Not Greggs, yep Simmons. I thought that because Simmons is fancy and posh especially with all their massive fancy breads and pastries etc and stuff they flamboyantly put on show, that the sausage rolls only have 4 core ingredients. Yet its no better than Greggs, and greggs is AWFUL.
I did everything i should have done right, I Went to uni did a degree, (business information systems) did a masters degree, (Cybercrime Terrorism and Security) I can’t even find a job related to my degree and I’ve been doing part time shitty minimum wage jobs and i recently was let go of where i was working before at so I’m currently unemployed.
I feel shame because I’ve not had my first ‘proper job yet’ and I have sever pressure from parents, especially my dad to get one. (In his field IT). Even he has been out of contract for a year.
I did everything supposedly ‘right’ but now I don’t even know if I want to truly live long term now. Everything’s depressing.
I dont know what my future will look like, im highly ambitious, i want to start that business and this business, and I have so many goals long term but in the situation im in right now im just not sure.
Im starting to outgrow my parents house, I feel ashamed that im still living here, and living with them is not easy. Always being asked where im going and what im doing and it seems like its still very controlling even though im older now and not a little boy anymore. I would love to have money to move out but i cant get proper income from a proper job to save money and build something.
Everyone on social media, if not most people (instagram) seems to be living a great life. Travelling to all sorts of exotic countries, their highlight reels, pictures with loads of friends, experiences, pictures with their partner, doing fun things going to fun places, some are even getting engaged from my school and some even have a child. And I’m just at home 90% of the time, My dad says you should not be going anywhere or going to any place or seeing anyone or anything or friends until you get your ‘proper career job’.
In fact the life my dad wants be to live is Go to work. Then come home and stay at home all day. And repeat and repeat. He does not like me going ‘up and down the place’. and just wants me to stay at home all the time. He basically wants me to live like him.
I just don’t feel nowhere near as much joy as I used to. Or happiness. When its my birthday I dread the day, because I dont feel like im worthy of celebrating because i dont have any status or any girlfriend or friends to celebrate with. I don’t smile as much as I used to. because I’m getting older snd i haven’t achieved much in life. When it was my 25th birthday in April this year, I dreaded it because I’m getting older and because it was a monumental age. Plus i feel like there is nothing to celebrate. (e.g havent acieved much in life.) Still living with parents, don’t even have my own property yet. Dont even have life savings or savings at all.
Everyone else seems to have the ‘perfect corporate or just a ‘proper job’ even if its not a corporate job, it could be some like like an estate agent or something else like that, some people are younger than me and have way better jobs than a shitty minimum wage soul crushing job.
Completely invisible to women. It’s as if Im literally like John Cena.
Been ghosted god knows how many times, either from dating apps, real life getting a girls number doesn’t matter.
Been stood up on a date last week. Never had a girlfriend never had any girl liked me from a young age or never had young love, I always get envious and a bit jealous when I see people younger in relationships.
Last time i kissed a girl was 2 years ago. Lost my virginity only two years ago. My first time, ended in the girl telling me that when she slept with me she thought it would ‘get over the pain of her ex’ but it didn’t.
Gotten numbers of girls over the last year, all ghosted.
Haven’t been on a date in more than a year.
So hard to meet women even in person. They either all got boyfriends, don’t find me attractive or tall enough, or there bc are not many my age or around it anymore it seems. Or im not even the right skin colour (i’m black). Even never had someone of my own ever like me. Ever. Once again its like I’m invisible to 99.9% of women.
Im in debt, don’t have much friends, i feel like I never see people my age around anymore and when I do they’re either in long term relationships, have professional jobs, have children or have their own place.
I feel like i’m at a boiling point where i’m having a quarter life crisis.
Im not looking for sympathy im just looking for advice and things I need to do,
I did everything i should have done right, I Went to uni did a degree, (business information systems) did a masters degree, (Cybercrime Terrorism and Security) I can’t even find a job related to my degree and I’ve been doing part time shitty minimum wage jobs and i recently was let go of where i was working before at so I’m currently unemployed.
I feel shame because I’ve not had my first ‘proper job yet’ and I have sever pressure from parents, especially my dad to get one. (In his field IT). Even he has been out of contract for a year.
I did everything supposedly ‘right’ but now I don’t even know if I want to truly live long term now. Everything’s depressing.
I dont know what my future will look like, im highly ambitious, i want to start that business and this business, and I have so many goals long term but in the situation im in right now im just not sure.
Im starting to outgrow my parents house, I feel ashamed that im still living here, and living with them is not easy. Always being asked where im going and what im doing and it seems like its still very controlling even though im older now and not a little boy anymore. I would love to have money to move out but i cant get proper income from a proper job to save money and build something.
Everyone on social media, if not most people (instagram) seems to be living a great life. Travelling to all sorts of exotic countries, their highlight reels, pictures with loads of friends, experiences, pictures with their partner, doing fun things going to fun places, some are even getting engaged from my school and some even have a child. And I’m just at home 90% of the time, My dad says you should not be going anywhere or going to any place or seeing anyone or anything or friends until you get your ‘proper career job’.
In fact the life my dad wants be to live is Go to work. Then come home and stay at home all day. And repeat and repeat. He does not like me going ‘up and down the place’. and just wants me to stay at home all the time. He basically wants me to live like him.
I just don’t feel nowhere near as much joy as I used to. Or happiness. When its my birthday I dread the day, because I dont feel like im worthy of celebrating because i dont have any status or any girlfriend or friends to celebrate with. I don’t smile as much as I used to. because I’m getting older snd i haven’t achieved much in life. When it was my 25th birthday in April this year, I dreaded it because I’m getting older and because it was a monumental age. Plus i feel like there is nothing to celebrate. (e.g havent acieved much in life.) Still living with parents, don’t even have my own property yet. Dont even have life savings or savings at all.
Everyone else seems to have the ‘perfect corporate or just a ‘proper job’ even if its not a corporate job, it could be some like like an estate agent or something else like that, some people are younger than me and have way better jobs than a shitty minimum wage soul crushing job.
Completely invisible to women. It’s as if Im literally like John Cena.
Been ghosted god knows how many times, either from dating apps, real life getting a girls number doesn’t matter.
Been stood up on a date last week. Never had a girlfriend never had any girl liked me from a young age or never had young love, I always get envious and a bit jealous when I see people younger in relationships.
Last time i kissed a girl was 2 years ago. Lost my virginity only two years ago. My first time, ended in the girl telling me that when she slept with me she thought it would ‘get over the pain of her ex’ but it didn’t.
Gotten numbers of girls over the last year, all ghosted.
Haven’t been on a date in more than a year.
So hard to meet women even in person. They either all got boyfriends, don’t find me attractive or tall enough, or there bc are not many my age or around it anymore it seems. Or im not even the right skin colour (i’m black). Even never had someone of my own ever like me. Ever. Once again its like I’m invisible to 99.9% of women.
Im in debt, don’t have much friends, i feel like I never see people my age around anymore and when I do they’re either in long term relationships, have professional jobs, have children or have their own place.
I feel like i’m at a boiling point where i’m having a quarter life crisis.
Im not looking for sympathy im just looking for advice and things I need to do.
Went to uni did a degree, (business information systems) did a masters degree, (Cybercrime Terrorism and Security) I can’t even find a job related to my degree and I’ve been doing part time shitty minimum wage jobs and i recently was let go of where i was working before at so I’m currently unemployed.
I feel shame because I’ve not had my first ‘proper job yet’ and I have pressure from parents to get one.
I did everything supposedly ‘right’ but now I don’t even know if I want to live long term now.
I dont know what my future will look like, im highly ambitious, i want to start that business and this business, and I have so many goals long term but in the situation im in right now im just not sure.
Everyone on social media seems to be living a great life. Travelling to all sorts of exotic countries, pictures with loads of friends, experiences, pictures with their partner, doing fun things going to fun places. And I’m just at home 90% of the time, My dad says you should not be going anywhere or going to any place or seeing any friends until you get your job.
I just don’t feel much joy as I used to. Or happiness. I don’t smile as much as I used to. because I’m getting older snd i haven’t achieved much in life. When it was my 25th birthday I dreaded it because I’m getting older and because it was a monumental age. Plus i feel like there is nothing to celebrate. Still living with parents, don’t even have my own property yet.
Everyone else seems to have the ‘perfect corporate proper job’ even if its not a corporate job some people are younger than me and have better jobs than a shitty minimum wage soul crushing job.
Completely invisible to women. It’s as if Im literally like John Cena.
Been ghosted god knows how many times, either from dating apps, real life getting a girls number doesn’t matter.
Been stood up on a date last week. Never had a girlfriend never had any girl liked me from a young age or never had young love, I always get envious and a bit jealous when I see people younger in relationships.
Last time i kissed a girl was 2 years ago. Lost my virginity only two years ago. My first time, ended in the girl telling me that when she slept with me she thought it would ‘get over the pain of her ex’ but it didn’t.
So hard to meet women even in person. They either all got boyfriends, don’t find me attractive or tall enough, or there bc are not many my age or around it anymore it seems. Or im not even the right skin colour (i’m black).
Im in debt, don’t have much friends, i feel like I never see people my age around anymore and when I do they’re either in long term relationships, have professional jobs, have children or have their own place.
Im not looking for sympathy im just looking for advice and things I need to do,
Im from the UK. Went to uni did a degree, (business information systems) did a masters degree, (Cybercrime Terrorism and Security) I can’t even find a job related to my degree and I’ve been doing part time shitty minimum wage jobs and i recently was let go of where i was working before at so I’m currently unemployed.
I feel shame because I’ve not had my first ‘proper job yet’ and I have pressure from parents to get one.
I did everything supposedly ‘right’ but now I don’t even know if I want to live long term now.
I dont know what my future will look like, im highly ambitious, i want to start that business and this business, and I have so many goals long term but in the situation im in right now im just not sure.
Everyone on social media seems to be living a great life. Travelling to all sorts of exotic countries, pictures with loads of friends, experiences, pictures with their partner, doing fun things going to fun places. And I’m just at home 90% of the time, My dad says you should not be going anywhere or going to any place or seeing any friends until you get your job.
I just don’t feel much joy as I used to. Or happiness. I don’t smile as much as I used to. because I’m getting older snd i haven’t achieved much in life. When it was my 25th birthday I dreaded it because I’m getting older and because it was a monumental age. Plus i feel like there is nothing to celebrate. Still living with parents, don’t even have my own property yet.
Everyone else seems to have the ‘perfect corporate proper job’ even if its not a corporate job some people are younger than me and have better jobs than a shitty minimum wage soul crushing job.
Completely invisible to women. It’s as if Im literally like John Cena.
Been ghosted god knows how many times, either from dating apps, real life getting a girls number doesn’t matter.
Been stood up on a date last week. Never had a girlfriend never had any girl liked me from a young age or never had young love, I always get envious and a bit jealous when I see people younger in relationships.
Last time i kissed a girl was 2 years ago. Lost my virginity only two years ago. My first time, ended in the girl telling me that when she slept with me she thought it would ‘get over the pain of her ex’ but it didn’t.
So hard to meet women even in person. They either all got boyfriends, don’t find me attractive or tall enough, or there bc are not many my age or around it anymore it seems. Or im not even the right skin colour (i’m black).
Im in debt, don’t have much friends, i feel like I never see people my age around anymore and when I do they’re either in long term relationships, have professional jobs, have children or have their own place. Im not looking for sympathy im just looking for advice and things I need to do.
So long story short, I matched with a girl on Hinge last week on the 19th and she matched with me back really quickly, after I liked her prompt. She was just my type, found her attractive and cute, we were both looking for the same things and I told her my ‘plan’ from one of my prompts and she liked it so much that it’s ‘her dream’ and we seemed to get on really well on the app and subsequently by text message after she gave me her phone number. We seemed to be on the exact same page regarding beliefs, long term goals, values, religion etc. We even had the same birth month and close dates within 5 days of each other.
I matched with her even though shes from Manchester and Im from London and during our texts we asked each other if it would be an issue and she said not at all. And i said not at all, as long as its for the right person.
So we we’ve been messaging for a week and we made a date for Saturday (today) last Saturday and she said it was fine.
‘I told her that i made plans for the next day she said perfect, i told her what time ill be arriving, where we will meet and what we’d be doing.
So today, with two hours to go until i get there I message her to tell her im on my way and she messages back:
‘Hey I’m sorry I’ve just woke up and I’m feeling really ill’ (12:37)
‘Your text just woke me up, I was up in the night. Idk if it’s a bug or something but I’ve got a really high temperature. I don’t know if I can come. I’m really sorry ‘ (12:38)
I replied back saying that I was already halfway there and that she should have told me earlier I then told her that I arrived and that im going back home. Up to this time now shes not replied or read my message.
Im so thankful i didn’t pay for the date thing we didn’t do yet, cause Ive saved money by doing that, but basically I woke up at 8:00am to get on a coach at 9:40 to arrive at 2. I spent money on the coach for parking etc. Now i’m on the coach back to London as I type this message.
I’ve never ever had a girlfriend before. Now I genuinely just don’t believe or think I ever will. I’m at an age now where I should have had at least one or multiple But unfortunately people like me aren’t always dealt with the best cards in life.
I have not been fortunate enough to find someone in primary or secondary school, sixth form as not one found me attractive in school. I wasn’t even able to get someone in uni as well.
I just feel empty, incredibly stupid and shattered inside. Such a waste of my time attention and money.
Can someone let me know what I did wrong or what could have made her do this please?
Thank you
I see a lot of white guys, guys who you would probably not even consider attractive or very mid and somehow they seem to have girlfriends. Or have at least HAD a girlfriend. Can give an example. Ive seen fat white guys, out of shape etc that have had a girlfriend at my work. Ive seen a small, young teenage white guy at my work currently who has a TWENTY FOUR year old girlfriend. And he is EIGHTEEN. Ive seen some of the most unsocial and dead personality of white guys that have girlfriends. They’re average, not excessively rich, not famous, don’t even have to be that tall.
And I really think to myself. It must be a walk in the park for a white guy for dating and in general in life as well, I mean. You can easily get women of your own race, you can get some black women, you can get pretty much most if not ALL south asain and east asian women, since they love to beg and worship anything white.
Whereas try being a black guy. You almost have to be a superhero. You’ve got to ‘act black enough’ (for your own race, same applies for non black women who look specifically for that kind of thing in black men). You’ve got to have some form of status, you’ve got to have some form of clout or talent or have some kind of fame, so many followers on social media, you’ve almost got to be a hundredthousandnaire or if not, a millionaire, youve got to be exceptionally tall and/or good looking and in shape.
As a black guy. East and south asian women don’t want you, because they’re conditioned by their parents and their culture to actively hate black people and anti black. If an Indian or south asian girl brought a black guy home, the girl is dead.
White girls wont even touch you unless you’re all of those things i mentioned above 👆
Black girls/women are a headache, never a walk in the park, have high expectations for no reason.
What are you even left with?
As a white guy you literally have won half of the battle. All you have to do is not stink and be hygienic thats it.
Thats why i hate when I hear white guys complaining about dating when I’m like: (‘bruh you do know that there are so many women out there right’? And that there is always someone out there for you, whether shes mid, like you, a different race or even older.