solo and want to connect in a more comfortable, like-minded way?

Or even if there isn’t… would anyone be interested if something like that was created?