u/Leahfal87

I had my second driving test today after nearly driving for 2 years, I failed with 2 serious faults and did even worse than last time. My instructor said the problem isn’t my ability but it’s falling apart as soon as panic sets in, it gets so bad that I start gagging and disassociating (which is obvs not good when driving). I also can’t sleep before because of the stress and only had about 4hrs the night before. My parents have suggested beta blockers so I’m gonna try and go the doctors to see if it helps and if I can get prescribed. Out of curiosity have they been helpful for anyone else?

I recently got interested in exploring my past life after having a vivid dream of this guy in third person, I wasn’t in the dream and I believe it’s from a past life as I felt like I knew what I was doing as him. I tried a past life regression and it didn’t work for me (tried about two times) is there any other ways to guide me because the got me super curious

I’ve been doing driving lessons now for nearly 2 years and everytime I get one booked, my instructor cancels it because my anxiety is so severe coming up to the test date, at this point I might even have to redo my theory and it’s getting kind of embarrassing when my friends are asking when I can do my test and I have to say it’s moved again. Does anyone have advice? I always can never sleep before my lesson too because I’m that panicked

So one of my friends who I’ve known for like 10 years now has just transitioned mtf. Because I’ve known her for so long, my brain just keeps automatically going to her deadname and it’s getting to every single time I see her now, I just cant get it on my head and I feel horrible because it’s not me wanting to at all. Does anyone have advice on how to get it in your head or how to apologise without making her uncomfortable?

Type me pls

Give a general description of yourself. How old are you?

I’m an 18 year old girl, currently a uni student studying film

• ⁠What do you do as a job or as a career (if you have one)? Do you like it? Why or why not? If you are not working, what kind of job do you want to do or what are you studying?

I’m currently a uni student, studying film. I do really like it as it’s really flexible and I have so much free time and I’m not as pressured to get things done super quick (I’m quite a big procrastinator so it’s so much better). I also prefer creative courses as it gives me more control over what I wanna focus on and I like the amount of options we have to pick what to learn.

• ⁠Describe your childhood/upbringing. Did it have any kind of ideological or structured influence? How did you respond to it? Did you have any significant negative experiences that may have affected how you think or behave?

I mean my parents were quite impatient a lot of the time and hated me having big emotions. I think that’s made me very closed off emotionally, especially towards them now even though they’ve changed. I also struggled to make friends as a kid because I was always very eccentric and loud but after moving schools I tried to blend myself in more by dimming myself down to make more friends.

• ⁠Do you have any mental or physical health issues that might affect how think or choose to live? Provide a brief description.

I’ve struggled with opioid addiction, mainly because I hate feeling too much so I chose to suppress it and make my life easier as I thought at first that I could achieve more if my emotions weren’t always getting in the way of me being productive.

• ⁠If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed?

It depends, I feel like I’m going insane if I’m by myself completely even for a day but when things are super overwhelming, I am prone to shutting myself off.

• ⁠What is your relation with movement and your surroundings? For instance do you prefer a sport or outdoors event? If an outdoors event what is it? And why? If not what type of activities do you tend to engage?

I used to be a sporty person but as I got older, I feel so awkward doing any physical activity because I have really bad coordination, even then I only really enjoyed running because I knew I was so good at it which boosted my self esteem. Now I prefer things like reading or gaming.

• ⁠How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate?

I am always researching things, like I’m the type of person to be staying up til 3am watching random documentaries about things I’ll never need to know but I just get so absorbed in things. My main interest are true crime, social issues and political debates.

• ⁠Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?

I don’t like leadership roles as I’m too unorganised and don’t think that it’d be productive but I definitely don’t like having no say in a project or team and I’m quite vocal about things.

• ⁠Do you prefer hands on activities or working with your hands in some form? Describe your activities.

I play a lot of guitar but I can’t think of any other hands on things that I enjoy.

• ⁠Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particular artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer.

I write sometimes, a lot of poetry and I like writing screenplays, I mainly like to focus it on experiences I’ve had or from the people around me when I’m coming up with characters for my screenplays

What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?

I have a bad habit of repeating past experiences in my head and trying to figure out what went wrong for like the 500th time. I can be impulsive which makes people think I like to be in the present but most of the time I’m quite stuck in my head. At my best I can be really future oriented and making a plan for the future, however this comes in waves.

• ⁠How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so?

If it’s someone close to me, I feel an obligation to help as they’ve done the same to me so it’s only fair that I’d return it and I just like to make other people’s lives easier.

• ⁠Do you need logical consistency in your life?
Yeah I spend a lot of time evaluating things to see if it makes sense to me, I often spend a lot of time doing this.

• ⁠How important is efficiency and productivity to you?

I like to have downtime but my problem with productivity is that I think about it more than putting it into action.

• ⁠Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that?

No I don’t like controlling other people, but if it’s affecting me then I do really try and push them to do a certain things.

• ⁠What are your hobbies? Why do you like them?

I like gaming, specifically cozy ones as it just allows me to unwind with music on in the background. I also like reading because I feel like it helps me creatively and I like getting absorbed in other worlds.

• ⁠What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles?

I hate any learning style to do with group work, as I feel like it’s affecting my work and maybe even brining me down plus it’s tiring if someone isn’t doing anything. I like it structured but also allows me to work somewhat within my own time

Okay so I’ve been interested in mbti for a few years now and still can’t find my type. Everytime I think I know it, I then change my mind, even after looking at cognitive functions. It’s gone so far that I’ve even had opposite mistypes. Does anyone have advice to at least point towards the most likely answer?