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Arranged Married couples of Kerala. What do you call your husband / what do your wife call you? Do the wife call you da/eda/nink/ninde?

Please share some thoughts

Just found out that her father isn’t on good terms with her or her mother. What’s concerning is that they apparently acted normal throughout the AM process and even until the engagement, so I’m wondering if they were pretending everything was fine so our family wouldn’t get a negative impression.
I happened to see some of their chats because she had left her phone with me. She seemed disrespectful towards him, while he seemed to be trying to make up with her or asking for forgiveness. There could obviously be a valid reason for her behaviour that I don’t know about.
She seems nice overall, and I don’t want to judge her based on this alone. But I’m almost certain something happened within the last 5 years, since she apparently had a great relationship with her father throughout childhood and college.
What worries me most is that her family gave us a different reason for why her parents live separately. If they deliberately hid the real reason from us, I’m concerned about what else we might not know.
Our engagement is already done, so I’m unsure what I should do before getting married.

Am 28M she’s 26F and already engaged to her in April what would you do

I just found out that her father isn’t on good terms with her or her mother. What’s concerning is that they apparently acted normal throughout the AM process and even until the engagement, so I’m wondering if they were pretending everything was fine so our family wouldn’t get a negative impression.
I happened to see some of their chats because she had left her phone with me. She seemed disrespectful towards him, while he seemed to be trying to make up with her or asking for forgiveness. There could obviously be a valid reason for her behaviour that I don’t know about.
She seems nice overall, and I don’t want to judge her based on this alone. But I’m almost certain something happened within the last 5 years, since she apparently had a great relationship with her father throughout childhood and college.
What worries me most is that her family gave us a different reason for why her parents live separately. If they deliberately hid the real reason from us, I’m concerned about what else we might not know.
Our engagement is already done, so I’m unsure what I should do before getting married.

Am 28M and already engaged to her she’s 26F
What would you do in this situation?

I just found out that her father isn’t on good terms with her or her mother. What’s concerning is that they apparently acted normal throughout the AM process and even until the engagement, so I’m wondering if they were pretending everything was fine so our family wouldn’t get a negative impression.
I happened to see some of their chats because she had left her phone with me. She seemed disrespectful towards him, while he seemed to be trying to make up with her or asking for forgiveness. There could obviously be a valid reason for her behaviour that I don’t know about.
She seems nice overall, and I don’t want to judge her based on this alone. But I’m almost certain something happened within the last 5 years, since she apparently had a great relationship with her father throughout childhood and college.
What worries me most is that her family gave us a different reason for why her parents live separately. If they deliberately hid the real reason from us, I’m concerned about what else we might not know.
Our engagement is already done, so I’m unsure what I should do before getting married.

Am 28M and already engaged to her she’s 26F

I just found out that her father isn’t on good terms with her or her mother. What’s concerning is that they apparently acted normal throughout the AM process and even until the engagement, so I’m wondering if they were pretending everything was fine so our family wouldn’t get a negative impression.
I happened to see some of their chats because she had left her phone with me. She seemed disrespectful towards him, while he seemed to be trying to make up with her or asking for forgiveness. There could obviously be a valid reason for her behaviour that I don’t know about.
She seems nice overall, and I don’t want to judge her based on this alone. But I’m almost certain something happened within the last 5 years, since she apparently had a great relationship with her father throughout childhood and college.
What worries me most is that her family gave us a different reason for why her parents live separately. If they deliberately hid the real reason from us, I’m concerned about what else we might not know.
Our engagement is already done, so I’m unsure what I should do before getting married.

Am 28M and already engaged to her she’s 26F

I just found out that her father isn’t on good terms with her or her mother. What’s concerning is that they apparently acted normal throughout the AM process and even until the engagement, so I’m wondering if they were pretending everything was fine so our family wouldn’t get a negative impression.
I happened to see some of their chats because she had left her phone with me. She seemed disrespectful towards him, while he seemed to be trying to make up with her or asking for forgiveness. There could obviously be a valid reason for her behaviour that I don’t know about.
She seems nice overall, and I don’t want to judge her based on this alone. But I’m almost certain something happened within the last 5 years, since she apparently had a great relationship with her father throughout childhood and college.
What worries me most is that her family gave us a different reason for why her parents live separately. If they deliberately hid the real reason from us, I’m concerned about what else we might not know.
Our engagement is already done, so I’m unsure what I should do before getting married.

Am 28M and already engaged to her she’s 26F

I just found out that her father isn’t on good terms with her or her mother. What’s concerning is that they apparently acted normal throughout the AM process and even until the engagement, so I’m wondering if they were pretending everything was fine so our family wouldn’t get a negative impression.
I happened to see some of their chats because she had left her phone with me. She seemed disrespectful towards him, while he seemed to be trying to make up with her or asking for forgiveness. There could obviously be a valid reason for her behaviour that I don’t know about.
She seems nice overall, and I don’t want to judge her based on this alone. But I’m almost certain something happened within the last 5 years, since she apparently had a great relationship with her father throughout childhood and college.
What worries me most is that her family gave us a different reason for why her parents live separately. If they deliberately hid the real reason from us, I’m concerned about what else we might not know.
Our engagement is already done, so I’m unsure what I should do before getting married.

tl;dr her family hid their fathers bad relationship from grooms family

My Indian wife 26f wanted to do masters so she can get a job in Australia. She did her bachelor's in engineering in electronics and communication. Worked for many years as network engineer. Now she wants to do masters and in project management something generic so she can do support roles or something which is less labourous. Is it advisable to do this in current aus market. Please advise

Basically we have done engagement 2 months ago. We have known for a while and she was very lovely. But recently 1-2 weeks ago she has become too open in the sense always jokes around not being serious even if it is serious talk or makes fun of me or trying to make me feel bad example- was playing with my car and she said scratch it's ears so it will scratch you. #2 was playing with my phone while talking and she says to go in the corner of bed so the phone falls #3 I said I don't get scared by horror movie and she asked me to watch a horror movie to make me scared even after knowing I was home alone. #4 I asked her politely if I shud turn off FAN if it's bothering her in call. She said yes' turn it off and stay in hot room. Don't talk dumb things yar' #5 said in a fun manner that I don't have a brain jokingly etc.

We are now long distance and marriage is in 4 months

Sometimes she says good things too like am handsome/ admired me on video call and says she's admiring my looks etc

How do I confront her about the talking part. Have anyone faced this before? Pls help

Tl;dr : always making fun of me and not serious

Summary : always laughing most of the time on random things

Basically we have done engagement 2 months ago. We have known for a while and she was very lovely. But recently 1-2 weeks ago she has become too open in the sense always jokes around not being serious even if it is serious talk or makes fun of me or trying to make me feel bad example- was playing with my car and she said scratch it's ears so it will scratch you. #2 was playing with my phone while talking and she says to go in the corner of bed so the phone falls #3 I said I don't get scared by horror movie and she asked me to watch a horror movie to make me scared even after knowing I was home alone. #4 I asked her politely if I shud turn off FAN if it's bothering her in call. She said yes' turn it off and stay in hot room. Don't talk dumb things yar' #5 said in a fun manner that I don't have a brain jokingly etc.

We are now long distance and marriage is in 4 months

Sometimes she says good things too like am handsome/ admired me on video call and says she's admiring my looks etc

How do I confront her about the talking part. Have anyone faced this before? Pls help