u/Informal_Pepper_8566

Was added on Facebook by a local law enforcement officer, and he started messaging me. Said he's seen me working around town, and has been dying to talk to me for years.

I'm recently divorced, and I made it clear I had no immediate intentions of dating, but that talking was fine.

Fast forward two weeks of on and off chatting, and he's sitting in one of the areas I work at regularly this morning. He flashes his lights, so I pull in, and (mind you, this is the first time I've ever seen this man), he says hi, says that he's so excited to meet me, and was hoping I'd go by there this morning, and out of nowhere this man grabs my face and kisses me. Not violently, he just... does it. Like, a big kiss, not a soft peck.

Now, I haven't kissed another man in years. Hell, I haven't kissed anyone in at least two years. I'd be dead ass lying if I said I didn't like it at least a little, but mostly it spiked my anxiety, since I wasn't expecting it AT ALL. Our conversations have been super tame and above board.

I'm touch starved, trying to find my place in the world again, but again, I'd be lying if I said I didn't want to kiss him again. But is this red flag behavior? I don't want to get into a messy situation after just getting out of one.

EDIT: Okay you guys, this is red flag behavior, as you all have agreed on. I blocked him and screenshot everything.

I would like to clarify- I don't work AT this place, I work throughout the entire town, I'm a landscaper. It's just a building with flower beds, not "my work". Still creepy AF though, I agree.

SECOND EDIT: I'd like to clear some things up, since so many people are commenting the same things.

1. We live in a teeny tiny town. The principle is the softball coach and the local preacher kind of small town. Everybody knows and sees everybody.

2. I'm a landscaper, and have several contracts for businesses and residential areas around town. Literally everyone and their mother sees me, and usually knows my name from being in the local news often.

3. I've been a victim of SA before- and dealt with hundreds of creeps, what threw me off here was that up until the moment he touched me, he NEVER hinted at, joked about, or asked for anything inappropriate. He seemed genuinely nice. But most men are afraid of me. I'm muscular and covered in tattoos- they just don't go around touching or kissing me. This threw me WAY off, and I appreciate all of the outside opinions. After some reflection, this was crazy weird behavior, especially in the location we were (along a busy main road for anyone to see).

We love each other, I know that to be true. But does his heart race when he sees me, like mine? Does he stop dead in his tracks and smile, because he's struck by me? I don't know. I don't think so.

I look at him, and every part of me melts. I've never been so attracted or enamored by anyone in my life. But, he looks at me, nods, and looks away. His heart isn't slamming in his chest, fighting its way out to me. His skin doesn't prickle, burning at the thought of my body against his. He doesn't want me.

What an incredibly lonely feeling.

My husband and I have been separated for two years, but living together and coparenting, since we can be civil but can't be in a relationship.

Things have become tense, and we're arguing daily. I'm concerned about how this is affecting our daughter, not to mention it's wearing on my nerves. I have anxiety as soon as I pull onto our road anymore. I love my daughter and our home, and I can't stand the thought of being away from her for even one day.

He's not abusive, but he's not a good parent. He doesn't cook or clean, and has no clue what size clothes she wears, or the name of her pediatrician. He doesn't have a clue about what's going on in her school, and doesn't ask. He never brushes her teeth if he takes her for a bath, and doesn't ever do her laundry or clean her room. He's not a bad person, but he's incredibly lazy and forgetful. He doesn't remember his own laundry half the time, or the last time he showered.

I don't want to kick him out of his home. But more importantly, I know he wouldn't be able to get her to school, or take care of her properly, if she were with him solely half the time. It's in her best interest that she stays with me, and we would be so happy here, just us girls in a quiet and happy house. No bad moods to stomp through the door, no yelling just because things don't go his way. But our state passed a 50/50 law, that apparently makes it so that the courts side on shared custody.

For divorced moms- what did you do? How do I get full custody? Legal papers fill me with dread and anxiety, but I'm not sure I could afford a lawyer to help me file. And I'm terrified that if I do file, a judge will decide to take her from me anyways, in the spirit of "parental fairness".

Any advice would be appreciated. I feel like I'm drowning.

TLDR: I want full custody of my kid, since I can't trust my ex to be responsible for her, where do I start?

My daughter (5) has brought up wanting to dance several times, so I signed her up for a three day camp in June, to see if she really likes it. If she does, I'll sign her up for classes in July.

I'm super excited for her to try something new, but I have zero clue about ballet or dance. I grew up on a farm in an area where that wasn't an option. So, any tips or advice from dance experienced moms would be much appreciated. What clothes are best/needed? Shoes? Is there anything I can do to help prepare her? I stretch and lift regularly, but dance is completely foreign to me.