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We’re considering a nanny share for our 6-month-old with another family that also has a 6-month-old (one boy and one girl). On paper it sounds great, but I’m struggling to understand how the logistics actually work with two infants who are at the same developmental stage.

How does one nanny realistically manage two 6-month-olds? What happens if both babies are crying at the same time, need bottles, or want to nap on different schedules? Do most nannies try to synchronize naps and feeds, or do they just adapt to each baby’s routine?

For parents who have done a nanny share with two infants around the same age, what was your experience? Did it work well, or were there unexpected challenges? I’d especially love to hear how your nanny handled feeding, naps, tummy time, outings, and giving each baby enough individual attention.

Any advice or things we should consider before deciding on a nanny share would be really appreciated!

We’re considering a nanny share for our 6-month-old with another family that also has a 6-month-old (one boy and one girl). On paper it sounds great, but I’m struggling to understand how the logistics actually work with two infants who are at the same developmental stage.

How does one nanny realistically manage two 6-month-olds? What happens if both babies are crying at the same time, need bottles, or want to nap on different schedules? Do most nannies try to synchronize naps and feeds, or do they just adapt to each baby’s routine?

For parents who have done a nanny share with two infants around the same age, what was your experience? Did it work well, or were there unexpected challenges? I’d especially love to hear how your nanny handled feeding, naps, tummy time, outings, and giving each baby enough individual attention.

Any advice or things we should consider before deciding on a nanny share would be really appreciated!

I was searching for some sleep related question for my 5 month old and there came up a bunch of posts and clicked the first one. It happened to be in sleeptrain sub. I saw the comments and so much judgement and hate towards cosleeping and responsive parenthood. I just saw one post and that made me all of a sudden question if I am really hurting my health by not sleeping well yet at 5 months pp etc etc oh my god!! It will mess up your mind - don’t go in there if you are deciding or already going bninfantsleep or cosleeping route please 🙏🏻 One post and comments made me feel like I am doing a grave mistake by cosleeping and waking up every 2 hours in the night!! WTH!!

Also I am currently reading Sweet Sleep book and it is AMAZING. I should have read it much earlier and would have avoided so much anxiety around newborn sleep and schedules etc.

I’m 20 weeks postpartum and my Oura is making me anxious. My sleep scores are consistently low, my HRV keeps dropping, and my readiness/recovery basically says I need to rest all the time. My 5-month-old EBF baby still wakes frequently, so I’m not getting long stretches(max 2 hours) of sleep. I hardly get on an average 5 hours of broken sleep in 24 hours. I’m also about to go back to work full-time, which is adding to the stress. I know broken sleep is part of having a baby, but I’m wondering what’s “normal” vs. something I should actually worry about. If you’re comfortable sharing-How far postpartum are you and What does your sleep look like?

Please tell me I will be okay and I’m not the only one whose tracker thinks they’re falling apart 😂 I’d really appreciate some reassurance from moms who’ve been through this and any tips and tricks that worked for you guys!!!

Note: baby has reflux and exclusive contact napper and Co sleeper :) My days are active managing things alone with baby. I don’t know how does everybody eat nutritious healthy meals !! I am scrambling and that definitely is going to be another post in this group.

Is anyone else completely unable to process going back to work?

I’m returning to work full-time soon and I honestly cry just thinking about it. I’ve always been very career-focused and an overachiever, but becoming a mom has changed something in me that I never expected.

My baby is 6 months old, EBF, has reflux, only contact naps, cosleeps and we’ve basically been together 24/7 since he was born. Every nap, every feed, every bath, every walk, every cuddle… it’s always been me. Now we’re looking for a nanny, and I just can’t wrap my head around someone else taking care of him for most of the day.

I know babies are resilient, and I know so many of you have done this and your little ones are thriving. But my heart keeps thinking from his perspective… will he wonder where I am? Will he miss me? He can’t tell me how he feels, and that’s the part that gets me. I know I’m probably overthinking it, but these thoughts keep making me cry.

We both have to work because we live in a high cost-of-living area, and I never thought I’d even consider wanting to be a stay-at-home mom until I actually became one.

If you’ve been through this, how did you get through those first few weeks emotionally? How did your baby do? I could really use some reassurance from parents who’ve been there. Plz share your back to work stories. I really need them right now!

I am new mom to a 20 week old baby boy!

I’m returning to work full-time soon and I honestly cry just thinking about it. I’ve always been very career-focused and an overachiever, but becoming a mom has changed something in me that I never expected.

My baby is 6 months old, EBF, has reflux, only contact naps, cosleeps and we’ve basically been together 24/7 since he was born. Every nap, every feed, every bath, every walk, every cuddle… it’s always been me. Now we’re looking for a nanny, and I just can’t wrap my head around someone else taking care of him for most of the day.

I know babies are resilient, and I know so many of you have done this and your little ones are thriving. But my heart keeps thinking from his perspective… will he wonder where I am? Will he miss me? He can’t tell me how he feels, and that’s the part that gets me. I know I’m probably overthinking it, but these thoughts keep making me cry.

We both have to work because we live in a high cost-of-living area, and I never thought I’d even consider wanting to be a stay-at-home mom until I actually became one.

If you’ve been through this, how did you get through those first few weeks emotionally? How did your baby do? I could really use some reassurance from parents who’ve been there. Plz share your back to work stories. I really need them right now!

I know this might sound small, but tonight felt like a major victory.

For the first time ever, I transferred my 20-week-old from a contact nap to our bed and he just… stayed asleep.

No waking up.No squirming.No immediately searching for the boob.No needing to nurse back to sleep.

I was actually lying there ready to feed him because every single transfer since birth has ended the same way—he wakes up and needs help getting back to sleep. So when he simply settled and continued sleeping, I was genuinely shocked.

For some context, my little guy is 20 weeks old, exclusively breastfed, refuses bottles, pacifiers, and pretty much any artificial nipple. He’s also struggled with silent reflux, which has meant 100% contact naps, frequent night wakings, and very little time away from me. My days and nights have revolved around holding him, feeding him, comforting him, and helping him sleep. And while I’ve truly cherished the closeness, tonight felt like a tiny glimpse of things getting a little easier.

Maybe it’s a one-time thing. Maybe it won’t happen again tomorrow. But for tonight, I’m choosing to celebrate it.

I’m hoping this means his reflux is slowly improving and that better sleep and easier transfers might be on the horizon for both of us. Maybe I am too hopeful. Lol!!

Please send good thoughts our way. This small moment felt like such a big victory, and I couldn’t help sharing it with people who might understand just how much it means. 🥲🥲

Our 18-week-old is actually a great sleeper in that he falls asleep easily and tries very hard to stay asleep. The issue is that he seems to be constantly woken up by burps.

Whether he’s lying flat on his back or even sleeping upright on us, he’ll often wake around every 30 minutes grunting, squirming, or startling. Sometimes he’ll suddenly whip his head and body to one side as if he’s trying to work a burp up. If we quickly get him more upright and pat his back, he almost always lets out one or more burps and settles back to sleep. If we don’t get to him quickly enough, the grunting escalates, he rubs his nose and eyes, gets increasingly uncomfortable, and eventually wakes fully.

Because of this, we’ve done almost every nap as a contact nap so we can help him through it. Nights are somewhat better than they were as a newborn, but he still wakes about every 1.5 hours. I’m exclusively breastfeeding and honestly haven’t had a decent stretch of sleep since he was born.

He feeds well, gains weight well, and is generally a happy baby. However, he squirms and grunts after feeds and seems to have an incredible number of burps that continue to come up even hours later. Once he burps, he is usually much more comfortable.

Our pediatrician prescribed famotidine in case reflux is contributing, but I’m hesitant to start it since he’s already 18 weeks old and I’m hoping he may outgrow it.

Has anyone had a baby who was repeatedly woken by burps like this?

Did they outgrow it?

Around what age did it improve?

Was reflux involved?

Did famotidine help?

Anything else that made a difference?

I’d love to hear from parents who’ve experienced something similar.