Hello everyone, I [24F] just moved to Edinburgh and I want to explore the nightlife. So I was wondering if there are any nice clubs or lounges or something like that or are there any events that are going to happen soon?
OK SO basically what happened is that I saw a video on Instagram and it was talking about some like "black representation in shows" which I'm all for don't get me wrong, I liked the video then went to the comment section. I see someone like "don't forget *insert egyptian character*!!" which I found a bit funny because that's Arab representation more than black yk! I see the replies like "he's Egyptian tho..." and then people were like "Egypt is in Africa". For context, I am Moroccan so I also found that a little funny because just because someone is from Africa or their country is located in Africa, it doesn't necessarily mean that they're black. I took a screenshot and sent to my boyfriend because I was bored and just wanted to share something that I saw and yk talk about random things just to start up a conversation. HOWEVERRR he started talking about like how i AM black and insisted that I was..? He said the commenters weren't wrong and that also that I probably have some black ancestry due to the location of where Morocco is. I corrected him and was like, no, my family knows where we came from. My mom is amazigh so I don't believe that's really black at all.. if you see the berbers you know. My dad is doukkali but he is aware of where his tribe came from---somewhere in the middle east. I am more Arab than I am black and I explained to him. Plus, going by his logic, even IF i had a distant relative who was black, that doesn't make me black. I'm arab. But then he started insisting even further and said "but that's how dna strands work we all come from one human who is the first ever so we're basically all related in some way" i mean i guess bro...? if you wanna use that logic too, might as well say that I'm every race..?
Anyway, he was just confusing me because I don't really know why he was trying to insist I was a race I'm not, especially since he's part Arab himself. He told me to take an ancestry test and used his friend as an example because she came back a very low percent black. I don't know what he was trying to achieve with that because.. well.. I don't really think that's enough to identify as black..?
anyway, I'm mostly just making this post because my whole life I really have disliked being called a race I'm not. I would constantly get comments like "oh but Morocco is in Africa---why don't you say the N-word?" or "girl you're literally black just face it" when I'm not 💔💔 also I don't get why so many people want me to say the n-word so badly just because Morocco is in Africa. That's clearly just racist and morally wrong, I am ARAB and I do not have the right or pass to say that. It's like claiming that people in Saudi Arabia can say the c-slur because they're in Asia. What's so different?
I don't know maybe I shouldn't have sent those comments in the first place but I just thought it was common sense... I didn't need him to keep insisting for a good 15 minutes that I was black and completely look past my Arab identity and heritage. That's mostly why I was upset. Even after I told him about my dad knowing about our history very well he claimed that my dad didn't live that far in the past to see if I had any black ancestors. Well okay... but he knows where we came from..? My dad is very educated in history and I doubt my boyfriend, who spends his free time at home on Discord voice calls, knows better than him. My dad is a very well educated and respected man, too.
AIO?
edit: to be clear, i do NOT find it as insulting to be called black, i think all people are beautiful. what i meant was i dislike how someone tries to put a label on me after i correct them MULTIPLE times, it doesn't matter what race it is if theyre just wrong. please do not get this twisted, it just happened to be that i get called black a lot. however, it wouldve been the same story if any other race too. my bf even started trying to say i was french, too, which is also false. thats what i was upset about, being told im something im not and that its suddenly okay for me to say slurs..?