u/LilacDream98

I’m 29F and been on three dates with this guy (also 29). He asked me out on Hinge almost immediately and every date has been great and well planned out. He’s also looking for a long term relationship so we’re on the same page.

However, he’s a doctor who works nights so sometimes he can go days without texting me. He says he prefers to keep things in person, which is fine, but the silence makes me catastrophise and think they’ve lost interest and ghosted. It’s happened many times before.

We ended up sleeping together after our last date and he admitted he had another first date planned for Wednesday but he’d rather cancel it to see me sooner as he really wants to pursue me. I said I’d love to and he said he’d confirm details when he got back from his weekend trip. He texted me when I got home and said he’s looking forward to seeing me Wednesday.

That was on Friday morning and it’s now Monday evening and I haven’t heard from him. I dropped him a text at lunchtime today asking how his weekend was, but still radio silence. As a result, I’m starting to get a bit concerned that he ghosted and I was used.

At this point, should I assume the date isn’t happening on Wednesday?

EDIT: He texted back a few hours after this, confirming the date (and restaurant booking) for Wednesday and apologising for the delay as he was driving back from his trip (I mistakenly thought he was home Sunday, not Monday). So guess I freaked out for nothing haha!

Anyone know why and where it’s moving? One of my favourite bars in the city

Thought I’d get a second opinion as I’m freaking out a bit here.

I moved out of the property on 31st of July and requested my full deposit back (a month’s rent) via TDS last week (custodial). And to my surprise, I got an email back yesterday confirming they’d accepted my request and my deposit would be returned to me by September 1st, and the TDS portal confirmed that too.

I’ve had a nightmare with this agent over the years so this felt too good to be true.

But this evening I checked the portal again and it now says “deposit closed” but on the portal and PDF it says “deposit repayment: 0”. I also saw the agent/landlord had input my tenancy end date down as 31 August, which is incorrect as I have email and video proof that they’d accepted 31 July as my final day.

I’m really confused as what’s happened here as I received no dispute on it. However the repayment summary has conflicting information:

Top of the page says total deposit repayment: 0

But under repayment to tenant it has my full deposit amount and under the deductions section it’s all 0.

Is there a chance the deposit repayment: 0 figure is referring to what the agent/landlord will be getting?

I’m planning on emailing TDS tomorrow to clarify this but has anyone else had the same issue?

So I am moving out of my rental property after four years, it was already a periodic / rolling tenancy before Renter’s Rights came into effect from May 1st. I gave my notice in line with when I pay my rent.

I’ve done a lot of research on this sub and I’m aware it’s a common issue. Renters rights’ guidance only refers to fixed term tenancies turning into periodic and requiring two months, but not existing periodic tenancies. After I’d secured my new place, I spoke to CAB and they said I only have to give one month per my contract and the guidance that periodic notices are still valid after May 1st. So I gave in my notice last week, but my letting agent and landlord are claiming it’s two months’ and are not budging no matter what I say.

I even went into the office in person to speak to them and when I mentioned what CAB said, they called them “idiots”, which is pretty telling. I haven’t backed down and have stayed firm that I’m handing in notice in line with my contract and my move out date will be July 31st. I also put together an email to them outlining the guidance from multiple sources that support my dispute (NRLA, Shelter, Unison, MyDeposits etc) and the agency staff member fired back saying I’m “categorically 100% wrong”.

I also told them I’d never received the Renters Rights Information Sheet (which I know they get fined for) and they sent a receipt saying they emailed it to me but I’ve checked my email high and low (spam, deleted etc) and can’t find no such thing. So sounds like it never came through or they photoshopped the receipt to save face.

I’m moving into my new place immediately after so I don’t want to be paying an extra month of rent. I’m also worried they’ll try and retain my deposit because of it so I’m at loss of what to do. From the research I’m done it seems to be a bit of a grey area legally. At the moment I’m being reasonable and staying firm on my decision, and they’re advertising my room from the date after I leave so hopefully all will be fine if it gets filled quickly.

But is there anything else I can do or advice anyone could give? I was hoping they’d drop it once I sent that letter but they just doubled down. Seems like a lot of people are in this same predicament and they’re trying to rinse me for every penny.

I got the shirt in a medium at the show but it’s unfortunately a bit too small for me.

I was wondering if anyone else is in the opposite predicament and would be open to swapping it for a large size?

If so please comment and I’ll DM you 😊

So I’m moving out of a room in a house share after four years. I had an assured tenancy agreement that changed into a periodic one after 6 months. Per my agreement, I only have to give one month’s notice. And I never received an updated contract once the law changed from 1 to 2 months (or the renter’s rights sheet).

I did some research beforehand and Citizens Advice said I can give one month’s notice due to the terms of my contract. But now the letting agency are claiming that I do need to give 2 months?

Please can someone clarify?

Aware set times aren’t out for a while but I’m curious what everyone thinks. Heard Pink is headlining the north stage which is surely a recipe for disaster.

So me (30F) and my ex (29M) broke up almost three years ago now. He was the one who ended it, due to a drinking problem I still wasn’t privy to at the time. We agreed quite early on that we didn’t want to lose each other as friends, and after a long period of no contact, we reconnected as platonic friends. At that point, he opened up to me about his issues, taking accountability for our relationship failing and made amends as a part of his 12 step program. He’s been sober for over two years now, and I’m happy for him.

In the years since we’ve maintained a pretty low stakes friendship, we meet up for a coffee once in a while and text about mutual interests. We go through waves where we talk often , and sometimes we don’t talk for months.

I’ve been dating consistently for the past two years with not much luck. Lots of long term situationships that had potential to be official, but never did. However, he got into a new relationship last year, so while we were still friends and he told her about me and us being friends, I took a step back out of respect.

However, over the past six months there’s been a considerable change in our dynamic. What started as infrequent texting has turned into full blown late night texting conversations, initiated by him. It feels pretty emotionally intimate, borderline flirty and he references things from when we were together. Since he’s in a relationship, it’s making me uncomfortable and feel like emotional cheating. I tried to ignore him for a bit and send signals I was feeling this way, but he didn’t pick up on it. One thing I will admit and I’m bad for, is getting sucked back into talking to him again because we know each other so well.

I told my therapist about this and she said I needed to completely cut him off or raise it with him. At the time I was worried he had lingering feelings, which would disrupt the boundaries we’ve made as friends. In that session I admitted that while the romantic feelings for him are gone, I would genuinely be sad to cut him off and remove him from my life, because he adds a lot of value to it as a friend. I now realise it could be a sense of reassurance I’m still getting from our chats despite the breakup.

I ended up raising this with him over coffee and he apologised profusely and said he didn’t intend for it to come across that way. I asked him what he gets out of being friends with me, and he said he really rates me as a person and he can only talk to me about certain things. This makes me think he’s basically filling a hole in his current relationship with me and it makes me feel strange. I set some ground rules to reset the boundaries after that, with no more late night texting and we haven’t spoken as much since, but it’s still on my mind. He also said earlier in that conversation, that he’s pretty sure him and his current girlfriend are breaking up this summer because she’s moving. And all I was thinking was “why is he telling me this?”

I’m just very confused now and not sure how to move forward with this. I appreciate him as a friend, but I worry that these boundaries between us will continue to blur. I keep telling myself that his addiction aside, there were lots of reasons why we weren’t right for each other.

Should I completely cut him out of my life?

TL;DR Ex turned friend, who is in a new relationship, started late night texting me and blurring boundaries as friends.

When my last relationship ended three years ago, I reentered a dating world that had completely changed. I wasn’t keen to rush into a new relationship but I wasn’t expecting it to take this long. I’m attractive, funny with lots of hobbies and good job, so I thought it would be a breeze. Boy was I wrong.

I’ve been putting myself out there for years now and still nothing. Last year I treated dating as a numbers game and went on loads of dates. Most were only after sex and three I dated for a few months to eventually discover they were leading me on and weren’t after anything serious.

I know this isn’t a surprise to everyone due to dating apps destroying dating, I have a lot of friends in this predicament. But now I’m 30, I’m getting to the stage where my friends are getting engaged, married and buying a house with their partners, which makes me feel like I’m being left behind. I’ve always told myself I’d rather be single than be with the wrong guy, but I have moments like this where I just feel a bit lonely and want to discuss my day with someone.

I’m trying to do more in the community to meet people organically this year, but it’s a struggle. Men and women don’t approach each other like they used to. I go out to bars a lot and it rarely happens now.

Sorry this is a bit of a vent post but just been feeling a bit hopeless recently and worrying that I’m going to die alone.

I was getting the bus last night just before midnight and on Sheepscar junction / lower Chapeltown, a car trying to outrun the police crashed right front of us. The police followed immediately and arrested someone. Seemed pretty intense, anyone know what happened?