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ito yung photo from the inside ng sauna spa at indoor pool entrance nila.

so we went on vacation with his family sa isang country before kami pumunta sa home country nila. apparently they practically own the city 😭 nalaman ko lang noong 2nd day after arrival sa home country nila, noong tnour kami ng parents nya sa city.

parang lahat ng building/establishments na pinuntahan namin, sa kanila. tapos noong napagod tatay nya, mag-coffee nalang daw, tapos josko, pati coffee chain/brand, sa kanila din 😭

hindi ko naman inexpect na ganun, kasi when we met sa US when i was on vacay, napaka-simple nya lang, actually super simple nya, isang giant backpack lang dala nya sa buong trip(2 countries), habang ako 2 luggages 😂 self-made sya actually sa US, and hindi nya ininvolve sarili nya sa businesses nila sa home country nya (from real estate, automotive, F&B, at hindi ko alam kung ano pa yung iba).

comfortable naman family ko, and i have my businesses too, pero hindi ganoong level 😭 i felt so overwhelmed, i was breaking up with him a few days after, naka-pack na mga luggage ko, and re-booked my flight back to ph earlier(kinabukasan agad agad), tapos nilabas ko lahat ng ibang issues namin, kahit ang main issue ko is na-overwhelm ako. pero na-resolve yung mga issues na nilabas ko eh, kaya di natuloy break up, pero yung bigger issue, andun parin deep inside me, yung feeling of overwhelm. So binalik ko sa dating sched flight home ko, and stayed as scheduled.

wala naman kasi syang knwento, sinabi nya lang noong dating pa lang kami, lawyers parents nya, e keri ko naman, kasi law student ako. pero di lang pala sila lawyers, josko 😭

sobrang bait nanay nya, pinapabalik nga ako, gusto mag-stay ako at least a month dun, tatay nya naman di ko bet yun(which is di rin naman sya bet ng mga anak nya, kaya nga lumayas for the US itong si jowa as a teenager). Medyo parang kala mo kasi kakamkamin ko assets ng anak nya, like hello, social climber siguro ako, pero di ako gold-digger, eme! haha

ayun wala lang, inaantay lang may kumatok sa mga known residence ko, magtanong tanong, baka pinapa-private investigator nako ng tatay nya hahaha 😂

wala ako masabihan, not even my family(di nga nila alam kasama ko family ni afam nitong last travel ko, di din nila alam na official na kami at inooffer nako ng kasal), alam lang nila nasa usual gala ako that time as a solo traveler.

*edit*
ok. just to be clear, i just want a simple, comfortable life sa suburbs, with a normal-sized home. small businesses to manage to sustain our needs and some leisure, and stable retirement. no large corp stuff. while hubby-to-be goes to work as an engineer, goes home, play with the kids, and spend time. ito lang ang gusto ko. hindi ako insecure sa what they have back home, i feel aversion for it actually, kaya i feel overwhelmed. i’m hoping the dad won’t drag jowa to their stuff back home, panganay na son pa naman, and apparently the only capable one to run those biz. Sya mismo though, lumayas papuntang US when he was 16, because he can’t take his dad. and to-date, doesn’t involve himself in their businesses. He’s an employee sa US, working as an engineer, planning to start pa lang a biz of his own, from his own hard-earned money.

get the joke sa dulo ng post ko? yung baka pinapa-private investigator nako ng tatay nya(for background check, kasi baka threat ako sa assets?) hahaha.

to each his own dba? kanya kanya tayo ng trip sa buhay. and regarding my manner of speech sa post na ito, teh, nasa reddit tayo, di ako pwede maging jejemon for a bit? 😅

mas napapagod ako sa 1-2 countries na may kasama, kesa sa 3-4 countries na mag-isa lang ako. Mas ok for me
solo travel, walang iniisip, walang ina-adjustan, minima stress. it can get lonely sometimes, pero pag pagod kna from walking all day, di mo na halos maiisip yun lol.

had breakfast alone :( his flight out was morning, mine is evening. we’ve both arrived in each country we’re based in after spending 2 weeks with his family out of the country + his home country. I practically met his whole family, and i was immersed in their culture. He kinda proposed too, after being together for 2 months, we plan to marry within the year. I’m used to being alone, but i don’t feel lonely, until i got into an LDR, each time we part it just gets unbearably lonely :(

his mom is very nice too, and asks us to visit them in their home country more often (SO is based in the US).

oh, i love this guy do much, the best relationship i had so far, LDR isn’t that bad after all.