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Oki Ik online clothing stores are dime a dozen these days. I have a pretty well paying soul sucking corporate job so this is more like a side hustle and I might eventually run an actual shop on the top floor of my husband's building if I feel secure enough. The problem is I don't think I'll be able to travel to Surat anytime soon so my closest option is bnglr. I have already order around 4k worth of clothes from a seller via WhatsApp.. let's see how that turns out. I may not be able to travel to blr until beginning of next year.

So my dear traders..do you have any trusted sources? Pls dm me or mention in the comments.. help out a sis.. i do realise you might see me as competition.. so help me out only if you want to.. dont have to feel guilty if you don't want to

Oki Ik online clothing stores are dime a dozen these days. I have a pretty well paying soul sucking corporate job so this is more like a side hustle and I might eventually run an actual shop on the top floor of my husband's building if I feel secure enough. The problem is I don't think I'll be able to travel to Surat anytime soon so my closest option is bnglr. I have already order around 4k worth of clothes from a seller via WhatsApp.. let's see how that turns out. I may not be able to travel to blr until beginning of next year.

So my dear cocos...do you have any trusted sources? Pls dm me or mention in the comments.. help out a sis.. i do realise you might see me as competition.. so help me out only if you want to.. dont have to feel guilty if you don't want to

So I had an arranged marriage 3.5 years ago. At the time my husband was into a family business run by his father and his uncles. The matrimonial profile said income of 11-15 lakhs p.a..My dad thought its a good alliance since they are into business and are earning so much so I wouldnt have to struggle a lot in the future like he did bcz of his private job. So we are a bit below them financially but I do have a well paying job thanks to God. I was not at all willing to get married at that point that too a businessman.. but somehow during pennukaanal smtn clicked and we really liked each other and got married. My dad did have a concern, since its a family business what of the future.. ok the brothers might be in good terms but what about the kids? He was assured by my husband and his bro in law there's enough money in the bank. My dad didn't enquire too much.

Cut to a few months after marriage or somewhere along the way my parents actually understood that there is no legal partnership.. they are just held together by the word of the eldest uncle. And this few months later, it was revealed that everyone despises my husband and his dad bcz the eldest uncle has a certain soft spot for my husband due to his character and that irked his kids and others.. they felt my husband was taking extra money from him ( so the system in place was every 3-4 months the eldest uncle will distribute a 3-5 lakhs among the bros), so he wanted one of the uncles in whose property the shop is to give a portion of the shop to my husband since my husband and FIL were the ones actually sitting there and doing the business compared to others.. so another big drama happened and my husband had decided to step away. And they were also trying to kick out my father in law as well. My husband stayed jobless for around 7 months, then thankfully he got a rented shop and he started from scratch.

So during this time, my parents or anyone in my family never ever questioned anyone or made anyone feel insecure and treated my husband better than ever, fully understand the situation and tried to make sure he didn't feel bad in any way. So cut to a new property was bought after a lot of trying to convince my FIL bcz he hates spending any money in the bank..( he has known a lot of difficulties in his younger days).. so due to some reason it had to be bought in his mom's name. So he has a sister and I consider her my own sis since Im and only child and she did love me a lot too. She's just an year older than me and we were like really good friends. So she s married and she and my MIL has said multiple times abt how horrible and money minded her inlaws are. Yeah so when we shared this news to another close family, they said if its in moms names, sis also has equal rights to the property. My parents were a bit concerned what if in the future smtn happens and my sis in laws parents convince her husband to demand for money and what if she will have to give into the pressure.. since so much had already happened my parents thought atleast they ll just share this with my husband if hes unaware of such a possibility. None of us obviously thought the sister would turn on him.. but who can predict the future.. So my husband told my MIL and either him or MIL told her.. no one showed anything outward but there was a vibe change in the air post that..

So my parents dropped it once they saw my husband didn't buy it. And continued to support him in every way by helping him with the new shop and always being on his beck and call. So cut to 3 months ago.. so the thing is its been around 2 yrs since the property was bought and the construction is not yet complete bcz my father in law is very hesitant to spend money and keeps saying the money in the bank is getting over, it was around 70 lakhs for property and imagine how much more we ll need for construction.. so it kept getting delayed.. so I told him that my father said you can sell all my gold but a portion of it should be in my name.. so that again irked my husband.. so I told ok fine then sell a couple of my bangles for time being and he said he doesn't want to waste my gold now. I also try and help him as much as possible for construction

Yeah so back to 3 months ago, since my father in law wasn't giving money, my husband went behind his back and took his aunts help who agreed to give him karshika loan with the gold kept aside for her kids..and he agreed to this.. so that didn't sit well with me.. I asked when my gold is here why would you agree to take her gold? What does that do to my image? So I shared this with my sis in law and she said Im right in thinking so and asked my husband. My stupid husband told her I refused to give him any gold and if i do I want the property to be in my name.. He gets very defensive during fights and he said this the same way without thinking too much

So the sister in law conveyed the same to me and also mentioned about the thing my dad told my husband and that she was deeply offended.. I did apologise to console her.. but then later it struck me..Did my father do anything wrong? Given the circumstances.. so later in the evening I called my mother in law and she assured me that the aunt had sm gold lying in her house which she was planning on keeping in the locker so she thought she ll put a better use to this and its not anything to do with me..Then I complained about my husband to her. And she was like he had the things my dad said in his mind that's why he saying alll this.. and she was like me or anyone doesn't want that property. I was like why are we bring this up now.. thay topic was dropped 2 years ago.. now we don't have to talk about it. And she was like " pappa angna okke paranjitt njngal aarum choikkan vannillalo" as if my dad committed a huge crime.. so that didn't sit well with me.. at all. I just told her it was bcz or the circumstances at that time. She was like wat circumstances my husband loves me a lot he is a very nice guy. Blah blah

I don't know.. I felt horrible.. inspite of staying quiet throughout everything and supporting my husband in every way my had become a villain for them.. it hurt me deeply. I feel if my parents had put pressure on them at the time they would have been treated better. So I did something. I sent a voice msg to my sil.

I said I had a talk with my father and he said it was not about her personally. So the mat profile said this much income annually and we werent aware that it was a word of mouth agreement and its true we dint ask about it and you never lied about it.. and also when my dad expressed concern abt future her husband had said that they are looking for a property and construction soon will be done once a property is found..and nothing had yet been completed.. so my father wanted to make sure that bcz of his negligence in anyway my future should be jeopardised and told her it was more about her in laws than her.. I also told her I don't think there is anything wrong with this thinking so, he was just thinking from a father's pov.

It took an unexpected turn.. if I thoughts this is what she'll get out of this, I would not have sent this msg. She asked so you are saying you think this alliance is a mistake?? I was a bit taken aback.. I told her never has anyone in my family thought so and I have never even had such a thought ever and assured her I have no issues at their home from my husband, MIL and FIL or her.. I said no one asked the property ownership to be changed now..this was a conversation 2 years ago and it was dropped then and there.. I brought this up at home only after she mentioned it and that it is not smtn that required priority now..

So I was at home for a few days during this time..since before the time my husband and I fought.. So after 3 days or so she messaged me saying.. I have talked to my husband about this and we will talk to my FIL ( who doesn't know anything at all, my MIL always insists on hiding a lot from him since hes a bit shot tempered, I don't think its right tho) and ask the deed to be changed ASAP so your dad can relax.. I assured her again and asked her to pls drop it, there are other things that require priority now. She said we didnt think you people are capable of such thoughts.. we or anyone we know are incapable of having such kind of thoughts. She asked me to not get influenced my father and become like him. She said my husband, her brother is not hapless he has enough money financially and asked me if I faced any difficulties or poverty while I was there.I asked her when did I say so?

I lost my shit.. shaming my parents is where I draw the fucking line. I told her I can think for myself and like I said I don't think there is anything wrong with my fathers thoughts. So she ws given almost the same amount of dowry as my hubby's bank balance.But they were still concerned abt her husband's low bank balance eventhough he has high paying job and does everything as per demands and spends a lot on her and even at times although not always went against his parents for her.. He is financially almost same as my family. And before marriage it was said her husband will have a flat in his name which was eventually in his moms name and my MOM in law has mentioned this with disdain a lot of times saying he doesn't have anything. So I asked my sis in law.. so if its right for her parents to be concerned why can't mine? I never heard her reply and we haven't spoken since. Sm drama did happen post that. She gave half a picture to my husband and when my husband asked she sent the audio and of course not the one where I told I don't have any issues in their home etceyc.and my husband thought I dont love him and only loves money. He was ready to forgive me inspite of misunderstanding and I explained the whole story to him and he understood my pov and that Im not a snake but still thinks her reaction is valid. It didnt go down the same way with MIL.not going into detail

She has basically completely cut me off .. shes now in New Zealand btw since 1.5 years and visted 4 months back when everything was happy and hearty. She removed me from her insta , before that she used to put up some quotes about true colors and stuff .

I understand my words hurt her. But I still don't believe I did anything wrong. I have tried to think a million times from her pov, I don't think I would have reacted like this, but I empathise with her. I am also not going to talk to her until she apologises for the way she spoke about me and my parents. If you have reached here. How bad of a person am I?

So Im 11 months PP, breastfeeding my baby 4 times a day sometimes 5. Im down to my pre pregnancy weight and really wanted to know if I will gain it all back once I wean completely. Under all the posts I came across on reddit related to the topic, I could only find tons of comments from those mommas who gained weight while breastfeeding and lost after weaning. I do understand your plight as someone who's been insecure about my body all my life, but could you please not comment under this post so I don't have to scavenge for comments from moms who actually relate to my situation.

What is the criteria to be promoted to US Tax Senior or Manager?

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