u/KittensSaysMeow

At least society would ‘know what I want’, and at least I’d have a stereotype to strive towards and an existing construct in society I would wanna fit into.

Except we don’t really have any existing support system, and are kinda ‘in the background’ of LGBTQ+ discussions. Even with friends, we can’t join ‘girl/boy’s nights’ cuz ofc we aren’t either.

Since I’m closeted, I can’t even sneak in pro-enby arguments when talking with bigoted family members cuz to bigots, we’re basically political cockroaches—just a gross annoyance that isn’t significant enough to mention.

And when actually opening up to people, they often resort to treating you as the opposite of your birth-sex, since most people are unfamiliar with being uninfluenced by the gender binary.

I almost despise having enby as a ‘third gender’, slotting us into a third category/stereotype because people are still incapable of perceiving gender as a spectrum.

Maybe this is the autism speaking but I don’t want to ‘fit in’, I just want everybody else to be normal. A world where everyone is born into a gender binary feels like some caste system I’d see in a nightmare. When do I get to wake up?

Basically am I overreacting? Am I supposed to never try to communicate my feelings again? Am I supposed to explain to them how fucked up it is to talked about my feelings that way? At what point do I stop giving them the benefit of the doubt or should I have given people the benefit of the doubt in the first place?

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