u/Interesting_Cat_6633

I’m going to (unfortunately) have to see and speak to my abusive birth givers after 6 years of estrangement.

Anyone have any tips or strategies you would use to not give them any power?

This will be in my childhood home, not in public. There will be someone else there, so I won’t physically be in danger.

I know they’re delusional as fuck and evil, I will try to barely speak to them, but other than that, I don’t know what to do to deal with this when they are in front of me…

I had my iPhone SE for nearly 6 years, it was really on its last legs

I couldn’t be happier with my new phone, I can’t find any faults with it. The battery life is amazing

And I don’t think it’s too big or heavy to hold with one hand like some people said

I grew up in a strict religious household which was strictly no sex before marriage, and I had to cover myself up all the time.

Religious beliefs were embedded into me, along with the myth that sex is scary and painful for women, and that the first time *has* to be painful and with a lot of blood.

Shame was all I was taught to feel for simply existing as a woman and having a body. It ran through my very veins.

I was also SAd as a kid and experienced lots of domestic abuse, for 20 years.

With all of these factors combined, I realised a while ago that I have vaginismus, and why this is, because of what I’ve been through.

I recently decided to buy dilators to address the issue and help my body.

Well today I managed to fit the smallest one inside with no issue and even a finger afterwards! This is HUGE for me. I used to think something was inherently wrong with me for not being able to be penetrated.

I feel like for the for the first time in my life, I have taken agency over my body, and reclaimed what is mine.

It feels so empowering and liberating! I am looking forward to working with my body until I am comfortable with penetration and feel like I can have PIV without pain and anxiety

I’ve been ex Muslim the past few years, and I’ve been wondering about this recently:

Abrahamic religions (definitely Islam) say cremation is a sin and you must be buried when you die.

Since leaving religion and waking up to a lot more, being cremated feels far more right than being buried

Does being buried tether us more to this planet so we are more likely to be forced back?

Thoughts?