u/Maecabre_

There’s no way man will just casually drop “yeaaaah used to smell my dad’s feet as a kid” randomly. For my sanity, he knows of the script, and all of his stories are lies so Hunter can be shocked.

I was out with friends and a woman whom I don’t know, but we have a mutual friend, was sitting next to me. One of my other friends (who is married to an enby person I may add) was having a conversation with me (bisexual trans femme) about who would be the top in our friends relationship.

This is an ongoing joke as while both friends are bi, they’re purely friends. Someone else at the table got up and left. The woman next to me looked at me and my friend and told us “you have to apologize for speaking about tops and bottoms, you made (insert man here) upset. Because he lives that and you two straight guys don’t know anything about it”

Keep in mind I do not know this woman, I’m not a man, neither of us are straight, and I’ve been sucking cock for the past decade. And when we decided to apologize for the sake of not rocking the boat, the man in question cut us off and told us to drop it.

Am I crazy or did we just get told by cis people that we’re not gay enough to make gay jokes about our gay friends?

TLDR; got misgendered and told I wasn’t allowed to talk about tops and bottoms bc I was “a straight man”

Don’t get me wrong, I have friends, I like to go out socializing etc. But lots of times I feel like something I say isn’t perceived right. Or if I’m out dancing or even exercising, the way I move feels awkward and uncoordinated.

I feel like every interaction is a checklist. A quick time event that I have to ace perfectly in order to be around people. It makes me feel unable to connect both romantically or platonically. Even with people I’ve known my whole life :(

At the risk of sounding like a “I’m 14 and this is deep” post. I just feel like I can’t connect with people or be understood by them. Just a rant. Felt like people here of all places would get it.