u/Jupiter-1015

I left the church 4 years ago. Been a witch less than a year. It’s seems like the fundie world I left is following me. The anti-trans laws being passed, dog whistles in everyday life, and marriage being the only way for my job to insurance my partner( they don’t recognize partnership or common law). I want to be free! Live without their rules and views being pushed on me.

Note: I struggle to separate marriage from the framework as women as property and 1 man 1 woman BS.

Anybody experience physical symptoms as a result of the trauma? I saw somebody that I used to go to Church with in a library. I had the overwhelming urge to puke. I couldn’t breathe. My dog walked me outside. Helped calm down. I just want to know I’m not alone in this extreme reaction.

Note: the church I went to that traumatized me was Christian fundamentalist evangelical.

Anyone else feel pressured to go to the gym? I see a lot of top surgery and transition post how going to the gym. Like the gym will save your surgery results. Or want to look more masc go to the gym. I’m not into fitness. I move enough at my 2 jobs. I also have chronic pain in my hip. It’s just not for me. Yet I feel to properly transition or recover from top surgery(it’s planned for September) I have to go to the gym. Anybody feel this peer pressure?

I’m 26. I have autism. I flap. Sometimes just my hands. Most of the time my whole arms are involved. It occurs when I’m incredibly excited or day dreaming. My surgery is in September. I’m worried about flapping and busting a stitch. How did you guys cope? Should I avoid anything that could cause it? Suppress or substitute it? Any tips will help.

Edits: Polyamorous, pan-romatic, and pansexual

I want to date someone asexual. I’m not big on sex. I’m probably somewhere on the spectrum myself. I want a relationship with zero sexual pressure. My current partner and I do it like once a year. I would like to meet someone who’s chill with infrequent to not at all. I just don’t know how to find other people like me.

I have to stop smoking weed for two months. 1 month pre op. 1 month post op. I use it to help slow my brain and relax me in order to sleep. I’m unsure what to do without it. Before weed I stared for hours at the wall. I can’t routine my way out of this insomnia. Any suggestions fellow insomniacs?

Edit: Asked my surgeon they said to ask my therapist or psychiatrist(I have both) for suggestions because it stems from my mental illness and their suggestions could interact with my psych meds.

Waiting for insurance to approve the prior authorization for the surgery is agonizing. I can’t get my surgery date until then. They said it takes 4-6 weeks for surgery prior authorizations to be approved. WFT. It’s not complicated. I provided a therapist letter and a psychiatrist letter. Surgeon is on board. The EOB covers it. End of. Should take a day to approve. I don’t understand the wait time. Anyone struggling with being impatient about insurance?

I’m trying to learn what to expect and I can’t get consistent information about recovery. Stretch gently. Don’t stretch ever for a year. You will be able to type on a computer. You will not be able to type on a computer. Use this cream. Don’t use this cream. Put a shirt underneath the surgical binder to help with sensory issues. Don’t put a shirt underneath suffer like the man you are. You can work in 2 weeks. You can’t work for 4 weeks. I’m confused. I’m Overwhelmed. Someone make it all make sense! 😥