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I was contacted by Evri to say my parcel would be delivered from 4.30-5.30 yesterday. Then I got an updated email to say it would be 2.30-3.30. I waited in the flat all afternoon and then got an email at 7pm to say it had been left in a ‘shed’ with a photo. We live in a block of flats with a main door and communal stairwell. No one rang our doorbell to even attempt delivery.

I worked out from the photo that the ‘shed’ is the (private) front garden of one of our neighbours. I went round last night about 30 minutes after the email and they hadn’t taken the parcel in, and it wasn’t in their front garden. I’m really upset with this because the parcel was expensive £400+ worth of clothes, and we made sure that we were here for its delivery.

I’ve asked the retailer (phase eight) to issue me with a full refund as I don’t want them to send a package with Evri again as they didn’t even bother to deliver the package to us. I attached a picture of evri’s delivery email which shows it was left in a garden.

Do you know what I should do? I’m worried they’re going to side with Evri that it was delivered but it was literally left in a garden that isn’t ours. We didn’t nominate a safe place or anything.

Gutted as this order was my outfit for a christening and now going to have to pay for a new outfit again in store or elsewhere while arguing about this.

We are wanting to send out save the dates for our wedding which is 10 months away soon, as the wedding is during the bank and school holidays. We are getting married during tourist season and it is also the marathon weekend, so we want people to be able to sort their accommodation out early.

My concern is about reception guests needing to travel. I’ve read that save the dates are not traditionally sent out to reception only guests, however all of my cousins are only being invited to the evening, and they live 5 hours away+ so if they would like to come they will need to secure accommodation for two nights.

My mum has said it’s rude to invite them at all because of this. However I would like them to join if they want to and my partners’ cousins who are more local (1-1.5 hrs away) will be invited to the evening. We can’t afford to invite all of our cousins to the whole day. It would bring our whole day guest count from 50 to 74. I’m will not be offended at all if they don’t come as the venue isn’t big enough to also invite kids and most of them have young children.

So I guess I’m looking for a bit of advice.

1. Is it ruder to not invite cousins on my side when my partners’ cousins will be invited to the evening, or is it ruder to invite them to the reception considering the huge travel and expenses costs for them?

2. Is it fine to send ‘save the evening’ cards to reception guests so they can book accommodation in advance, or is this likely to cause confusion if these are usually sent out to whole day guests.

Thanks!

Edit: i should say, wedding etiquette is pretty new to us as we’re the first of our peers to get married. The only weddings I’ve been to have been those with a seemingly unlimited budget, so we don’t really have people to talk to in ‘real life’ that have navigated this. Some others of our friends/family have gotten married but not invited anyone except witnesses, so ours will be the first ‘small wedding’ either of us have been to.