u/Lburnnnnz94

So… I just started talking to a guy every day for about a week (mind you we live on opposite sides of the country) we know eachother from college. I have old photos of me and my ex on my instagram from 4 years ago and a guy and tonight he randomly kind of attacks me on texting asking me if I secretly have a bf? I said um what? No? Idk how I would we’ve talked on the phone every day so it’s pretty clear that I don’t have a significant other of any kind. He then mentioned that he just saw the photos of me and my ex. I said that post was from 4 years ago. Then he proceeds to ask me to take it down. I said oh, I’m sorry are we dating? He said “no but when we get more serious you need to take them down, you shouldn’t have photos of you kissing other men that aren’t your boyfriend”. Honestly this made my stomach completely sink. Made me so uncomfortable and honestly a little scared because I hadn’t seen this side of him yet. Then after I told him he had no right to tell me what I can and can’t do because we’ve only been talking a week, he totally started apologizing and saying he “didn’t mean anything by this and I’m overthinking it”. Oh …. Ok….
This is possessive and dangerous behavior for this early on, correct? I’m thinking I need to just be done because what??? We aren’t even together?! All my intuition alarms are beeping at me so loud.

Thanks in advance for any advice…

So being absolutely done working in the hospital/critical/emergency setting, and by done I mean I mentally cannot do it anymore… I started applying intentionally to jobs that I feel I could do without issue. I was blessed to get 2 offers at once. One is an ortho type rehab where I don’t do any emergency anything there aren’t even airways at all in this particular facility. Pay is $40 an hour and benefits start immediately day 1. Rotating between 3 12’s and 4 10’s full time. But I also got the opportunity to work for an insurance company as a Senior Health Educator (pediatric asthma educator) and this is a remote position working Monday-Friday full time hours. They don’t want to start me for a whole month where the first job wants to start me next week.
I’m feeling so torn on what to do. I feel like this remote position is a job that I never thought I would get the opportunity for but also given my current financial situation and needing health benefits I’m leaning towards the first job. I just worry I’m going to regret letting that other opportunity slip away because I feel like it was super lucky of me to even land something like this.

Any advice would be so helpful. Thanks all

So I’ve been struggling with this a lot I hate when the family knows I’m struggling and takes absolutely forever to pay me. It’s misleading because the first week I was here, they paid me while I was still there before I left their home. Today she said “oh I’ll pay you right now” goes on her phone to make it seem like she was going to pay me … I get home expecting to see money sent to my account and she straight up never sent it…
I get why people like having contracts now. I feel like I can’t trust these people whatsoever. I don’t want to be annoying and blow up her phone asking for my money. I feel like I shouldn’t have to do this…
Any advice is appreciated !

I just don’t understand how this is supposed to work. Both parents are home most of the time sometimes they leave to run errands and come back. Today was my last day of the week with this kiddo and we will be in the toy/play room and he will hear any noise, then m opening the door, talking very loudly, or even the mom sneezed today and he went absolutely insane. Baby is 1.5 so I understand he wants his Mama. But like I feel like this is so unfair to the Nannies who have to deal with this. And also somewhat confusing for the child as well. It seems everyone works from home these days. The absolute worst part about it is when the mom makes me feel like I’m the problem once her child starts screaming bloody murder. Mind you he never cried until he heard them. We were having a lovely day before this.
I truly feel like I’m failing miserably!

How do you handle this?!?

Hello!
I recently dove back into nannying (stepped away from healthcare and didn’t know what else to do so I’m giving it a try… haven’t done since college) and boy have things changed in 9 years…
So I accepted a job as a part time “nanny” (was very vague on care.com) honestly just thought it was a babysitting job as there was very limited info on the job posting.
I feel like I’m being taken advantage of and I just feel overall very uncomfortable. Does anyone deal with passive aggressiveness from nanny families/specifically the moms? Both parents are home which is fine. I do find it odd that they need a nanny when mom doesn’t work? I understand Moms needing breaks but idk it’s just odd to me.
That being said, I feel like I’m constantly being micromanaged. It’s a 1 story home … Any time the kid cries (mind you he only cries when he hears or sees mom&dad)… one time I was changing his diaper the kid heard mom in the kitchen and started screaming crying. She rushes in and says “why does it sound like you’re beating him”…. Oh really because he just heard you he cries like this every time he hears you…

Also in the beginning mom made a weird comment about me bringing my food and putting it in the fridge. I’m only there 6 hours but your girl needs to eat… Sorry?
She said I’m “the only nanny who does that”… oh ok….

Fast forward, they went on a family trip for a week and didn’t bother to tell me until the week off basically. And also she has cut my hours back suddenly and didn’t tell me until the week they got back from their trip.

Today I caught dad following me and the kid to the park… I only take the kid because they are very specific with their schedule and wanted me to take him outside for 2 hours every day. Which mind you in the heat in the south this is very miserable for a 1 y/o or anyone for that matter…
The parks we go to don’t have any shade. It honestly seems like abuse.

I don’t understand I feel like I can’t do anything right. Instead of her communicating with me she is passive aggressive and I feel like she is never telling me when I do something she doesn’t like/isn’t how she does it.
I feel like I’m literally going insane. I can never sleep before going to their house because I’m just so anxious. They also have nanny cams everywhere which I totally understand but with them both home, it just feels overwhelming and now the dad is following me places like what TF. Help. Do I need to quit??

So a guy at my gym (23 y/o m) matched me on hinge when I first moved here after seeing him at the gym. He looks way older as he’s very tall (and jacked hehe🥰). (I’m a 31 y/o f) We only chatted back and forth on hinge like 3 times and I was SHOOK by his age. I don’t usually go for guys this young so I unmatched him. He also made another comment that was something along the lines of he was looking for a hook up.
Well after I unmatched him, things got real awkward at the gym. I swear we were always there at the same times, and he’s friends with the workers at this gym so they would all make me feel super uncomfortable. I assumed he had told them about what happened but I didn’t know for sure. He would stare at me every time I was working out, like a weird, intense stare that I can’t even explain. I was so uncomfortable I almost cancelled my membership. But then I started going at a different time and got over it. I still see him from time to time and I can’t even help it but I just completely come apart. Like when I tell you heart racing, butterflies, anxiety, insane crazy. Idk why or how this guy has this effect over me. I regret ever unmatching with him because he never says anything to me at the gym and I wish I never did that because now I have recently realized that I’m at the point in my life where I just want to have fun and enjoy life. Pretty sure I ruined things but I still catch him staring at me and always picks machines that are super close to me. I will literally walk to the other side of the gym to keep a distance from him and he comes closer to a machine near me. I feel like whatever mind games he’s playing they’re working. And I just wish he would talk to me and give me some sort of hint. Because I’d be down. I think I’ve finally gotten over the age thing. Because dayum I can’t help it 😅

So I just got offered my dream position which is a sales position within the fitness industry. It’s literally at a gym. I am very into fitness and this is honestly a dream for me but comes with an obvious pay cut. Am I crazy if I just wanna be like “bye” to RT for a bit. Idk if I’m coming back. Like I feel like I’m to the point I don’t even care if I struggle for a bit if it means doing what I truly love. I will also be nannying part time which I also love. Anyone else take the leap and do this?

Hey guys! So after quitting yet another hospital position, lol. I just got a text from a clinical manager regarding a local sales position for Boston Scientific. I’m slightly panicking, because I feel like we don’t use a whole lot of their products. But I know I can do this job. Anyone make the transition to device sales? Any initial interview tips for me? Thanks 🫶🏻🙏🏻

I was told in my respiratory therapy group on here that there are some RT’s that transitioned to cath lab/ CVT’s. Is this a real thing? Cath lab/cardiologists were always my favorite areas to work as an RT. I’m located in FL and wanting a change.

I have finally realized, that this job is just not worth what it does to my mind and body before I have to return to work. Idk if I have PTSD or what, but I cannot sleep before I go into a shift. This throws my entire week off, my stomach get super messed up as early as the morning before I go back to the hospital for a shift. I get super irritable and have no appetite the night before I have to return. Then the morning of I am so anxious I don’t even want to talk to anyone. I have come to terms that this isn’t fair to my team or my patients, and I’m no longer suited for this career. And yes, I have tried home care. I had a pretty bad experience with that. I just don’t think it’s for me at all. Any encouragement or advice on what else I can do with this license or degree please send my way, I’m so lost and not doing so hot as I will be resigning from yet another hospital job.