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Nag change akong working schedule, from 7-4 nag 6-3 na. So nag change pud akong sleeping schedule and this is the first time man na nag change akong working schedule so wala koy tulog. I think 4 hours ra akong tulog. Nag adjust pa akong body clock.

Ganiha sa elevator grAaabeeee akong ka lutang HAHAHAHAHA. From ground floor ni sud ko sa elevator, natingala ko nganong di mo saka. Nag balik2 jud kog gawas kay basin guba ang elevator. Diay kay "G" akong ge click na button instead na 14th floor HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Hapit nako mo tawag og guard ganiha kay mo reklamo nganong di mo saka ang elevator huhuhu ulawa ta nako.

Maayo gani kay ni abot akong co-worker ug siya ang ni correct nako na G akong ge click instead na 14th HAHAHAHAHA

Sugod karon, dapat sleep well nata ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

Also, wala diay kaayo og move-it and Angkas if mga 5:30AM pa no??

Hindi ko alam kung paano ko ito sasabihin nang hindi ako magmumukhang masamang anak, pero lately, lalo na kapag sobrang stressed ako sa work, lagi kong naiisip yung relationship ko with my mother.

I have little to no memory of my mother actually raising me.

For context, my mother is a businesswoman. May maliit siyang tindahan, and basically siya ang provider ng family namin. My father, on the other hand, is a deadbeat alcoholic. Mawala, babalik. Mangungutang, minsan pati yung kinikita ng mama ko sa tindahan kinukuha. Basically, my mother had to carry the family financially.

And I know she did her best.

Hindi kami nagutom. May bahay kami. May pagkain. Napag-aral kami. She gave us everything she could financially, kahit halos walang tulong from my father.

Pero emotionally and physically, she wasn't really there.

She was at the store almost every day, around eight hours a day, seven days a week. And I understand why. Kailangan niyang magtrabaho dahil hindi maaasahan ang asawa niya.

Pero yung bata na ako, hindi ko naman naiintindihan iyon.

All I knew was that my mother wasn't there.

I don't remember her teaching me how to read or write. I don't remember her teaching me how to dress myself, how to do my hair, how to put on makeup, or even something as simple as how to put a sanitary napkin properly.

I don't remember her taking me to the plaza or playground.

The person I remember doing those things was my aunt.

My aunt was the one who taught me how to read. I can still remember sitting with her while she taught me how to read a book. She was the one who taught me how to dress, do my hair, put on makeup, and even taught me things about becoming a girl.

She was the present mother figure in my childhood.

And honestly, I'm jealous of my cousin because of that.

My aunt has a daughter, and I see how present she is in her daughter's life. She asks her what she wants. She supports her dreams. My cousin wanted to become an architect, and her mother supported that.

I wanted to become an architect too.

But nobody really asked me what I wanted.

I was basically pushed toward choosing a practical course because that's what made sense financially. And now I'm 25, working a job that I don't even like, just because I need to survive.

Sometimes I can't help but wonder what my life would have looked like if someone had asked me, "Anak, ano ba talaga gusto mong gawin?"

I know this sounds horrible, but sometimes I look at my mother and all I can see is someone who was always working.

Cash. Business. Bills. Survival.

I know that's unfair.

Because she was doing all of that FOR US.

But at the same time, I can't erase the fact that I grew up without experiencing the kind of mother-child relationship that I wanted.

Whenever I see TikToks of daughters with their moms—mothers doing their daughter's hair, teaching them makeup, shopping with them, asking about their dreams, taking them somewhere just because—I get jealous.

Sobrang inggit ko.

Not because I want their life. I just wish I had experienced that too.

And I feel guilty for feeling that way because I know my mother sacrificed a lot for us.

She was basically doing the job of two parents because my father refused to be responsible.

But sometimes I still get angry at her.

Especially when I'm stressed.

And I hate admitting this, but sometimes I blame everything on her.

I blame her for the choices I made. I blame her for not asking me what I wanted. I blame her for staying with my father. I blame her for not leaving him even though he's still an alcoholic and still hasn't changed.

And sometimes I literally think, "Bakit hindi mo siya iniwan?"

I don't understand why she stayed.

I don't understand what she sees in him.

And maybe that's another thing that frustrates me—because I grew up watching my mother carry everything while my father contributed almost nothing, yet she still chose to stay.

Now she's always asking me when I'm coming home.

And honestly?

I don't know.

Sometimes I don't even want to go home because I don't feel like I have a home there emotionally.

It's weird because that's where I grew up, but I don't have many memories of being raised by my mother there.

I know people will probably tell me, "Forgive your mother. She was doing her best."

I know.

I KNOW.

And I don't want to erase everything she did for us. She provided for us. She protected us financially. She made sure we had food and education. She did what she could.

But I also don't want to invalidate the little girl who wanted her mother to be there.

Both things can be true.

She did her best.

And I was still hurt.

I can understand why she wasn't present and still grieve the fact that she wasn't.

I don't think I'm a bad daughter for feeling this way.

At least, I hope I'm not.

Maybe I'm just tired.

Maybe work stress is making all these old feelings come back.

I know I probably need therapy someday. I can't afford it right now, but hopefully when I can, I'll finally have someone to talk to about all of this.

For now, I guess I'm just writing this because it's late, I'm stressed, and I suddenly realized that maybe I'm not angry at my mother because she didn't love me.

Maybe I'm angry because I wanted to experience her love in a way that I never got to.

If you ask me kung may happy memories ba ako with my family? Wala, kasi I couldn't remember that I have one.

For additional context: Hindi ko masyadong binanggit yung father ko kasi mas complicated at mas painful yung situation with him. I was sexually assaulted by my own father when I was a teenager. SHE WAS THERE, SHE WAS WATCHING YET DHE COULDN'T LEAVE HIM. I felt like I wasn't protected. IWAS A MINOR.

I’m 25, and just this August, I finally moved out of my parents’ house. Boarding house lang naman, and my parents actually live 4–6 hours away from the city where I’ve been living since college.

Before moving out, hindi naman super controlling parents ko. But they would still have opinions about how I live my life—when I should go home, when I should visit, and especially yung “ikaw ang eldest, bantayan mo kapatid mo.” Parang naging responsibility ko na automatically yung kapatid ko. Eh hindi ko naman responsibility yun. I have a lot on my plate na.

I’m not someone who goes out doing risky or irresponsible things. I don’t smoke, drink, do drugs, etc. I just like travelling and going to different places. So eventually, I realized na I simply wanted the freedom to decide for myself.

One conversation with my mom really made me realize this. She asked why I didn’t want to live with my sister anymore. I said, “Gusto ko lang ng sariling space.”

She replied, “Sige, ikaw lang din naman ang bumubuhay sa sarili mo, so decision mo ’yan.”

And I was like… Oh.

That actually made something click for me.

For me, moving out + becoming financially independent really changes the dynamic.

Hindi ibig sabihin na cut off mo parents mo. Kamustahin mo pa rin sila, bisitahin mo pa rin sila. But you get to decide when, where, and how you live your life.

And personally, I also think financial independence is a huge part of it. If your parents are still financially supporting you, I understand why they might feel they have a say in your decisions—and you might also feel guilty going against them.

So I can say that if you’re financially capable, save first, build an emergency fund, then consider moving out if you feel like you need that independence.

Ako, I literally saved for around 6–7 months before moving out. Walang Shopee, walang unnecessary gastos, halos walang gala. I was saving specifically for rent, emergencies, and my own independence.

I know moving out isn’t possible or necessary for everyone. But for me, moving out wasn’t really about escaping my parents. It was more about finally feeling like I’m responsible for my own life. I have the control.

And honestly, that realization hit me harder than I expected.

Also, independence will make you go far. Gagawin at gagawin mo lahat para mabuhay mo ang sarili. I even experienced pagkasyahin ang 500 in one week 😂😂😂 It will make you think of many ways on how to survive. Personally, nag online selling ako as side hustle. I didn't even know na magagawa ko mag online selling kasi mahiyain akong tao 😂

Paano sagutin yung tanong ng tita/tito na: Ano trabaho mo?

I'm a bookkeeper. Pero ayaw kong sabihin real job ko, especially sa mga relatives ko.

Alam ko na kasi kasunod: Magkano sweldo mo?

I don't feel comfortable sharing my source of income with them kasi di naman ako nang-aaply sa kanila for loan. Di naman sila IO. Di naman sila HR. Or kung ano pa yan na importanteng sagutan ang: Anong trabaho mo?

Paano ba lusutin to? Hahaha

AU Bookkeepers, question! 😅

May mga AU bookkeepers ba dito na bookkeeping lang talaga ginagawa, without payroll?

Currently working ako as an AU bookkeeper and kasama sa role ko yung payroll. I’m thinking of transitioning to freelance bookkeeping soon (currently in agency), and honestly, I realized na I really don’t enjoy doing payroll. 😂

I don’t mind the bookkeeping side — bank recs, AP/AR, BAS/IAS support, month-end, reporting, etc. Pero yung payroll talaga, hindi ko siya bet kasi scheduled siya, time-sensitive, and ang daming moving parts. Parang may pressure lagi na dapat sakto and on time.

So I’m wondering, possible ba talaga makahanap ng freelance AU bookkeeping clients na bookkeeping lang, without payroll processing? Or usually package talaga ang bookkeeping + payroll?

For those already freelancing:

• May clients ba kayo na bookkeeping-only?
• And kapag naghahanap kayo ng clients, sinasabi niyo ba upfront na you don’t offer payroll?

Would love to hear your experiences! 🙏

AU Bookkeepers, question! 😅

May mga AU bookkeepers ba dito na bookkeeping lang talaga ginagawa, without payroll?

Currently working ako as an AU bookkeeper and kasama sa role ko yung payroll. I’m thinking of transitioning to freelance bookkeeping soon (currently in agency), and honestly, I realized na I really don’t enjoy doing payroll. 😂

I don’t mind the bookkeeping side — bank recs, AP/AR, BAS/IAS support, month-end, reporting, etc. Pero yung payroll talaga, hindi ko siya bet kasi scheduled siya, time-sensitive, and ang daming moving parts. Parang may pressure lagi na dapat sakto and on time.

So I’m wondering, possible ba talaga makahanap ng freelance AU bookkeeping clients na bookkeeping lang, without payroll processing? Or usually package talaga ang bookkeeping + payroll?

For those already freelancing:

• May clients ba kayo na bookkeeping-only?
• And kapag naghahanap kayo ng clients, sinasabi niyo ba upfront na you don’t offer payroll?

Would love to hear your experiences! 🙏

I feel so jealous of my family.

I just saw my sister and cousin's facebook and instagram story. My whole family is hanging out together at the beach in our hometown. They had dinner together at a restaurant I've never seen before. Nice meals. Di pa ako nakapunta dun.

So weird lang kasi Tuesday yun. Usually, si mama di na ma close yung store namin pag weekday kasi "sayang ang kikitain kung magsasara kahit one day lang", yun ang palagi kong maririnig na reason pag gusto kong lumabas kami but they did that on Tuesday, not on weekend. Unusual.

Meanwhile, here I am. Working my ass off in the city. All alone. Stressed at my job. Stuck in the same routine. Wake up. Work 7AM-4PM. Go home. Repeat. Reset on weekend. Overthinking that I might loose my job one day (client has dispute with the agency). And, repeat. Stuck at eating canned foods and processed foods.

I'm just wondering kasi kahit si mama di nya na mention na they are going out or whatever they are celebrating kung meron man. I may be away from them pero I can travel naman if they will just ask me na umuwi muna. I can file a leave naman kahit unpaid. Ano lang naman yung 5-6hours of travel.

I have no social life. I'm not dating someone either. I have no friends anymore. I have one friend pero mag re-reach out lang naman yun kung may e rrant siya or kung may nangyari sa buhay niya, tapos wala na ulit connection. It's nice to have a vacation with friends.

I feel like I'm stuck in a fuvking loop.

Kanina after I saw their stories sa facebook and ig, I went to the bathroom to cry hahaha. I think the canteen lady sa floor namin noticed my red eyes because of crying kasi iba tingin niya, ewan.

Idk, I think I'm burnout? It's been a while since I I went for a vacation.

Or maybe, I'm mourning for a life I wish I had.

Edit: They were celebrating San Juan pala, I saw the Municipal Hall's FB post. It's nice sana kung ini-inivite man lang ako pero wala. I can still remember, my mother and I were on a call nung Tuesday pero wala man lang na-mention. Kasi dati nung nag-aaral pako, pag San Juan she would mention na di ba ako/kami uuwi kasi San Juan. They know how much I love going to beach.

I honestly don't know what to do right now and I'm hoping to get some advice from people who have been through something similar.

I'm working through an AU outsourcing agency as a bookkeeper. Earlier today, my agency informed me that my client has an outstanding invoice with them. They said that if the payment isn't received by Monday, I may lose access to the systems by Tuesday, which could mean losing my job.

The difficult part is that this came completely out of nowhere. As far as I know, my performance hasn't been an issue. The problem is between the client and the agency, but my employment is now being affected.

I recently moved out and am no longer relying on my parents for support. My emergency fund isn't enough to comfortably handle unemployment, and the timing couldn't be worse. From what I'm seeing, hiring seems slower right now, and I'm worried about how long it would take to find another role.

For context, I have 1 year and 5 months of experience as an Accounts Payable Officer and Payroll Officer in a local company, and about 4 months of experience working with an AU client as a bookkeeper through an agency.

Has anyone here experienced a client-agency payment dispute that affected your employment? Were you able to get reprofiled to another client, or should I already start assuming the worst and focus all my energy on job hunting?

Any advice would be appreciated. I'm feeling pretty lost and anxious right now 😭

What's your thoughts of a friend na ge butang ka as contact sa Home Credit without your knowledge or approval first?

I have this friend of mine since highschool but we don't talk much right now. We only meet each other if we decide to go hiking and nothing else. Mao rana among bonding and it's only once a month usually. We don't even chat like mangumusta something like that. Sa among mag barkada kami nlang duha ang naay contact sa each other, wala nami connection with our other highschool friends, we outgrew each other I guess or just taking different life path. And, it happened na kami nalang duha naay contact with each other but we don't talk much. She has lots of friends sa iyang work, she has a sister and I have no one. Wala nako og friends since ni graduate ko og college and I'm not close with my sister. She's basically the only one that I considered as my friend.

I was just surprised like why?? Without my knowledge?? I know how this will go, the Home Credit will bother me if di siya mo bayad and I don't like that.

This also happened to my mother. Ge butang siya as contact sa iyang supposedly a friend sa Home Credit. Wala nabayaran ang Home Credit, now siya na ang ge sigi tawagan. And, my mother cut her off as a friend.

I haven't confronted her about this yet and wala pud siya ni reach out nako na ge butang ge butang ko niya as contact sa Home Credit since naka receive ko og notification from Home Credit pag April 18.

Hi guys, hingi lang sana ako advice especially from working professionals here.

I graduated with a Bachelor’s in Management Accounting, and currently working ako as a bookkeeper for 3 months pa lang. Before this, I worked in Accounts Payable/Payroll for around 1 year and 5 months.

Lately, I’ve been thinking if worth it pa ba mag take ng Masteral degree nowadays.

I’m really interested in taking a Masteral in Finance since gusto ko talaga mag focus long-term sa finance/accounting field.

I’m also considering MBA or Economics, pero Finance talaga pinaka gusto ko.

Questions ko lang sana:

Worth it pa ba mag Masteral ngayon?

Did it help sa career growth/salary/opportunities niyo?

Mas okay ba mag gain muna more work experience before enrolling?

Would really appreciate honest opinions, especially from people na working while taking their Masteral or graduates na. Thank you!

Hi guys, mangayo lang unta kog advice especially sa mga working professionals here.

I graduated Bachelor’s in Management Accounting, then currently working ko as a bookkeeper for 3 months pa lang. Before ani, nag work pud ko as Accounts Payable/Payroll for around 1 year and 5 months.

Lately, ga think ko if worth it ba mag take og Masteral.

Pinaka interested gyud ko sa Master’s in Finance kay gusto nako mag focus long-term sa finance/accounting field. Pero ga consider pud ko og MBA or Economics.

Questions lang unta:

• Worth it pa ba gyud mag Masteral karon? • Nakatabang ba siya sa career growth/salary/opportunities ninyo? • Any school recommendations diri sa Cebu for Finance, Econ, or MBA?

Would really appreciate honest opinions, especially from people nga working while ga Master’s or naka graduate na. Thank you!

Hi! Anyone here who has time deposit account?

What bank account has high interest for time deposit?

My current bank offers 2.4% per 6 months of contract.

I'd like to transfer my money sa other bank since I relocated in Cebu.

All I know now is BDO but they offer 3.4% interest every 75 days only for 3M above.

Do you guys have recommendation?