u/Intelligent-Food-395

Context, his wife has little contact with her family, they are all relatively close but do not engage with her. She has no friends, my brothers friends feel uncomfortable around her and any friend she has made recently steps away after a while.

My family, in particular my mother, has stood by her to keep a relationship with my brother. She has been rude to everyone, we all feel uncomfortable around her but make as much of an effort as we can. But she sulks, speaks bluntly and simply just doesn’t speak with any real care and respect.

She exploded to my mother recently unprovoked, coming over to help babysit. For 20 minutes screamed and swore and belittled them both, acting as a victim despite them trying so hard to always pacify her.

We as a family have had to step back, speaking that way to her MIL just isn’t acceptable. But by stepping back it always puts distance from my brother. I don’t believe he makes things any better as he doesn’t stand up to her and lets her always fight and simply accepts she’s right everytime, so doesn’t allow her to learn from anything and reflect.

But he is trapped with his children, he feels he can’t step away himself without loosing his sons. Even though he does 90% of the childcare.

I feel like I am going crazy, I can’t understand it all and how someone can behave like this. Pushing everyone away who genuinely loves and cares for her and victimises herself. Her oldest son already is showing signs he keeps away from her himself.

I just am heartbroken feeling like I am losing my brother. I message him and let him know however i can that I love him and will always be there for him.

I have been on spiro now for ten months, two months ago my dose was increased to 100 to try and reduce the final spots that were persistently coming up. I actually wouldn’t say the increase has made much of a difference, I still get a few.

However I have noticed getting increasingly more depressed recently, something I suffered with about 10 years ago. I also was on Accutane 10 years ago, coincidence?

It’s actually very bad now and I was wondering could this cause this at all? I do have a lot of external factors which has triggered a lot, so I can’t really know for sure. But just curious if anyone else has experienced low mood?

I have LOVED being on this, my skin is so much clearer. I felt like a shell of a person before as I was so insecure but now I feel empty inside. Great timing 🤣

I have just started TAD and I’m surprised at how much I’m struggling with thinking about what to do for the dates! Any suggestions? I think I just feel frivolous going anywhere that requires spending even just £1

I have no trust in mental health care and in particular GPs. I did after months bite the bullet and refer myself to talking therapies and am now on a 90 day waitlist for therapy. But I am absolutely miserable and exhausted and my mind dips into these awful places so often.

I have autism and a lot of changes has happened this year, making it unbearable to work. I am self employed/freelance but I am sure soon I will lose my freelance job as I haven’t done anything of value for weeks now. if that happens we can’t pay for our mortgage.

im rambling but I just don’t want to feel so alone and isolated. I have no one I can talk to who understands, my mum and dad just say it’s a choice I’m making and I need to push myself. I think I will break if I push any harder.

is there anyone else out there who can understand and recognise im not just being lazy?