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About a month ago, I was sitting with some brothers when one of them jokingly called me a “plant.” Everyone laughed, including me. At first, I thought it was harmless banter.But then the conversation shifted to another revert brother, and they started saying they were “definitely” convinced he was a plant. That’s when it stopped feeling like a joke.

I went home that night and couldn’t stop thinking about it. For the first time since becoming Muslim, I experienced a level of imposter syndrome I had never felt before. It made me wonder if some people would always see me as an outsider, no matter how sincere I am in my Islam. What made it hurt even more was how isolating it felt.

Many reverts already struggle with feeling like the odd one out. We’re often the only Muslim in our family. Sometimes we’re the only Muslim at work, in school, or in our social circles. We leave behind old lifestyles, navigate difficult family dynamics, and try to find our place in the Ummah. For many of us, the Muslim community becomes the one place where we hope to truly belong.

So being called a “plant” or having your sincerity questioned can hit a lot harder than people realize.
For a while, I grew to resent the brother who said it. Alhamdulillah, I eventually forgave him for the sake of Allah (SWT). I want Allah’s forgiveness on the Day of Judgment and in the grave, so I chose not to carry that resentment forever.

But if I’m being honest, I’ll probably never forget it. It stuck with me in a way I didn’t expect.
Have any other reverts here ever been called a “plant,” “spy,” or had your sincerity questioned because you’re a revert? How did it make you feel, and how did you deal with it?

Hey everyone,

I hope you’re all doing well. I wanted to ask a sincere question to better understand cultural expectations within Habesha Muslim families (Ethiopian and Eritrean Muslim communities).

I’m a Muslim myself, but I’m from a Hispanic/Caribbean background (Dominican). I’m trying to learn how family and cultural expectations typically work when it comes to marriage in Habesha Muslim households.

From your experience, how common or accepted is it for families to be open to their daughters marrying Muslims from outside the Habesha community?

I understand that every family is different and that religion, character, and compatibility matter most in Islam, but I’m trying to get a realistic sense of cultural dynamics and what challenges or expectations might come up.

I’d really appreciate honest perspectives from people who are part of or familiar with these communities. Thank you.

Hey Everyone !

So I’m Dominican 🇩🇴and I recently took a AncestryDNA test and found out that I’m about 6% indigenous Taíno. It got me wondering: is that enough to legitimately claim Taíno ancestry, or is it more accurate to just say I have some Taíno heritage in my family tree?

I’m also curious about involvement in Taíno cultural organizations. Would someone with a result like mine generally be welcomed into Taíno organizations and cultural events, or are there other factors—such as family history, community ties, or documented ancestry—that matter more than a DNA percentage?

I’d appreciate hearing from people who are involved in Taíno communities or who have experience with this topic.

Assalam Alaikum everyone,

I feel like this is something Muslim communities seriously need to talk about.

Why are some reverts automatically treated like “plants,” spies, or people trying to gather information? I understand there may have been rare situations where bad intentions existed, but acting suspicious toward every sincere revert is unfair and honestly harmful.

Some reverts already struggle with loneliness, losing family support, or trying to fit into the Ummah. Then on top of that, they get interrogated, isolated, or looked at with suspicion by born Muslims who should be welcoming them.

This mindset can push people away from the deen. And I genuinely wonder if people will be held accountable for alienating sincere believers who came to Islam seeking guidance and brotherhood.

Has anyone else noticed this mentality in certain communities, or is this less common than I think?

I need some help/advice with Dominican citizenship paperwork.

I was born in the U.S. and I’m trying to get my Dominican citizenship through my mother. My U.S. birth certificate is currently being apostilled, but my mom only has an extracto de acta and an expired Dominican passport.

Would those documents still be valid for the Dominican consulate, or will she need updated documents first?

She also can’t find her cédula or original birth certificate. If those documents aren’t enough, what should the next steps be? Does she need to request a new cédula and a legalized copy of her birth certificate from the DR first?

Any advice from people who went through this process would really help.

As-salamu alaykum everyone,

I’ve been thinking about this a lot and I might be in the minority, but I genuinely believe intimacy should not be discussed during the courting stage or marriage process before Nikah.

Islam places strong boundaries between non-mahrams for a reason. The pre-Nikah phase is meant to evaluate deen, character, compatibility in values, communication, life goals, and family expectations — not to explore private marital matters that only become halal after marriage.

The only exception I personally see is when there are health or medical conditions that could directly impact marital rights or intimacy. In those cases, honesty is necessary to avoid deception or future harm.

But conversations about:

how often intimacy should happen, personal preferences, likes/dislikes, expectations in detail,
feel inappropriate before Nikah.

Even if intentions are marriage, you are still strangers Islamically.

Curious to hear others’ perspectives.

Hey Everyone,

I’ve been going back and forth on whether I should take a DNA test to figure out my ancestry.

Being Dominican, I already know how mixed we are as a people—Taíno, African, European, and everything in between. Still, I’ve reached a point where I really want to map out my family tree and understand where I come from on a deeper level.

But honestly, something about it doesn’t sit right with me.

It’s not just the test itself—it’s the idea of giving my DNA to a company. You can change your passwords, delete accounts, move on from platforms… but you can’t change your genetic code once it’s out there. That thought alone makes me pause.

At the same time, I know I probably will end up doing it one day. Curiosity usually wins in the end. And part of me feels like… we all die eventually, so why not at least die knowing a little more about who we were while we were here?

I keep thinking about services like AncestryDNA or 23andMe, but I can’t decide if the trade-off is worth it.

So I guess I’m asking:

Has anyone else felt this way?

Did you end up doing it—and was it worth it?

Hey Everyone,

I wanted to ask this respectfully and hear different perspectives from other Dominicans.

Both sides of my family are from the DR, and as far back as our family stories go, our lineage has been on the island since the early colonial period — basically since Columbus arrived. Like many Dominicans, my ancestors were a mix of Africans, European colonizers, and Taíno people.

Phenotypically, I’m moreno claro with 4B coiled hair, so I don’t necessarily “look Taíno” in the stereotypical way people imagine. But growing up, I was always told that Taíno ancestry is part of our roots.

My question is:

Is it accurate or acceptable for Dominicans today to say we are Taíno, or is it more correct to say we have Taíno ancestry?

Also, would taking a DNA test actually clarify anything meaningful, or is Dominican identity more cultural and historical than genetic percentages?

I’m genuinely asking to learn — not trying to claim something that isn’t mine or disrespect history. I’d love to hear how other Dominicans think about this.

As-salāmu ʿalaykum everyone,

This question is for the sisters.

Say a man in the U.S. is investing in property with his mother — specifically what’s called a three-decker house (basically one building with three separate apartments).

The setup would be:

Top floor: my mother and sister
Middle floor: me
Bottom floor: my older brother

Each unit has its own entrance, kitchen, bathroom, and private living space — so technically everyone has their own apartment.

From my perspective, it’s a way to:

invest in property, help house family, build generational stability, and still have independent living spaces.

My question for the sisters:

Would you personally feel comfortable moving into a situation like this after marriage?

Does it still feel like living with in-laws even though the apartments are separate?

Would privacy be your main concern?

Or would the financial stability and family proximity actually feel like a benefit?

Disclaimer: I am a Revert and the rest of my family are christian’s but THEY ARE NOT religious and would never try to push their religion onto my wife and my children if Allah blesses me with them.

Genuinely asking to understand different viewpoints — no right or wrong answers.

JazakAllahu khayran 🤍

Hi everyone,

I’m hoping someone familiar with Dominican inheritance/property law can help clarify something.

My father told us that he already put property in the Dominican Republic under the names of all five of his children. There are 5 siblings total. However, only one of us has Dominican citizenship — the other four are foreign nationals.

My question is:

Would the sibling with Dominican citizenship automatically inherit everything, or would the property still be divided equally among all five children even though only one has Dominican citizenship?

Has anyone dealt with a similar situation or understands how inheritance works in the DR when some heirs are not citizens?

Any guidance or experiences would be appreciated. Thank you!

As a revert Muslim for about 9 months now, one thing I didn’t expect was how deeply I would grow to love and respect the Prophet ﷺ.

At first, I was focused on learning the basics — prayer, belief, halal and haram — but the more I started actually reading about his life, the more something changed in me. Learning how he treated his wives with gentleness and humor, how patient and loyal he was, and how merciful he remained even toward people who wronged him… it honestly gives me chills sometimes.

You read story after story and realize his greatness wasn’t just in spreading the message, but in how he lived every single day. His character, his humility, his forgiveness, his emotional intelligence — it feels unmatched. The more I learn, the more I understand why people who met him loved him so deeply.

As a revert, I sometimes feel like I’m still figuring everything out, but one thing I know for sure is that I genuinely want to emulate even a fraction of his character. If I could carry even a small piece of his patience, mercy, and sincerity, I’d consider that a success.

Just wanted to share that appreciation.

Anyone else feel this way the more they learn about the Prophet ﷺ ?