u/Longjumping-Day-1859

I really do not want to seem like a dick let me just lay that down. Let me explain the scenario:

tIn a nutshell, I posted a viral tiktok video (1.5 million views), someone saw and thought I looked cute, messaged me, we started talking and we werent too far away from each other so we hung out, (they lied to me about their age and said they were 15 turning 16 in september (they look a lot older than they are)) , i found out their age and decided to call it friends, and tried to move on with my life. Problem is, they have BPD, RSD, ADHD, 'light' Autism, and a whole bunch of other things, and they are REALLY into me. Even though multiple times I have set boundaries, I still am being flirted with (which makes me very uncomfortable and ive said that), and the relationship is feeling almost like a chore rather than something that is benificial for the both of us. Like the other day i was watching a studio ghubli movie, and i checked my phone after to find 107 MESSAGES from that person, a lot of them long ass paragraphs, freaking out if i was angry at them or something. It just feels like i cant do anything without repeatedly reassuring them I'm not angry, and just living my life. It is extremely draining for me, and while I understand it is not in their control, I still am just really not able to deal with all this for the obvious, and a lot of things in my personal life.

I can't exactly bl0ck and forget, because that would be unethical, and we have a mutual (sort of friend for me) friend that i see weekly because we both attend the same weekly activity. And I really do not know how to go about a conversation wihout making them feel horrible, blaming themselves and spiralling into a frenzie, or maybe even hurting themselve or just doing something "bad". I really do need help. Aside from their medical conditions, I just feel we aren't a match in genral but they feel very different.

This is a repost because my origninal post very much misrepresented what I was trying to say and 100% my fault. I apoligise.

What I meant to say was this: I have heard aboriginal relatives and friends including my father use the word all the time, with varying context, intent, and "passing" from each individual. In all honesty I have said it in the past for I was under the impression that it was socially acceptable to use. I have heard mixed opinions and reasoning though on the usage of said word, so I came here for a more direct opinion.

For the record, this is not coming out of a "want" to say the word; I am a male and attracted to the same gender as myself, and even though I "can say" that paticular slur associated with that identity, I still steer away from the usage of it. The question is purely based on educating myself, and not out of a desire to use it as I please.

I am a 'passing' indigenous australian man, and to be completely honest I have used the word in the past, only sparingly in casual conversation, not in a derogitory manner though. I raise this question because I have heard very mixed opinions on the usage of the word by indigenous communities, and then by 'non - passing' indigenous australians so I raise the question: What circumstances / prerequisites are needed if any for an indigenous person to use the N word?

(TLDR at bottom)

Me (16m) and this guy (17m) were in a relationship for roughly 4 months but had to call it off for the greater good cuz he moved away and he thought it would be better to just stay friends. Until recenetly, we still played games, called, texted and did stuff together and had such a good time together (like 2 weeks ago we called and played stuff for 13 HOURS over 2 days) but very suddenly hes just been acting distant and now ghosted me, and has been for the past 6 days after i attempted to have a conversation with him about our boundaries, and if i was doing anything wrong or he wanted to chat, because prior as i said before he was acting a bit distant and ignoring me.

After i sent a chunky text, he has left me on opened (cant check read status on dc but i know hes seen it) and he has been active on his xbox, roblox, tiktok etc and has starte reposting those "yearing" tiktoks that that teen couples often repost about one another, and among other things had led me to the conclusion that he is with (or at least talking to) someone, which for the record i am so so so happy for him and i truly wish him the best, i just wish he would have given me some form of closure before he started to ignore me, for i doubt he will message me again at least for a while. The problem is, I never stopped viewing him in a deep romantic light, and i quite literally cannot bring myself to dislike him in any way shape or form, only his recent actions.

I'll spare everyone here the bore of me going over his smile, and how funny, sweet, kind, honest, absolutely GORGOUS etc he is and just get to the point. Being all hung up on him has had a negative impact on my mental health and im not my best self; hell there is not a waking hour all week that I've had without thinking of him. Does anyone here have any tips or coping strategies to help me move past him?

TL;DR: I (16M) dated a guy (17M) for 4 months, but we broke up because he moved away. We stayed close friends and talked regularly until he suddenly became distant and has now ghosted me for 6 days, despite being active online. I think he may be talking to someone else, which I'm happy about, but I'm hurt by the lack of closure. I still have strong feelings for him, can't stop thinking about him, and it's starting to affect my mental health. Any advice on how to move on from someone you still love?

(tldr at the bottom)

Me (16m) and this guy (17m) were in a relationship for roughly 4 months but had to call it off for the greater good cuz he moved away and he thought it would be better to just stay friends. Until recenetly, we still played games, called, texted and did stuff together and had such a good time together (like 2 weeks ago we called and played stuff for 13 HOURS over 2 days) but very suddenly hes just been acting distant and now ghosted me, and has been for the past 6 days after i attempted to have a conversation with him about our boundaries, and if i was doing anything wrong or he wanted to chat, because prior as i said before he was acting a bit distant and ignoring me.

after i sent a chunky text, he has left me on opened (cant check read status on dc but i know hes seen it) and he has been active on his xbox, roblox, tiktok etc and has starte reposting those "yearing" tiktoks that that teen couples often repost about one another, and among other things had led me to the conclusion that he is with (or at least talking to) someone, which for the record i am so so so happy for him and i truly wish him the best, i just wish he would have given me some form of closure before he started to ignore me, for i doubt he will message me again at least for a while.

The problem is, I never stopped viewing him in a deep romantic light, and i quite literally cannot bring myself to dislike him in any way shape or form, only his recent actions. I'll spare everyone here the bore of me going over his smile, and how funny, sweet, kind, honest, absolutely GORGOUS etc he is and just get to the point. Being all hung up on him has had a negative impact on my mental health and im not my best self; hell there is not a waking hour all week that I've had without thinking of him. Does anyone here have any tips or coping strategies to help me move past him?

TL;DR: I (16M) dated a guy (17M) for 4 months, but we broke up because he moved away. We stayed close friends and talked regularly until he suddenly became distant and has now ghosted me for 6 days, despite being active online. I think he may be talking to someone else, which I'm happy about, but I'm hurt by the lack of closure. I still have strong feelings for him, can't stop thinking about him, and it's starting to affect my mental health. Any advice on how to move on from someone you still love?

For context, me (Male btw) and him are both minors (old enough tho to be on reddit ofc) and we met quite a few months ago online in a discord server. We INSTANTLY clicked, had alot in common, and were playing games, calling, texting etc for hours on end and recently he actually came down to where I live (due to family / buisiness reasons, he lives in another state for 2 months then goes to Indonesia for 2 months and repeats the cycle). So, we agreed to hang out and do a couple things together and also stage an irl meeting at where we were hanging out (ice skating rink cuz he does it semi - pro) and yeah everything went extremely well we got along even better irl and we lowk made out (his first kiss in general and my first kiss with a guy) and spent the whole movie hugging and stuff it was really sweet🥹...

AND THEN

After that on the last day of us hanging out I had to go so i asked him if he wanted to make it official or wtv and he said he felt put on the spot which was fine cuz i know hes socially awkard so i said just text me when ur back to ur hotel which he did and while i cant show the screenshots ofc but basically said that he realy valued me and loved me so so so so so so so (actual amount of so's btw) so much as a friend and is really keen on still doing stuff together, but being more than that would be really hard cuz its long distance, and he has quite strict parents that go through his phone , and on top of living a whiles' away he also hasn't come out to his parents and he doesnt think they'd be supportive of him going to even see a girl in the next state over, much less a guy. He's a really sweet and genuine guy and we still pretty hang out just as much prior to the meetup playing games and talking and i still see him reposting stuff that is about me on his tiktok and I still have really strong feelings toward him, I don't know exactly how he feels but its at least something. This is really hard for me since its really rare i get as romantically attracted to someone, much less a guy (im bi and generally prefer girls) and also since we got to spend so little time together (did the math and it was like 13 hours over 2 days) so it feels just so cut short because thats hardly any time in the grand scheme of things. Im still super greatful for the time, but it just feels cruel because we got to have a tiny taste of what could have been, which was suddenly cut off. I mean he does come from alot of money so when he is an adult in a few years he could probably easily come to my state if he wanted to but for now, what is my next move? How do I get over him, while preserving a good friendship and potentially meeting up again (he might be coming back down in 6-8 months)?? im hopeless here.

TL;DR - We are still interested in each other (me very interested idk how much for him) but decided to keep it as friends because of the long distance (exactly what we were like before we hung out irl and stuff minus the flirting) and we wont be seeing each other irl for at least a while. how do i manage to preserve this relationsip until a point where we can be more than friends, or just get over it in general?

For context, me (Male btw) and him are both minors (old enough tho to be on reddit ofc) and we met quite a few months ago online in a discord server. We INSTANTLY clicked, had alot in common, and were playing games, calling, texting etc for hours on end and recently he actually came down to where I live (due to family / buisiness reasons, he lives in another state for 2 months then goes to Indonesia for 2 months and repeats the cycle). So, we agreed to hang out and do a couple things together and also stage an irl meeting at where we were hanging out (ice skating rink cuz he does it semi - pro) and yeah everything went extremely well we got along even better irl and we lowk made out (his first kiss in general and my first kiss with a guy) and spent the whole movie hugging and stuff it was really sweet🥹...

AND THEN

After that on the last day of us hanging out I had to go so i asked him if he wanted to make it official or wtv and he said he felt put on the spot which was fine cuz i know hes socially awkard so i said just text me when ur back to ur hotel which he did and while i cant show the screenshots ofc but basically said that he realy valued me and loved me so so so so so so so (actual amount of so's btw) so much as a friend and is really keen on still doing stuff together, but being more than that would be really hard cuz its long distance, and he has quite strict parents that go through his phone , and on top of living a whiles' away he also hasn't come out to his parents and he doesnt think they'd be supportive of him going to even see a girl in the next state over, much less a guy. He's a really sweet and genuine guy and we still pretty hang out just as much prior to the meetup playing games and talking and i still see him reposting stuff that is about me on his tiktok and I still have really strong feelings toward him, I don't know exactly how he feels but its at least something. This is really hard for me since its really rare i get as romantically attracted to someone, much less a guy (im bi and generally prefer girls) and also since we got to spend so little time together (did the math and it was like 13 hours over 2 days) so it feels just so cut short because thats hardly any time in the grand scheme of things. Im still super greatful for the time, but it just feels cruel because we got to have a tiny taste of what could have been, which was suddenly cut off. I mean he does come from alot of money so when he is an adult in a few years he could probably easily come to my state if he wanted to but for now, what is my next move? How do I get over him, while preserving a good friendship and potentially meeting up again (he might be coming back down in 6-8 months)?? im hopeless here.