u/Lucybeanharbi

I'm looking for some advice from people who have quit kratom or supported someone through it.
My husband quit kratom in early May, and while I'm incredibly proud of him, the last couple of months have been an emotional roller coaster. I'm wondering if what I'm seeing could be PAWS or if anyone else has experienced something similar.

He has become hyper-focused on "bettering himself," but he never seems content. He's extremely into the gym now, always wants to be working, and constantly feels like he needs to be doing more. On the surface, those things sound positive, but it almost feels excessive. It's like he's always chasing the next improvement and can't just be present or satisfied.

At the same time, he's started drinking more now that he's no longer using kratom. It seems like alcohol has become the replacement, and honestly, it doesn't seem to serve him well. I don't know if that's common in recovery, but it definitely seems to make his mood and emotional ups and downs worse.

What has been hardest for me is that it feels like our marriage has taken a back seat. He puts so much energy into self-improvement, fitness, work, and now drinking socially, but very little into us. Some days he seems unhappy with everything—what we do, what we eat, what we talk about. Nothing seems good enough, and it's becoming emotionally exhausting.

I'm not trying to criticize him or take away from how proud I am that he quit. I genuinely want to understand whether this could be part of the healing process. Has anyone experienced this themselves or seen it in a spouse or partner? If so, did it get better with time? Did anyone notice themselves becoming hyper-focused on self-improvement or replacing kratom with other habits like alcohol? What helped?

*******Update:
I think $325 initial clean and $220 to follow up monthly is more reasonable. I’m also new at this. It’s only been a year so I’m still trying to build my clientele. Thank you all for the input

I’m new-ish to running my cleaning business and I want to make sure I’m pricing this correctly.
I have a potential client (family friend) in Virginia for with a 2,096 sq ft home with:
3 bedrooms
2.5 bathrooms
Living room, dining area, kitchen, bonus/book room

One dog in the home

About 35 minute drive each way

I provide all cleaning supplies

This would be a monthly client.

First Clean:
This will be a more detailed clean as it’s the first (about 5–6 hours).

It includes:
Dusting throughout home
Bathrooms fully cleaned
Kitchen surfaces cleaned
Inside microwave
Vacuuming + mopping all floors
General tidying
FULL baseboard cleaning (first visit only)

No oven or fridge cleaning included.
I quoted $265 for the first clean.

Ongoing monthly clean:
After that, it would be a standard maintenance clean (no baseboards), priced at:
$215/month

My question:
Does this sound fair/underpriced/overpriced for my area and workload? I want to make sure I’m not undercharging myself but also staying reasonable for a family friend.
Any feedback from experienced cleaners would be really appreciated!

I do housekeeping for a client and I always complete the job the same day. I get there around 10:00 AM and finish by about 1:30 PM. However, I’ve noticed that payment is consistently sent the following morning instead of immediately after completion.

All of my other clients pay same day (usually right after the job is done), so this is the only one that’s different. While it’s only about a 12–24 hour delay, it can sometimes turn into longer gaps for me depending on timing, and it affects my cash flow a bit.

I’m trying to decide if I should:

Ask them to switch to same-day payment

Just accept the next-day pattern since it’s consistent

Or set a clearer boundary going forward

I get that they do end up paying, it’s just always the next morning, and I’m not sure if it’s reasonable to push for same-day payment or just let it be??