u/Living-Mongoose-8821

My child is a bright boy. He has some great strengths. But behaviorally he struggles. He has some challenging behaviors. It’s autism. His sister does great behaviorally in school. My son is a very sweet boy, he just doesn’t understand that people don’t like certain types of touching. Touches faces, places his feet on people. Sometimes he gets overwhelmed and gets a bit vocal. He has a lot of great qualities and I just want him to go as far as he can and have as good of quality of life as he is capable of having. He was my happy, sweet, smiley baby when he was a baby. He was so happy. He’s a sweet boy, he has so much love. I really want him to have a good life.

My child has autism. The school knows my kid is a runner. He has eloped on multiple times. At one point multiple times in one day. Last year my child made it off school grounds and almost got hit by a car. Another parent jumped out stopped the car and saved my child’s life. The school downplayed it.
But now they have placed my child in a classroom-right next- to a door to off campus. It is literally a drop off and pickup zone for all the other parents. Like literally the *beeping* worst place they could put him. Last year he got a way from his aid. He ran aid didn’t catch him he made it off campus.
How do I explain to the school I don’t feel comfortable with my child being placed in -that- classroom.
All it takes, literally all it takes is for him to have a substitute aid, her to get distracted for my kid to get hurt. I’ve seen him with his substitutes before one of them really did leave him unattended in front of his classroom to go get something. (It was in kindergarten so it wasn’t exactly a full time aid but she was definitely supposed to be watching him).
It’s frustrating because I don’t think the school understands. Again it feels like they are downplaying it. I called the office they basically said don’t worry he has a full time aid. Or go write to someone else about it.
I’m just shocked they even thought to place him there.

Is it so terrible to be annoyed that I’m frantically trying to do dishes and keep hearing “mom” so frequently and I’m losing my temper. My kids are big kids and their dad is a full grown adult… I feel like I should be able to clean in peace at the end of the night. 😭

I love my kids very very much, but I am beginning to feel overwhelmed

I just needed somewhere to say what was happening and how I felt about it.

I hate asking him for money. But my mom needs a car, and I can’t afford to help her. He’s the only one who can afford it. I’m basically penniless. So what little help I occasionally give my mom is really tiny.

Do you ever get depressed at the end of summer? I’m a stay at home mom. I don’t drive. I only get out on the weekends.
I think my hormones are wacky right now (getting older). Trying to diet, lost a little bit but not what I was expecting to lose.
Summer is almost over, I’ve been home with the kids all summer. (One kid is special needs). And I just want summer to be over. It’s almost over, I just feel like I’m struggling with this a bit.
A few weeks ago I had a huge fight with my husband and twice he brought up divorce. We’re from different cultures and I’m just getting tired of feeling like I do everything at home. He never washes a dish, or put his own clothes away. He expects to work a 9-5 and me to do everything else except finances. He handles all the money type stuff.
He’s basically told me if we divorced he would give up custody entirely to me.
In the beginning he was a crap dad. Like baby and toddler years he was pretty much not there emotionally. Changed maybe five diapers in the entire time, didn’t help much at all.
As the kids got older he got better. He helps with my older child . He puts her to bed. He has taken the younger child with special needs maybe 5-6 nights this summer(he put kid to bed. I did pajamas and preparing for bed type stuff).
I don’t think I’m made out to be a single mother with two kids one of them special needs (NO support). I don’t have any family support and I just feel so overwhelmed.

Do any other sahms feel really tired and ready for summer to be over?

I was too tired didn’t notice the burner was on and accidentally exploded a plate.

I just feel exhausted and a bit burnt out