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Hi! My boyfriend 32/M and I 28/F have been together for four years, and we've been living together for a year. We're an international couple, and we currently live in a third country (neither his nor mine).

Over time, I've saved up some money and I'd like to invest it in something, ideally a house or some other property. Obviously, I don't have enough to do it alone… so I asked him if he'd like to do it together.

He said no, that it's not the right time, that we don't know if we'll live in this city forever, etc. And I understand, and it makes sense, but at the same time, we can buy and mortgage a place, and if we want to move, we can just rent it out… I see it as an investment, and whenever I read about real estate, realtors say that if you can buy, you should, because the market will always go up, etc.

What's making me doubt myself now is that I feel like my boyfriend doesn't want to do anything long-term with me. I feel like everything is just about living day to day. I want to plan for the future and, obviously, build a family nest egg.

In the past, when we first started dating, he was going to buy an apartment in his home country, but he didn't. He decided to pay off his student loan and put the rest of the money into retirement funds and things like that. Now he regrets it… and he's always talking to me about the “bad” decisions he made. I told him that there's no point in regretting the past, that now he has peace of mind knowing he doesn't owe on a student loan, and that's it.

I get the feeling he's putting off making decisions with me. What do you think?

Yo tengo dos, las lavo 1 vez a la semana. Y las intercambio entre sí. Voy al gym entre 2 a 3 veces por semana.

Vosotros?

Edit: me refiero a la toalla que se apoya en las máquinas

Hi! I wanted to share something that happened during a recent interview.

I'm not a native English speaker, and I interviewed with a European company. A senior manager (not HR) asked me: "How likely is it that your current company will make a counteroffer?"

The question caught me off guard because I'd never been asked it before. Since I know my current company values my work, I honestly think a counteroffer is likely. An external recruiter had already discussed my salary expectations with me before the interviews, so I assumed compensation wasn't the issue.

I answered something like, "I don't really know... probably high," and then added that the recruiter already knew my salary expectations, so I assumed any future discussion would be about benefits or perks. My point was that they hadn't even made me an offer yet, so it felt premature to talk about a counteroffer.

Afterward, I learned this question is often used to see whether a candidate is motivated mainly by money or by the role itself. That worried me because I'm genuinely interested in the work, and I'm concerned my answer may have been misunderstood due to the language difference.

Another issue was that the recruiter described the role as 100% remote, but during the interview they repeatedly asked whether I'd relocate, commute weekly, or drive to construction sites. I said I could travel more during onboarding and then about once every two weeks afterward, but I made it clear I wasn't interested in regular commuting. The salary I quoted was based on a fully remote role.

Overall, the interview left me with the impression that the role wasn't as remote as advertised and that the job responsibilities weren't clearly defined.

What do you think? Did I handle the counteroffer question well, or should I have answered differently? Would this situation make you cautious about the company?

Hi! I wanted to share something that happened to me.

I recently had an interview in English. I'm not a native English speaker. The company is in Europe. The interviewer (not the recruiter or HR representative, but like a senior manager in the department) asked me:

"How likely are you that your current company will make a counteroffer?" The question was firm, but he did manage a smile at the end.

Honestly, the question threw me off. I'd never been asked that before. At the time, it didn't make much sense because I was like, "I don't know, I can't predict the future" 🤷🏻‍♀️. Obviously, I didn't say that, I just thought it. The truth is, the chances are high because I'm an important part of my current company, and they have trouble finding people, and I know they're happy with me. My project manager has a good opinion of me, so I assume they'll make a counteroffer. Background: I was shown this job opening by an external recruiter. At the time, we clearly discussed the salary range. Then the company ultimately decided to continue the selection process with me and invited me to a second interview.

I was interpreting the question as being related to the compensation package, so I answered something like, "Well... I don't really know, high..." humbly. They remained silent but continued smiling (there were three people in total).

Then I continued, "When the recruiter contacted me, we discussed my salary range. I assume you know that... the rest will be benefits or perks." What I meant was that they invited me to this interview, so I assume my price is within their budget, and also that they hadn't formally made me an offer. No offer, no counter-offer, haha. Anyway, I took the question from a financial perspective, and then Googling it says that this question is a kind of trick question. It's meant to find out if I'm changing jobs for the money or because I'm interested in the work I'd be doing.

The truth is, I am interested in what I'm going to be doing, and now I'm worried that my answer wasn't the best. I hope they'll give me the benefit of the doubt regarding the language issue, since that question (in my native language) is interpreted quite strongly from a financial perspective. And to be honest, I don't want to get into a negotiation of "my current company is offering me more, are you going to offer me more?" It simply doesn't seem professional to me.

The interview was strange because the recruiter had told me it was 100% remote. Then this associate kept hinting that I wouldn't relocate to X city, to which I politely replied no. Then he asked if I could go once a week, to which I responded that during the onboarding period it could be more frequent, but that afterward, during normal months, I could go once every two weeks. Then he asked if I had a car and driver's license to get to the construction site. I told him I don't have my own car. I have a company car, and yes, I do have a driver's license. I'm open to driving.

The interview was strange because the recruiter had told me it was 100% remote. I was somewhat open to the idea of going to the office (I know it can feel lonely working 100% remote), but I also set my limits.
Context: we're in the construction industry. Architecture.

Well, I didn't like it at all. The rate I quoted was for a 100% remote position. Honestly, I don't want to do that kind of commuting (3 hours of travel, plus taxi, plus driving, etc.) in a weekly basis. I want a computer-based job, not a hybrid job (office-construction site). Otherwise, it's the same as what I have now… I know it's not their fault, but the recruiter insisted several times that it was 100% remote. So why do they change the things now? 🤨

What do you think? Did I answer the question correctly? Should I have said something else?

Should I be careful of this company? I get the feeling they don't have a clear or defined job description. It's like they want someone who can do a little bit of everything.

I'll read your comments, thanks.

Hi! I wanted to share something that happened to me.

I recently had an interview in English. I'm not a native English speaker. The company is in Europe. The interviewer (not the recruiter or HR representative, but like a senior manager in the department) asked me:

"How likely are you that your current company will make a counteroffer?" The question was firm, but he did manage a smile at the end.

Honestly, the question threw me off. I'd never been asked that before. At the time, it didn't make much sense because I was like, "I don't know, I can't predict the future" 🤷🏻‍♀️. Obviously, I didn't say that, I just thought it. The truth is, the chances are high because I'm an important part of my current company, and they have trouble finding people, and I know they're happy with me. My project manager has a good opinion of me, so I assume they'll make a counteroffer. Background: I was shown this job opening by an external recruiter. At the time, we clearly discussed the salary range. Then the company ultimately decided to continue the selection process with me and invited me to a second interview.

I was interpreting the question as being related to the compensation package, so I answered something like, "Well... I don't really know, high..." humbly. They remained silent but continued smiling (there were three people in total).

Then I continued, "When the recruiter contacted me, we discussed my salary range. I assume you know that... the rest will be benefits or perks." What I meant was that they invited me to this interview, so I assume my price is within their budget, and also that they hadn't formally made me an offer. No offer, no counter-offer, haha. Anyway, I took the question from a financial perspective, and then Googling it says that this question is a kind of trick question. It's meant to find out if I'm changing jobs for the money or because I'm interested in the work I'd be doing.

The truth is, I am interested in what I'm going to be doing, and now I'm worried that my answer wasn't the best. I hope they'll give me the benefit of the doubt regarding the language issue, since that question (in my native language) is interpreted quite strongly from a financial perspective. And to be honest, I don't want to get into a negotiation of "my current company is offering me more, are you going to offer me more?" It simply doesn't seem professional to me.

The interview was strange because the recruiter had told me it was 100% remote. Then this associate kept hinting that I wouldn't relocate to X city, to which I politely replied no. Then he asked if I could go once a week, to which I responded that during the onboarding period it could be more frequent, but that afterward, during normal months, I could go once every two weeks. Then he asked if I had a car and driver's license to get to the construction site. I told him I don't have my own car. I have a company car, and yes, I do have a driver's license. I'm open to driving.

The interview was strange because the recruiter had told me it was 100% remote. I was somewhat open to the idea of going to the office (I know it can feel lonely working 100% remote), but I also set my limits.
Context: we're in the construction industry. Architecture.

Well, I didn't like it at all. The rate I quoted was for a 100% remote position. Honestly, I don't want to do that kind of commuting (3 hours of travel, plus taxi, plus driving, etc.) in a weekly basis. I want a computer-based job, not a hybrid job (office-construction site). Otherwise, it's the same as what I have now… I know it's not their fault, but the recruiter insisted several times that it was 100% remote. In that time I double check with him cus the commute is long.

What do you think? Did I answer the question correctly? Should I have said something else?

Should I be careful of this company? I get the feeling they don't have a clear or defined job description. It's like they want someone who can do a little bit of everything.

I'll read your comments, thanks.

Hi! I wanted to share something that happened to me.

I recently had an interview in English. I'm not a native English speaker. The company is in Ireland. The interviewer (not the recruiter or HR representative, but an associate, like a senior manager in the department) asked me:

"How likely are you that your current company will make a counteroffer?" The question was firm, but he did manage a smile at the end.

Honestly, the question threw me off. I'd never been asked that before. At the time, it didn't make much sense because I was like, "I don't know, I can't predict the future" 🤷🏻‍♀️. Obviously, I didn't say that, I just thought it. The truth is, the chances are high because I'm an important part of my current company, and they have trouble finding people, and I know they're happy with me. My project manager has a good opinion of me, so I assume they'll make a counteroffer. Background: I was shown this job opening by an external recruiter. At the time, we clearly discussed the salary range. Then the company ultimately decided to continue the selection process with me and invited me to a second interview.

I was interpreting the question as being related to the compensation package, so I answered something like, "Well... I don't really know, high..." humbly. They remained silent but continued smiling (there were three people in total).

Then I continued, "When the recruiter contacted me, we discussed my salary range. I assume you know that... the rest will be benefits or perks." What I meant was that they invited me to this interview, so I assume my price is within their budget, and also that they hadn't formally made me an offer. No offer, no counter-offer, haha. Anyway, I took the question from a financial perspective, and then Googling it says that this question is a kind of trick question. It's meant to find out if I'm changing jobs for the money or because I'm interested in the work I'd be doing.

The truth is, I am interested in what I'm going to be doing, and now I'm worried that my answer wasn't the best. I hope they'll give me the benefit of the doubt regarding the language issue, since that question (in my native language) is interpreted quite strongly from a financial perspective. And to be honest, I don't want to get into a negotiation of "my current company is offering me more, are you going to offer me more?" It simply doesn't seem professional to me.

The interview was strange because the recruiter had told me it was 100% remote. Then this associate kept hinting that I wouldn't relocate to X city, to which I politely replied no. Then he asked if I could go once a week, to which I responded that during the onboarding period it could be more frequent, but that afterward, during normal months, I could go once every two weeks. Then he asked if I had a car and driver's license to get to the construction site. I told him I don't have my own car. I have a company car, and yes, I do have a driver's license. I'm open to driving.

The interview was strange because the recruiter had told me it was 100% remote. I was somewhat open to the idea of going to the office (I know it can feel lonely working 100% remote), but I also set my limits.
Context: we're in the construction industry. Architecture.

Well, I didn't like it at all. The rate I quoted was for a 100% remote position. Honestly, I don't want to do that kind of commuting (3 hours of travel, plus taxi, plus driving, etc.) in a weekly basis. I want a computer-based job, not a hybrid job (office-construction site). Otherwise, it's the same as what I have now… I know it's not their fault, but the recruiter insisted several times that it was 100% remote. So why do they change the things now? 🤨

What do you think? Did I answer the question correctly? Should I have said something else?

Should I be careful of this company? I get the feeling they don't have a clear or defined job description. It's like they want someone who can do a little bit of everything.

I'll read your comments, thanks.

Hi! I wanted to share something that happened to me.

I recently had an interview in English. I'm not a native English speaker. The company is in Europe. The interviewer (not the recruiter or HR representative, but like a senior manager in the department) asked me:

"How likely are you that your current company will make a counteroffer?" The question was firm, but he did manage a smile at the end.

Honestly, the question threw me off. I'd never been asked that before. At the time, it didn't make much sense because I was like, "I don't know, I can't predict the future" 🤷🏻‍♀️. Obviously, I didn't say that, I just thought it. The truth is, the chances are high because I'm an important part of my current company, and they have trouble finding people, and I know they're happy with me. My project manager has a good opinion of me, so I assume they'll make a counteroffer. Background: I was shown this job opening by an external recruiter. At the time, we clearly discussed the salary range. Then the company ultimately decided to continue the selection process with me and invited me to a second interview.

I was interpreting the question as being related to the compensation package, so I answered something like, "Well... I don't really know, high..." humbly. They remained silent but continued smiling (there were three people in total).

Then I continued, "When the recruiter contacted me, we discussed my salary range. I assume you know that... the rest will be benefits or perks." What I meant was that they invited me to this interview, so I assume my price is within their budget, and also that they hadn't formally made me an offer. No offer, no counter-offer, haha. Anyway, I took the question from a financial perspective, and then Googling it says that this question is a kind of trick question. It's meant to find out if I'm changing jobs for the money or because I'm interested in the work I'd be doing.

The truth is, I am interested in what I'm going to be doing, and now I'm worried that my answer wasn't the best. I hope they'll give me the benefit of the doubt regarding the language issue, since that question (in my native language) is interpreted quite strongly from a financial perspective. And to be honest, I don't want to get into a negotiation of "my current company is offering me more, are you going to offer me more?" It simply doesn't seem professional to me.

The interview was strange because the recruiter had told me it was 100% remote. Then this associate kept hinting that I wouldn't relocate to X city, to which I politely replied no. Then he asked if I could go once a week, to which I responded that during the onboarding period it could be more frequent, but that afterward, during normal months, I could go once every two weeks. Then he asked if I had a car and driver's license to get to the construction site. I told him I don't have my own car. I have a company car, and yes, I do have a driver's license. I'm open to driving.

The interview was strange because the recruiter had told me it was 100% remote. I was somewhat open to the idea of going to the office (I know it can feel lonely working 100% remote), but I also set my limits.
Context: we're in the construction industry. Architecture.

Well, I didn't like it at all. The rate I quoted was for a 100% remote position. Honestly, I don't want to do that kind of commuting (3 hours of travel, plus taxi, plus driving, etc.) in a weekly basis. I want a computer-based job, not a hybrid job (office-construction site). Otherwise, it's the same as what I have now… I know it's not their fault, but the recruiter insisted several times that it was 100% remote.

What do you think? Did I answer the question correctly? Should I have said something else?

Should I be careful of this company? I get the feeling they don't have a clear or defined job description. It's like they want someone who can do a little bit of everything.

I'll read your comments, thanks.

Hola!
Vivo en un tercero hacia la calle. En planta baja hay un bar que tiene terraza a la calle.
En si los dueños del bar no parecen ser el problema, no ponen música ni nada.
Es la gente que consume en ese bar… todas las noches hay una “familia” , adultos y niños que se instalan ahí a pasar horas y horas.
Los niños usan la acera como patio de recreo, corren gritan etc y se escucha TODO desde mi piso.
Además de las clásicas peleas: los niños gritan algo a la madre, la madre les devuelve el grito y es como un ping pong de gritos y llantos y quejas.
No se exactamente qué se dicen entre ellos, ya que no hablan español (o si lo hablan pues no les entiendo jaja).
Son las 22:50 y los niños siguen en la calle gritando. Tengo las ventanas cerradas y se sigue escuchando ….
Hace meses que esto sucede, antes veía pasar a la policía pero ya no… Me temo que es época de vacaciones escolares y esto va para peor.
Básicamente que sus hijos estén de vacas y mañana no tengan que madrugar no significa que el resto de adultos no nos levantemos a trabajar mañana. Es que hay gente que no sabe vivir en sociedad ?!?!?!

Por otro lado, llame a la policía y reporte el problema, me pidieron la dirección y que iban a mandar una patrulla, pero nada…

EDIT: no vivo en el centro. Vivo en un barrio. Y pues ese bar es un bar de barrio, pequeño, atendido por extranjeros y pues se están ganando la vida, no tengo algo en particular contra sus dueños.
Tampoco iría o disfrutaría ese bar, la gente que consume allí no es de mi agrado…. Como se imaginarán si ya escuchar los gritos desde mi piso me molesta, por qué iría a un bar para sentarme en la mesa de al lado de la familia gritona ? 😂
Los que me dicen “múdate” pues ni tan fácil, alquilo y es lo que hay… ni que alquilar y mudarse fuese un abrir y cerrar de ojos. Estoy a gusto con el edificio mis vecinos del edificio el barrio etc. Por que me tengo que mudar yo si los irrespetuosos son ellos?

Consejos?

Hola!

Estuve viviendo durante 1,5 años en Madrid cobrando salario mínimo con la ilusión de progresar, pero lo que he conseguido es progresar profesional y salarialmente pero mudándome de ciudad.
Entonces acepté una oferta en Zaragoza, y dije venga ciudad más económica, alquileres más económicos, mejor calidad de vida en general, etc.
Que va, que llevo dos años aquí en Zaragoza y estoy al borde del burnout…. Medicación psiquiátrica etc.
Que me digo a mi mismo (y con ayuda de la psicologa) ánimo a buscar otro trabajo por la zona, que no sea exclusivamente donde estoy ahora (construcción). Pues NO HAY.
Llevo meses buscando, filtrando y no hay nada tío es que es increíble. Estoy dispuesto a aceptar un salario más bajo (quizás con la ilusión de: salario más bajo = menos responsabilidades = menos estrés).
Los pocos que hay están mal pagados (volvería a salario mínimo) y tengo 6 años de experiencia. Puedo aceptar bajarme un poco mi salario actual pero tampoco a ese nivel… no podría pagar mi piso actual etc
Pero aún así no hay. Todas las ofertas en las que mi perfil encaja o que son del rubro (soy arquitecto) están en Madrid.
Y yo digo… en serio??? Me tendré que volver a vivir a Madrid, mudarme , buscar piso de nuevo (caro y pequeño) etc para tratar de conservar mi salud mental???

Muy muy muuuy pocas ofertas de teletrabajo.
Ya no se que hacer

Consejos?

Hi!
I had an interview on Tuesday the 16th with a British recruiter. I’m not a native English speaker, and the position is outside the UK (although I’m currently living there).
I think the interview went well, apart from a few language-related issues. I didn’t actually apply for this job—the recruiter contacted me on LinkedIn. I sent him my CV, and then he reached out to me on WhatsApp.

He was quite persistent about arranging a call with me because I was traveling at the time. He seemed enthusiastic and friendly, and we eventually scheduled the interview via WhatsApp.
We had the first interview as an audio call. Afterwards, he sent me more details by email, and I gave my consent to continue with the process (meaning he could send my CV to the company, and that I agreed with the job description, etc.).

He explained that the recruitment process would be:

1. Interview with the recruiter
2. Interview with the company’s recruiter
3. Interview with the area manager

I’m not completely sure about the exact roles of the people involved in the last two stages (again, partly because of the language barrier), but I’m certain that there are two more interview rounds, each separated by about a week.
He also asked about my notice period. I told him that, by law, it’s 15 days in this country, but that I would prefer to give my current employer a bit more notice if possible.

So, today is Tuesday the 23rd, and it’s been a week since our interview. I haven’t heard back from him yet. Should I follow up? If so, would it be better to do it via WhatsApp or email?

I have a feeling the interview went well, but I know that British culture can involve a lot of politeness and indirect communication. I’m not sure whether he was simply being friendly and respectful, or whether he genuinely liked my profile 😂

I’d love to hear your opinions!
Thanks!

Hi!
I had an interview on Tuesday the 16th with a British recruiter. I’m not a native English speaker, and the position is outside the UK (although I’m currently living there).
I think the interview went well, apart from a few language-related issues. I didn’t actually apply for this job—the recruiter contacted me on LinkedIn. I sent him my CV, and then he reached out to me on WhatsApp.

He was quite persistent about arranging a call with me because I was traveling at the time. He seemed enthusiastic and friendly, and we eventually scheduled the interview via WhatsApp.
We had the first interview as an audio call. Afterwards, he sent me more details by email, and I gave my consent to continue with the process (meaning he could send my CV to the company, and that I agreed with the job description, etc.).

He explained that the recruitment process would be:

1. Interview with the recruiter
2. Interview with the company’s recruiter
3. Interview with the area manager

I’m not completely sure about the exact roles of the people involved in the last two stages (again, partly because of the language barrier), but I’m certain that there are two more interview rounds, each separated by about a week.
He also asked about my notice period. I told him that, by law, it’s 15 days in this country, but that I would prefer to give my current employer a bit more notice if possible.

So, today is Tuesday the 23rd, and it’s been a week since our interview. I haven’t heard back from him yet. Should I follow up? If so, would it be better to do it via WhatsApp or email?

I have a feeling the interview went well, but I know that British culture can involve a lot of politeness and indirect communication. I’m not sure whether he was simply being friendly and respectful, or whether he genuinely liked my profile 😂

I’d love to hear your opinions!
Thanks!

Hi!
I had an interview on Tuesday the 16th with a British recruiter. I’m not a native English speaker, and the position is outside the UK (although I’m currently living there).
I think the interview went well, apart from a few language-related issues. I didn’t actually apply for this job—the recruiter contacted me on LinkedIn. I sent him my CV, and then he reached out to me on WhatsApp.

He was quite persistent about arranging a call with me because I was traveling at the time. He seemed enthusiastic and friendly, and we eventually scheduled the interview via WhatsApp.
We had the first interview as an audio call. Afterwards, he sent me more details by email, and I gave my consent to continue with the process (meaning he could send my CV to the company, and that I agreed with the job description, etc.).

He explained that the recruitment process would be:

1. Interview with the recruiter
2. Interview with the company’s recruiter
3. Interview with the area manager

I’m not completely sure about the exact roles of the people involved in the last two stages (again, partly because of the language barrier), but I’m certain that there are two more interview rounds, each separated by about a week.
He also asked about my notice period. I told him that, by law, it’s 15 days in this country, but that I would prefer to give my current employer a bit more notice if possible.

So, today is Tuesday the 23rd, and it’s been a week since our interview. I haven’t heard back from him yet. Should I follow up? If so, would it be better to do it via WhatsApp or email?

I have a feeling the interview went well, but I know that British culture can involve a lot of politeness and indirect communication. I’m not sure whether he was simply being friendly and respectful, or whether he genuinely liked my profile 😂

I’d love to hear your opinions!
Thanks!

Hi! I have no idea how to improvise and be more natural without sounding rude or like a robot.

For example, the other day my neighbor rang my doorbell to ask if a package of hers had been delivered to me by mistake. I told her no (because that was the truth), and that was pretty much it. I didn’t know what else to add. She kept the conversation going a little longer, gave me some more details, and then left (our apartment doors are directly opposite each other in the building).

That same day I was leaving for a trip and had some fresh vegetables at home that I didn’t want to throw away. So I thought I’d offer them to her instead. I got a bag ready and even rehearsed what I was going to say: “Hey, I’m going to be away for a few days, and I have these vegetables left over. It seems like a shame to throw them away. Would you like them?” Okay, I was prepared.

I rang her doorbell, she opened the door, and immediately started talking about the package. She said something like, “Oh, don’t worry, I found it. The neighbor in 2A had it.” And I completely froze (insert Britney Spears meme here 😂).

I ended up responding in a really awkward way: “Oh, that’s not actually why I came over. I’m going to be away from home...” She looked at me a bit strangely for the first few seconds.

And of course, it came across badly. It probably looked like I was ignoring what she had just said and didn’t care at all. But it wasn’t that I didn’t care—it just caught me off guard. I wasn’t mentally prepared for that turn in the conversation 😂.

She then responded about the vegetables, and while I was still trying to repair my image, I brought up the package again. I explained what the mail carrier usually does with my packages, told her to send me a WhatsApp message if she ever needed anything, and said we’d keep in touch. Then we said goodbye.

Honestly, I feel bad about it because I think I came across as unfriendly, and I don’t see myself that way. But I don’t know how to improve or what to say when people catch me off guard.

Any tips for situations like this? Maybe some filler phrases I can use?

Thanks for reading!

Hola!
Estoy buscando un dermatólogo (privado) que haga control de lunares (dermatoscopia).

Me ha pasado que he ido a algunos y cuando estoy en la consulta y digo que vengo a chequearme los lunares, dicen que no, que no es importante y que no me haga mal rollo, que use crema solar etc.

Simplemente quiero pagar para obtener ese examen.

Recomendaciones?

Gracias

Hola! Contexto: mi empresa me contrato hace un año aproximadamente para hacer una posición X por un salario X.
Desde que empecé me di cuenta que el puesto era Y, no era equivalente a lo que me habían contratado, es decir, el puesto exigía y exige más responsabilidades y actividades. Durante todos estos meses he estado desarrollando este segundo puesto a mi parecer, de manera muy exitosa (confirmado por mi propio manager).

Estoy al borde del burnout (estoy con medicación psiquiátrica), esto mi empresa obviamente no lo sabe y no quiero que lo sepan. Como estoy tan cansado le pedí a mi jefe de mi área que me definiera exactamente cuáles son mis actividades y cuál es el título de mi puesto (X o Y?). No me ha contestado el email (pillo ja no deja nada por escrito) y me dio una charla oral y un par de palmaditas.

Obviamente él se dio cuenta que estoy exigiendo definiciones y un aumento de salario (aunque yo también quiero algo más flexible o híbrido).

Han pasado las semanas y ni gerencia ni recursos humanos me han contactado. Y en el mientras tanto yo les digo trabajando para un puesto más cualificado y soy súper eficiente (haciendo el trabajo de dos o más personas) pero eso no está reflejado en €€.

En fin, que no quiero hacer más eso. Quiero hacer para lo que me contrataron originalmente y punto, pero claro ahora todos esperan más de mi. Mis compañeros vienen hacia a mi con preguntas y todas cosas así porque a los ojos de ellos yo soy un “manager” también (aunque me paguen como un junior).

Que tengo que hacer ahora mismo? Me siento atrapado y veo un vacío legal. Tengo que mandar otro email diciendo que voy a ejercer solo tareas de X y que si esperan tareas de Y (que he demostrado que puedo ejercer) que espero la propuesta formal de ascenso? O algo así?

Gracias por leer

Hola! Cuestión que mi empresa me contrató hace un año y medio por una posición X y un salario X.
Desde que empecé me di cuenta que lo las actividades no coincidían con lo que me habían dicho en la entrevista , más bien nada que ver. Son actividades de mayor responsabilidad, toma de decisiones, liderar equipo, etc. Sinceramente hubiese renunciado pero me mudé de ciudad por este trabajo (grave error) y ahora estoy “encerrado” porque no hay muchas ofertas.

Total, que después de aprender esas actividades y ser exitoso en ellas y ser súper productivo etc me planté a mi PM y le dije como que era todo esto, que quería una lista de las tareas las prioridades y las expectativas de la empresa sobre mi (en buenos términos ). Se lo tomo bien y me dijo que me daría su apoyo ante los directivos.

Creo que la empresa va a ceder ante un aumento de dinero. Aunque a mí me gustaría más dinero + flexibilidad (o hibridez etc). Como negociarían esto?

También tengo curiosidad: si aceptan subirme el salario tengo que firmar algo? Se agrega un anexo al contrato original? La promoción es algo que se legaliza o simplemente en la siguiente nómina te llega más dinero y ya ?

Gracias por la ayuda

Hola! Cuestión que mi empresa me contrató hace un año y medio por una posición X y un salario X.
Desde que empecé me di cuenta que lo las actividades no coincidían con lo que me habían dicho en la entrevista , más bien nada que ver. Son actividades de mayor responsabilidad, toma de decisiones, liderar equipo, etc. Sinceramente hubiese renunciado pero me mudé de ciudad por este trabajo (grave error) y ahora estoy “encerrado” porque no hay muchas ofertas.

Total, que después de aprender esas actividades y ser exitoso en ellas y ser súper productivo etc me planté a mi PM y le dije como que era todo esto, que quería una lista de las tareas las prioridades y las expectativas de la empresa sobre mi (en buenos términos ). Se lo tomo bien y me dijo que me daría su apoyo ante los directivos.

Creo que la empresa va a ceder ante un aumento de dinero. Aunque a mí me gustaría más dinero + flexibilidad (o hibridez etc). Como negociarían esto?

También tengo curiosidad: si aceptan subirme el salario tengo que firmar algo? Se agrega un anexo al contrato original? La promoción es algo que se legaliza o simplemente en la siguiente nómina te llega más dinero y ya ?

Gracias por la ayuda