Help with transitioning
TLDR nursing night shift and retail worries
I’m M21 she’s F20
My girlfriend and I are going through a pretty massive life transition and I’m wondering if anyone else has dealt with something similar. We went from living together in college and seeing each other constantly to now having almost completely opposite schedules. I’m starting a Target ETL internship with a ~50 minute commute each way and rotating shifts (some starting at 6am, some ending at midnight), while she’s starting as a new RN working 7pm–7am night shifts about an hour away in Fort Myers. On top of that, she struggles with severe depression and has had issues finding medications that work well (Zoloft and others haven’t helped much), and now she’s also going to be farther from her parents/support system. We recently got a cat which has helped mood a lot, but I’m honestly worried about how hard the adjustment is going to be for both of us with the exhaustion, lack of overlapping time, and just going from “college couple always together” to “working adult schedules.” We’ve been together since HS, going on 6 years now. I wanna get engaged once I get an offer in August hopefully for a full time position. I’m very transparent, she knows that plan I have. We’ll be making around 150 before any overtime combined, we both have paid off school and cars so our debt-income ratio is very strong. We have either no rent or $600 a month which is laughable and are planning on saving for a house. Her first year in the work horse in nursing she’ll get her bachelors then masters as a nurse practitioner, nearly doubling her earning potential, and I plan to get my masters for free through target. So we’re very happy with our 5 year plan. Buttt the schedules ass. Has anyone made this kind of transition successfully, especially with one person working nights and dealing with mental health struggles?