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Context:

My friend recently told me she was trans (that made me so happy because I’m transmasc myself and I think she is the first trans friend I’ve ever made :’)) and she has recently send me all her outfits and what she wants to wear and stuff (I’ve tried to help her with my limited knowledge on fem stuff)

She recently asked me to forcefem her, and here I am asking…. How do I do that?? I mean, I can’t make her wear fem stuff because right now I’m outside the country, but I’m here to ask for ideas on how to make a girl feel happy :3

Im asking you girls what should I do to make my friend happier (and forcefem her???? How do I do that 😭) I need ideas ;A;

Thank you in advance

EDIT: Sorry if I used the term forcefem, I didn’t know it represented a form of violence. She did use that word, but I don’t want to force anyone to do anything. I just wanted to be more supportive and see what would be the best ways to be affirming. Thank you for all the comments, and sorry if I worded it incorrectly

u/Junior_Constant_958 — 11 hours ago

Would I benefit from getting evaluated for APD even if I live abroad?

Hi,

I’m currently studying abroad in Canada (English is my second language), and I want to get evaluated for APD, but I’m unsure if it would be worth it. Even though I have a lot of problems listening and understanding speech in my native language (Spanish), I have more difficulty hearing spoken English. My APD just becomes worse with English than Spanish, and it’s been affecting me because I can barely understand people on the streets, restaurants or any public environment. This also happened in Mexico but it got worse once I arrived here.

How is the APD evaluation like? Will I have to hear spoken English during the test? I’m afraid making the exam in English will affect the results. But I don’t return to Mexico until next year and I’m desperate for a solution. I can barely speak with my friends (even if they are Mexican too) and classmates, I’m having difficulty having conversations overall.

I don’t know if I should wait until I return to Mexico, but probably it will take a while until I get evaluated. Getting evaluated here might be easier but I’m also scared of discrimination (being told my APD issues are just bc I’m ESL) or just not be taken seriously

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u/Junior_Constant_958 — 4 days ago

Is accuracy important while doing studies?

Hi (sorry for bad English)

I’ve realized that even if I understand the 3d shapes of a subject, many times when I’m doing studies what Im drawing and the reference doesn’t match up 100%. I have big trouble making a 1 to 1 copy of the reference, and I’m wondering if I should make that my main focus while doing studies.

I want to focus more on the fundamentals aspects of drawing (like perspective, 3d shapes and manipulation of forms), but it still bugs me out if the study I did isn’t that similar to the original reference (the angles would be slightly off, and the proportions would differ slightly)

I’ve seen pro artist make really good studies that are almost 1 to 1 to the reference, and that makes me wonder if I should more focus on accuracy instead of understanding shapes. This is a problem I encounter more in portrait drawing, but this applies to all areas as well (figure drawing, environments, etc).

TLDR; I just have a great difficulty making an accurate drawing (even if the anatomy and 3d shape is actually correct), and I don’t know if I should just leave it as it is or focus on improving my observational skills

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u/Junior_Constant_958 — 9 days ago

I give up

All the time, I’m making everything possible to socialize “correctly” (whatever that means). I’m always thinking what I should say that would make the other person happy and continue the conversation. I’m always overthinking, and my possible auditory processing disorder makes it worse (I can’t understand people 60% of the time, even if I ask them to repeat I feel like it’s too annoying so I just guess what they said). If I don’t overthink, I don’t know what to say and the conversation ends. I feel like I have precreated responses in my brain and I say them in loop, hoping it would make me more desirable to talk/be with.

I don’t know if it’s masking or if it’s possible autism. I have OCD, so I’m technically neurodivergent but I told my worries to my therapist and psychiatrist and they both said I possibly didn’t have it. That just means it’s my skill issue. I really just suck at socializing and I don’t have a way to justify it. I just suck at being a normal human being.

Sorry if this is doomposting, I really feel bad and I’m tired of all of it. I wish I could engage in normal conversations without overthinking, I just want to go with the flow. BUT I DONT KNOW HOW TO DO THAT.

My lack of social relationships/skills is one of the main sources of my depression. Improving them might make me feel better, but I feel like that’s impossible? I always try my best and me realizing my best isn’t enough is really sad

u/Junior_Constant_958 — 14 days ago
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I know I’m transmasc nonbinary. I know it because I get so mad when people call me with female terms and I cry about it and it makes me so sad. Yet I still view myself as a girl. I don’t feel masculine at all. And I WANT to feel like a guy, but my brain is not letting me feel that euphoria.

My mind is stuck in “oh I’m a woman” and I can’t get out of there. Accepting myself is so hard. It doesn’t help the fact that if I accept who I am, I’ll have to deal with so much dysphoria I won’t be able to handle it. Maybe it’s best to be in denial for a while (I’m not financially independent and I still depend and will depend on my transphobic parents for a WHILE), even though I’ve knew I was trans since I was 15.

Everything is bad. I hate misgendering. But at the same time I misgender myself all the time and nothing feels like myself.

Mandatory “maybe I’m just cis” line

u/Junior_Constant_958 — 18 days ago

What’s your personal choice for earbuds/hearing aids to help with APD

Hi,

I recently got a Flare Calmer earbuds for noise bur I realized they make my APD worse. My problem is that I hear mumbles many times when people speak and I don’t understand what they say, it happens more often when there is a lot of noise in the background or the person is talking too fast or low volume.

With the Flare Calmer, everything sounded so mumbled I even had problem listening to people in normal circumstances.

Are the Loops worth it? Or maybe the AirPods? Or what are your recommendations?

Literally this problem is interfering with my ability to perform in school and socially, and I just want to find a solution

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u/Junior_Constant_958 — 19 days ago

painted Vil for a school assigment

The assigment was painting something with a triadic color scheme so Vil was the perfect fit for this!

Also im practicing drawing him bc me and my friend want to do a zine with splash art of all overblots so this was a fun excercise

u/Junior_Constant_958 — 28 days ago

two page manga i did for a school assigment

Done in photoshop. We had to recreate an aseops fable and I choose "The Stag & His Reflection".

I hope you like it!

u/Junior_Constant_958 — 1 month ago

Should I keep wearing my binder?

Hi, I recently acquired a binder (I bought it from wivov??? Size L) but I’ve been having some trouble with it.

When I first wore it it hurt a lot and it was hard to breathe, and I had pain mostly on the ribs. After a while the pain disappeared and it was actually quite comfortable. But after trying it out a couple days, (never exceeding the 8 hour limit), I’ve started to experience some pain while sleeping. The pain is mostly on the side of my ribs, and only when I’m breathing or exhaling.

I’ve stopped wearing it because I have some health anxiety and I don’t want to damage my ribs. But I’m sad because I spent money on this + there are no other ways I can bind (using tape gives me a horrible rash, and sport bras aren’t as effective).

Is it normal that a binder gives pain after wearing it for some hours? Should I stop wearing it, or should I get used to it? Also I’m sure it’s the correct size, because when I wore it it fit perfectly. Also ik this isn’t a health subreddit but I was curious too if someone here also experimented something similar with their binder. Any help is appreciated :’)

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u/Junior_Constant_958 — 1 month ago