How's it going everyone?
I'm just here to make some friends with people who have gathered wisdom and experience. I've always looked to individuals who have been on this planet a little longer than myself to keep me calm because you're proof that things aren't as bad as they seem. And a lot of what we go through does not last forever.
I’ll do my best to paint a clear picture.
I met up with a guy from Grindr who I had been talking to for about a month. We had both agreed that we were only going to frottage (grind) and mutually masturbate.
When we met, we spent most of the time grinding body to body. At one point, I sat down on a folding chair, and he sat on my lap. Our penises were in contact, and we continued grinding for a while. At some point, he reached behind himself and adjusted my penis so it was lower than his. There was no lube used at any time. Because of that, I don't believe penetration happened, but my anxiety keeps telling me that maybe I slipped inside him without realizing it.
I've never had unprotected anal sex as the insertive partner. After the encounter, I asked him multiple times if I had penetrated him. Each time, he said no. He also told me he was HIV-negative and had recently tested negative for HIV and other STIs, although he did not show me any test results. I'm not someone who is comfortable with unprotected sex, which is why we agreed to mutual masturbation only.
Even though he reassured me three different times that I did not penetrate him, I can't stop thinking, "What if I did?" or "What if he lied and wanted to give me HIV?"
To try to calm myself down, I keep coming back to the evidence that penetration likely did not occur:
- There was no lube used.
- He clearly told me three separate times that I did not penetrate him.
- He stated that his HIV and STI tests were negative.
- There was no lube, and I'm about 23 cm in length, which makes accidental penetration seem unlikely.
I'll be 24 days from the encounter on Tuesday, and I have an STI screening scheduled that day. Right now, that's the only thing I can think of that will help ease my anxiety.
The difficult part is that I've recently come down with what feels like a cold, along with body aches, and my anxiety keeps convincing me that these symptoms are caused by HIV instead of a routine viral illness.
How's it going everyone? I'm just here looking to make some friends. Currently live in the US/35/ and married. I am a veteran and looking to just make some friends with some aligning interest. I'm not here for anything more than platonic friendships. Again, platonic.
I just wanted to say hello as I am new to this subreddit.
Im trying to find out when I should get tested for HIV? I met a guy on grindr for a frot session. Half way thru it, they sat on my lap and we were grinding together. While grinding the reached around to adjust my penis and we kept grinding. But I went soft because I started to wonder if there was insertion. That lasted less than a minute and we went back to sword fighting.
After we were done, I asked if I went inside them and they said no. I asked for their status and they said negative. I asked two more times in a different way if therewas penetration and they said no two more times. There was no lube, but they did use spit when I went soft and we began frotting again. So I think because I felt my skin after the spitting on it. It felt moist and that triggered my thoughts to think I penetrated this person.
So, because I have OCD and Anxiety I know testing could debunk this vicious what if cycle. We interacted on the 9th of June.
What does anal feel like to the person inserting if there's no condom. I had an interaction with someone and I thought for a moment there was penetration but they said no and i double checked with them and they said no again. But they did say it's the way that they were grinding on me that made it feel like it possibly went in them. But it was just a small pocket between our hip/ perineum area.
So I'm trying to figure out what would that feel like if there were actual penetration? Like how prepared with this person have to be in order for me to just slide in?
I'm still new to this so be kind.
I'm still very much new to male on male contact and my question is straight to a point. If another male is sitting on my lap, and we are just skin to skin dry humping. There's no way that I could slip inside their anus without both of us knowing? Especially since there was no lube.
Recently, I came out as bi. I told my wife, and we're good.
I met up with someone from Grindr after talking for almost two weeks. They're not really into anal but enjoy frotting. We met at their workplace and frotted for a while. At one point, they sat on my lap and we were kind of slow grinding. About halfway through the experience, they moved my penis downward. In my head, I started wondering if they were trying to position me for penetration.
There was no lube, and we were mostly just rubbing against each other the entire time. I'm also fairly large, which is part of why this is confusing to me. I wear glasses, but I took them off because, well, it's not exactly sexy. Toward the end, we shifted positions and both of our penises were visible again.
I've asked him three separate times if there was any penetration, and every time he said no. I also asked about his HIV status, and he said he's negative. Still, I can't shake the feeling that maybe I was penetrating him at some point. For example, near the end, when both of our penises were visible, he spit on mine to help us keep rubbing.
This has been bothering me a lot. Part of me thinks that if I weren't bi, I wouldn't have put myself in this situation in the first place. I also have pretty bad anxiety, and I hate not being certain about what happened. Has anyone else experienced something like this?
Recenty I came out as bi. I told my wife and we are cool in things.
So i met up with someone on grindr. we have been speaking for almost tw weeks. They're not big into anal but love to frot. We met up at their workplace and frotted for a bit. they sat on my lap and i guess we were slow grinding. but halfway thru the experince they moved my member downwards. So in my head i thought they tried to insert me into them. Now, there was no lube and we were rubbing firesticks for most of the time so we were dry, plus i am 8 inches and thick. I wear glasses and took them off becuase it's not sexy. But toward the fisnishing moments we had shifted and our sticks were back in eye seeing positions.
I asked him if he inserted 3 times and all answers were no. Iasked for HIV status and was told negative. But why do i have this idea that i was penetrating the person? Like at one point, when both sticks were visible, they spat on mine to help rub the last moments out.
This is bothering me because if i wasnt Bi i wouldnt have put myself in this position. Plus i have bad anxiety and i just hate this feeling.